I used to text my wife every day telling her how much I missed her and such. She would also call me whenever she would get a minute during her day to say hi. She loved hearing from me. She started a new job about 6 months ago and all of a sudden she says now that she’s so busy that she doesn’t have time to call or just text me during the day to say hi. I find that hard to believe that if your husband texted you to say “hey I love you have a good day” that you wouldn’t find a second during the day to just text back something like “miss you to” or “have a good day”. Seems rude to me and an excuse because let’s face it, people make time for others that are important. I’m almost tempted to not make her feel special during the day and see if she likes not hearing from me. She used to like it and now she’s “too busy”. I’m starting to wonder if something is going on at her new job….possibly someone else or that she’s just lost interest. I try to keep things romantic but I’m getting sick of contacting her only to get “I’m just too busy during the day to contact you”. Bull. Nobody is that busy. Ladies what should a man do who is trying to keep his wife feeling special without little in return? Most women would love to hear from their husbands every day. She seems very unappreciative or something.
2007-02-27 06:01:23 · 14 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound very controlling and are masking insecurity by keeping constant contact. Maybe she's busy...maybe you are getting on her nerves...maybe she resents that her man can't pay all the bills himself...maybe if you let go a little she could actually breathe.
2007-02-27 06:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up! You sound terribly insecure. Of course, one can always find a minute or two to text someone back - but you have to understand that when you're busy and are under pressure, even the small things become distractions. In fact, the smallest things can be the biggest distractions of all, not just because of the actual time involved to respond to them, but also because it is one more thing to think about, one more item to keep track of. Sometimes it gets to be too much!
I sometimes chat with my husband on YIM on and off throughout the workday; but often I get very busy, and I turn the YIM off - not because I don't want to hear from him, but because every little thing becomes a distraction. When I have three clients calling me at once wanting me to get six things done a.s.a.p., this isn't the time for chatting. It would never occur to my husband to flip out about this.
Texting someone is not the one and only way to express your love; there are many other, more important, ways in which to connect with your partner. I honestly don't think anything is "going on" at her work that you should be concerned about. I think, she was probably under great pressure at her new job, and you added to the pressure by being needy and insecure - now perhaps she resents you for smothering her, and is possibly trying to pull away a bit. Back off; you don't have to act clingy to show someone your love.
2007-02-27 06:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I to have a husband who likes to call - more if he is off for the day. I AM busy, I CANNOT take time out of my day to speak with him. This really bugged him until we hit a great compromise. If he calls and I'm speaking shortly, that means I'm doing something important and cannot speak - he recognizes this and lets me go right away. Otherwise, I call him either at noon (lunch break) or at 4:15 after he picks up our son. This way we speak during the day without me having to tell my customers to wait. Please talk to her. She might have been told taking personal calls is frowned upon. My boss absolutely HATES it when someone answers their cell phone - in my case, I have a small child and must answer it just in case. Good luck - hopefully you can find something to make the both of you happy.
2007-02-27 06:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by mel m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just simply too busy at work. I mean, that's what she's there to do....work. But if you're having such a problem with it you should try and talk to her. Remember not to have an attitude while having this talk. If you need some advice on how to talk to her about it, just watch a couple episodes of Dr. Phil. She might not understand how much it bothers you. Good luck!
2007-02-27 06:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just started a new job, give her some time to adjust to the environment. Tell her you understand that she can't call or text like she used to but maybe she could give you a quick call at lunch or even a "Hi, Baby" text when she goes to the bathroom. That way she knows that hearing from her during the day is just as important to you as letting her know that you're thinking of her.
2007-02-27 06:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. It is very romantic and I love to hear from my man throughout the day. You're also right in that, no one can be that busy to take a few seconds out of their day to respond to their partner.
Stop getting in touch with her and see how she reacts to it. She's been at this new job for six months now, so that can't be the reason.
2007-02-27 06:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she maybe busy...but there are always breaks. I get the calls on everyone of my husbands breaks, yeah sometimes I'm busy and tellhim I love him and get back to work. But the days I don't answer the phone I'm just having a bad day. But your situation is that she is doing something else with her time.You need to find out what that is.
2007-02-27 06:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay you never mentioned if she is different at home to since she started her new job. MAybe she is busy and don't have the time to text you back, you never said what kind of job she does. so it will be hard to give you a answer..i do know if she works in a factory on a production line she wouldn't have time too.
2007-02-27 06:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by raven1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen Babe!! Your wife is now in a position that is making her tense when you try and "make her feel special" so cut it out!! Believe in her!! Your little text notes are obviously embarrassing her. She needs her wits about her in her work environment. She can play with you when she gets home!! Turn the situation around and think about it!! @8-)
2007-02-27 06:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, give the guy a break! Sounds like your feelings are hurt. Tell her! Maybe the texting etc... just doesnt mean as much to her as it does to you. i think we forget that most of the time we treat others how we would like to be treated in a relationship and never bother to figure out how they like to be treated.
tell her how much you liked receiving her e-mails, calls, texts etc... and ask her what makes her feel special.
Good luck!
2007-02-27 06:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by allyn h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋