She says that she is concerned about it because she enjoyed sex before menopause. Anything you ladies can recommend?
2007-02-27 06:20:27 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I recommend a healthy diet, exercising, and vitamins. For example, lots of cut up juicy fruit everyday, home made smoothies with fruit yogurt, a delicious steak once a week, plenty of fish with steam vegetables, and chicken grilled never fried. This is what not to DRINK or EAT. No caffeine that means, no coke or Pepsi, no coffee, no tea with caffeine, no white rice, no potatoes, no tomatoes, no white bread, try not to have too much pasta, and stay away from anything with sugar. What you should do is go to the bookstore and read about how to handle menopause there is a lot of information out there.
2007-02-27 06:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 57 and enjoy sex as much as before. Tell her menopause is a natural thing and that she shouldn't put into her head all is over for her. Women undergo many changes in their life time, thre first periods, pregnancies, menopause and they have to go through these steps as naturally as possible for these are natural things. Stop overthinking and listening to rubbish some people say . Keep enjoying life !
2007-02-27 06:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Bo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to speak to a qualified doctor to discuss her options (which I understand are quite a few). There are also "natural" remedies which can be found at health food stores. But I would definitely suggest a good medical doctor evaluation before she decides which treatment she'd like to pursue, and she can always try one and if it doesn't work, try another. People are all different and different things work for different people. I believe that the initial stage is the worse and then it improves. Also, have patience and enjoy some cuddling (a good back massage and a good lubricant could help things along also). Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-27 06:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John, try a little ambience and surprises. Set the tone, she may come around. Call her from work and tell her not to cook. Stop at your favorite chinese and pick up dinner....walk in the door with a bouquet of flowers (something bright and full of color-a spring bouquet!) Ask her about her day, pop in a dvd of to watch with her....let the phone ring if someone calls. Let her know tonight is all about her. If she doesn't warm up to you this evening, you've made an effort and she will be charmed. Suggest she contact her gynecologist to discuss the problem. Go to the doctor with her (she needs to know you are with her). Good luck, hope it works out for you both!
2007-02-27 06:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bless you for the concern. I am 54. I thought it was because of chemo but it wasn't. Get her to a OB-GYN or even her primary physician. There are medications and topical products that restore the feeling in the clitoris. If you don't have that you don't have anything. I have not done anything yet because my hubby is having a knee replacement and I don't want to vibrate off the hospital chair. Good Luck, don't be embarrassed-do it!!! PS to all out there who thinks they can answer without the answer don't.
2007-02-27 06:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my mom; she says that it would be good to do other things with her, like go out, picnics, coffee, stuff like that....ladies who are going through menopause don't always feel good, and their bodies are changing, so sometimes sex isn't a good option at the time. After it's over, according to my mom, it gets better again, and the plus side is, you don't have to worry about birth control or getting your period.
2007-02-27 06:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Allypooh*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 52 and it did change but for the better, I no longer have that BABY worry, I can be freeer and much more relaxed and I am now ready for things I would not have done earlier. I took nothing went through it naturally with a BIG FAN for those night sweats
have her talk to a Dr
2007-02-27 06:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should go to the doctor and check that out,I've heard of some woman with the same problem and men too.Nobody should feel ashamed,it's health problems and it can be solved.There are also sex toys,positions and should try going somewhere else (like a motel)you know,the same thing is boring, but of course,check with the doctor first,he'll run some tests,and make sure everything is alright.But she'll need your help and Patience,so....don't leave her alone,she'll get frustrated,that will be worst.well then.... Good luck to both of you.
2007-02-27 07:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by genie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going through hormonal changes in her body. It's not that she doesn't want sex but due to the hormones or lack there of it may literally hurt. She needs to see her doctor and maybe get on some hormone therapy until her body adjusts to the changes she going through.
And to be a Little blunt you may want to try using something like KY it may make sex an enjoyable experience again.
2007-02-27 06:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are on your Own with that one Buddy. You know your wife well enough to talk to her about it and come up with an understanding or some marriage counseling! If you had those heat flashes for just one single day, you would take the time to find out what she needs now from her husband!! @8-)
2007-02-27 06:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋