Hi am 26, man, as far as i have known i have been attracted to women, dated them. i seen women i have met in the past and start smiling like a idiot even if i try hard not to. But a few times some gay people try to talk to me, and once one tried to give me a shoulder rub at work. I wanted to kill him and i was filled with anger, and disgust beyond belief, I did not do or say anything just kept working and shrugged it off but i think he knew because he immediately stopped, also sometimes a gay will try to approach me like a woman but then look in my eyes and walk away, (weird lol) I do not have any ill feelings towards gay ppl at all i can talk to them look them in the eye and all of that but when they try to get gay i get disgusted sometimes just thinking about that makes me feel like someone put slime on me. does this stuff like dudes approaching me or me getting disgusted etc mean i might be?
2007-02-27 06:01:06 · 11 answers · asked by Dwayne b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
dude just ry it
2007-02-27 07:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just means you don't understand gay guys very well, that's all. You know what they say about how "when you've got a hammer, everything begins to look like a nail"? Some gay guys become so accustomed to socializing in large groups of other gays that they start getting a slightly distorted idea about how many of us are really out there.
This leads to... you guessed it... straight guys getting hit on by accident.
The thing you've gotta realize is that #1, most gay guys don't hit on straight guys - we're not all *that* desperate. And #2, it doesn't mean that the guy thinks you're gay - it means he thinks you're *attractive*. The best thing to do is just think of it as a compliment and tell him while you appreciate his interest, he's barking up the wrong tree.
2007-02-27 14:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by gotanmp3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now do you also remember that disgusting look you got from the lady when you asked to give her a back rub? She was turned off by you.
nothing wrong with turning people down that you are not attracted to, but the anger, that is not good. you might want to see a therapist about that.
2007-02-27 14:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Not at all. It just means your cute and hot! And they're being presumptuous and uncool. They shouldn't be hitting on you without even knowing you or knowing if you were gay or not. Flirting is one thing, pawing is quite another. If a co-worker won't take "Please don't do that" for an answer, feel free to report him to Personnel or your boss. Harassment is harassment.
2007-02-27 15:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to kill someone and being filled with anger and disgust for count as ill feelings. Maybe the man rubbing your shoulders was flirting where he didn't need to flirt, but you said it yourself, he stopped as soon as he realized you weren't comfortable.
And "approach you like a woman", "try to get gay"...
I'm sorry. Yes, you sound homophobic. Maybe you don't want to be, I hope you don't want to be, but you are, unfortunately.
2007-02-27 14:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Syck 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You sound all man to me and don't need a therapist. Your feelings are natural. I often find gay men watching my husband and that disgust me when they see he is with a wife and kids, some just don't care as with some women.
2007-02-27 14:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Gay? I think not. Just assured in your sexuality. Good that you can control your rage though :)
2007-02-27 14:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No dude. The feeling you get is completly natural. It is because you were born with these feelings, and can't help the way you feel about other people.
I say, go with it.
2007-02-27 14:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
yes it does, you are subconsciously afraid you'll be sexually attracted
2007-02-27 14:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by martin 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No.
Gay people are intelligent.
2007-02-27 14:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋