My boyfriend and I split the cost of groceries?

Question

He makes much more then I do and I spend a lot of time trying to save money on the bills. I routinely save 35-45 %, I think that this should come off of my share. I look for the specials, cut the coupons, do the shopping and put the groceries away myself. He thinks we should split it 50/50. P.S. I also had a gastric bypass and eat FAR less then he does! And do most of the cooking. Do you all think that this is fair?

P.S.S. I'm not fat 135 lbs, neither is he. He's just a guy, they normally eat much more then women anyway. Also not naive..he's actually my EX and I get him to pay half of MY mortgage!!!!

Answer 1

The way you divide your expenses is not 50/50, but equal portion
let me give you an example:

Boyfriend = $1000/mo
You = $500/mo
Combined house income = $1500

so....

1000/1500 = 66% boyfriend pays
500/1500 = 33% you pay

Total your bills including estimate per week on groceries, say $700/mo

you pay up to ($700 x .33) $231 of the bills
he pays up to ($700 x .66) $462 of the bills

Once you break it down, all you do is say you pay these bills, and I pay these bills that total up to your share.

I have a excel spread sheet that I use for my own house to split the bills equally between me and my hubby. E-mail me if you want me to send you a spread sheet for yourself

Answer 2

Money is an unbelievably touchy subject with couples, especially with those who are just starting out and developing some mutual long-lasting love and intimacy.

If you think you're being unequally adjusted to your mutual costs, communicate with your boyfriend about your expenses. Decide to split the bill in different ways. Or tabulate an exact average on money spent and ask him if he could pitch in a little more and have you save a little cash.

Now, I know that I am being a little man-minded about this following statement, but if he is not willing to pay for the cost of what you eat, what on Earth kind of relationship are we talking about? Food is food. And if there is something my mother taught me is that you can put a limit on ANYTHING you want that is available to buy, you can set the budget and state an exact total sum to spend - no more, no less....

But food is NOT something to penny-pinch about. Food is food, and it is exactly what we all work for in the end.

At least that's how I work. Sorry for my "macho" talk right now.

Answer 3

Are you living together as a couple (lovers) or roommates?

Either way, he should buck up and be a man. I sure hope he carries the groceries in the house for you.

If 50/50 is how he wants to live he should do his own shopping,
laundry, cooking and cleaning.

When he wants sex, if you want it too that's fine, if not, make him pay for it! He'll have a new outlook on life..

Answer 4

Are you serious with this question? If he's paying half your mortgage what the heck are you complaining about? You have a win win situation. On the second half of your question you change it to read he is your former boyfriend. Either you are lying or a tight wad.

Answer 5

I truly feel that this selfishness on his part could be a sign of some serious issues. It sounds as tho he has a problem with,as they say in pre-school, "sharing". He needs to think seriously about whether he might be happier on his own so that he can gather all his money and possessions around himself. You sound like a generous, bright person who does what she can to improve her life...don't allow an individual like him to drag you down.

Answer 6

i think you should break up with him he sounds a like a cold hearted piece of poopy. be a woman and take pride in the food you eat. i know your not fat YET but save some money and buy your own food. what are you saying he is fat or somthing . you should feal sorry fo yourself you niave. selfish girl .

Answer 7

No, perhaps you should both pay for the food you actually eat and that should even it out.

Answer 8

either get over it or talk with him about it

Answer 9

M A R R Y M E !