I believe my husband of 16 months, whom I am divorcing has NPD,and all the characteristics of a Distempered Psychopath and Charismatic Psychopath. He is obsessive-compulsive. He has many characteristics of Histrionic Disorder. He is abusive verbally and emotionally. He has already resorted to a full fledged discrediting campaign by spreading false rumors about me. He has made me look like the mentally ill one. He started isolating me socially months ago, he would pick a fight so we couldn't go to social functions with my friends. If the social function was with his friends, he would go without me. He is charming, handsome & successful. He is embarressingly flirtatious with women in front of me, always with sexually provocative undertones. My family is completely conned by him. My mother has secret conversations with him( she is narcissistic and was abusive to me.) His mother was a Kleptomaniac. His behavior is getting bizarre. How dangerous could he be now that he knows I am leaving.
2007-02-27 05:50:55 · 9 answers · asked by Elizabeth C. 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Remember Scott Peterson and Laci Peterson.
Read up on that.
2007-02-27 05:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by alwaysbombed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorcing A Psychopath
2016-11-11 04:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You paint a rather dangerous situation my dear. He does not sound like the kind of man I would be comfortable dealing with but, alas, people like him are all too common.
Leave and get a restraining order. Your family will soon catch on, including your mother. He is a wild card. Just leave. Get a lawyer and move on when you are healed. His campaign of discrediting you and isolating you from all that is familiar are two major signs of a potential abuser. Such a manipulative creature should be dropped as soon as you can just for your own state of mind and physical well being.
I have a brother who is a charming psychopath with many of these traits also and I know just how persuasive they can be. But once people catch on, and they inevitably do, these creeps move on to easier prey.
Just pack and get out. Thank the Lord you do not have children. I am glad you are not planning to hang around while he "gets better" then relapses to an even fowler level.
I pray everything works out well for you.
2007-02-27 06:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You describe my ex-husband very well, but he can't stay married for very long.
To answer your question the most dangerous time for a woman is when you leave him and during the divorce process. I learned this during several sessions at the shelter where I stayed for a few months while I went through what you are going through now.
The safest thing for you to do is to call the Domestic Violence Hot-line in your city to see how they can help you stay safe. They can help with lodging, transitional housing and getting you back on your feet. The shelters usually offer therapy and classes about how to identify guys like this and how to stay safe.
Most important don't let him know when you are leaving. My prayers are with you. Good Luck. You can email me if you want to chat some more (just double click on my picture).
2007-02-27 06:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dana H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the risk of physical abuse goes up significantly when the abused leaves. (Especially with the pre-disposition to mental illness.) Please seek help from an attorney and domestic violence center. The center can help find a safe place for you to stay, if needed, and emotional support. This situation is potentially volatile. Best wishes and stay safe.
2007-02-27 05:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sky's the limit. Call the cops if you suspect any problem the day you leave. Then if it get too weird -- restraining order! But you should have documented incidents before they'll let you get one (I think), so start being careful and call the police when you need to.
2007-02-27 05:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave and get a protective restraining order. Move and don't tell anyone where you are.
Sorry, I hope you pick a better man next time. Remember, looks aren't everything.
2007-02-27 05:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, how do we get mixed up with these people! Use your disloyal family to distract him. Just make sure they take up all his time, putting you down and bragging about how bad you are - maybe he'll forget to come after you. Also, March down to your local police stsation and get your name in their files. They will roll their eyes at you, but better safe than sorry. Just tell them you want them to know your name in case he comes after you.
2007-02-27 05:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd contact your local abuse shelter. They would have information on how to leave safely.
2007-02-27 05:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋