I have been married for 10 yrs and have a 9 yrs old son. 8 yrs we have been trying to get pregnant and NOTHING! I went to go get checked and they told me I was fine. Every month I pray that I'm pregnant but all I get is disappiontment. I hurt so bad. I feel as though god is punishing me. I'm a good person, never cheated on my man and I'm a great mother...why is it that he can't bless me with another child? What is it that I did wrong? I ask myself these questions every day and the more I ask myself that the more I hurt. I have a hard time talking to my husbnad about the way I feel...is that wrong? I feel like I'm a disappiontment to my husband cause I can't give him another child. I don't know what to do anymore.
2007-02-27 06:52:41 · 7 answers · asked by latinabeauty29 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
There is NOTHING you did that is causing you not to get pregnant! God is not punishing you. Don't be so hard on yourself. These hurt and anxious feelings you have may be hurting you and your ability to conceive. Let go of the fact that it's not happening and focus on the blessings that you do have in your life. Your husband and son need you to focus on them right now. Don't let another 8 years pass with you feeling this way. It looks like it's robbing you of the joy you could be experiencing right now with your family. Let it go, stop worrying, and stop beating yourself up. Focus on what is good in your life and enjoy what you love right now and do things that you enjoy.
It took me 7 years to conceive and once I let go and gave it to God and started to accept the fact that I may not have a child, I finally got pregnant. I stopped counting my cycle and and trying so hard.
Let it go and start saying positive things to yourself... who knows, all of those positive feelings may open the door to a new life. Pray and trust that the timing may not be right either. God knows the desire of your heart, don't give up, just put it in His hands.
Trust in Him.
2007-02-27 07:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by mamalori 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way you do, but im 24 with a five year old, and i had him young. it seems when we really dont try to get pregnant it happens like me, in high school fooling around not thinking of the consequences and BAM! i was pregnant, not even thinking about it. Now im older, and should be very fertile, and now the doctor tells me she doesnt think im ovulating. I felt crushed, less like a woman, etc... im like what the hell? I had my son just fine, and my periods are regular as anything, so im like whats wrong now? So keep your head up and lots of prayers if you are a praying person, Good luck and god bless.
2007-02-27 07:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by stilltryin82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt and uncle went through the same thing... had a little girl and tried for years and years for another. Doctor told both of them they were fine... no problems with either... so after 12 years of trying to have another baby they finally gave up and didn't give it another thought... then, guess what? After they decided to stop trying my aunt found out she was pregnant just a few of months later and I now have another little cousin that just turned 2. She and her sister have a 13 year difference between their ages... it's amazing sometimes... don't worry... God will answer your prayers soon enough... I promise
2007-02-27 07:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by Love Me or Hate Me... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel the way you feel sweetheart. Be glad that God has blessed you with the child that you have. He knows when it will be time for you to birth again. It is not punishment, He just knows when it is time. So keep your head up and thank Him for the blessing that He has already given you. Don't worry I am sure you will birth again. God Bless! and Good Luck!
2007-02-27 06:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by 2hot4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear first thank God everyday that u have 8 years son, God bless him, u know allot of couples don't have even one baby, i know couples they are married for 30 years and they don't have baby, and they can't adopted because of there money.. anyway always feel that u are better than other dear....
always thank God, don't say why God punish me God never punish any person, but i am sure when u ready he will give u... don't worry God will never leave u alone ...
dear always believe in yourself and God, and your husband, don't be stress ... and when u want something u will have something else so search for something else to find the something...
don't think so much in it, think in other way, and u will surprise that u will have it without thinking... it's happening in daily life... good luck dear just believe in yourself and don't think so much i wish that i help u as i can Good luck again
2007-02-27 07:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for what you are going through my friend was going through it to she is now 6 months prego she has fought with cancer and won all i can say is its alot of stress to think of why some people get them and not want them and you cant i wish you the best of luck maybe go to counseling with you husband he problem hurts just as bad as you do good luck its not cuz you are a bad person please go ask for help
2007-02-27 07:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your husband should get checked
2007-02-27 06:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋