For the guys...part II?

Question

I should have made my last question this simple"
Married men, how do you treat your wife? Is she #1 on your list?
Would you ever put your hands on her first? Or call her out her name? Are you interested in her and what she has to say? Do your friends ever come in between yall? Do you make sure her and the kids are happy? I want to know that there are really good husbands out there who really know how to take care of a good woman?

Answer 1

Good
no my children
NO!
no
yes
no
yes

Answer 2

1. I treat my wife with the respect she deserves (and earns) as my wife. Now when I say "earn" I mean exactly that. Just as I earn hers. Just because you're married doesn't necessarily mean that respect comes automatically. Showing the proper amount of love, devotion and sharing in both good times and knowing that she is there for me to lean on in bad times all comes into play.

I have no problem with holding my wife either. There isn't anything unmanly in walking over, holding her, kissing her and not having her initiate anything first. Sometimes a playful tap on the backside can say alot too. As far as "calling out her name"...meaning what? I always refer to my wife by name. Unless you mean in a more intimate setting..which yeah...I do. But, that aside, I listen to her talk about work. Honestly though...it bores me to tears. I think I've mastered the interested look and listen enough to ask pertinant questions to appear that I'm interested. however the only time I'd really be all ears if she was upset with her job or sick of it and wanted out.
Friends never, ever come between us nor would they be allowed to. The exact same goes for family. Its been tried and we also hold together like glue.
Kids are a non-issue. they're all adults and if they don't like our...and I say "our" decisions tough banannas. Its our decision to make and if we wanted advice we would have asked for it. as it stands what matters is what she and I think.
The marriage has lasted 23 years. Not to mention living together for 2 years previously. have there been rough times. Sure. How can you not after all that time? Not everyone can live in perfect harmony. The test was being able to know just when you'll take a stand on an issue that you think is worth fighting for or conceding because shedding blood over this battle isn't worth the effort. plus the residual fallout would be terribly unpleasant to live with.

So life isn't that hard to live. As long as you respect one another's opinions and ideas and can see her side as well as your own and vice-versa.

Answer 3

I used to do all those things, or try to.

Now I understand that I cannot make her happy, I can be a good husband, but she has to make herself happy.

Some days I'm interested in her and what she has to say, some days her rejections get me to the point where I don't feel much towards her.

Answer 4

it's a two-way street. I didn't read anything about how to treat a good husband in there, and you don't get something for nothing.

Answer 5

My wife is #1.
In all respects.