How much of a negative impact has mislead feminism had on the average woman?

Question

I already have my opinions on this. I think it's had a more than negligible impact on most women. I think mislead feminism has caused good men to be in a similar position in the home as good women are in the workplace. Women (historically more than today) have to work harder and be better than men to be viewed as equal in many parts of the work force. I believe, on average, men who are at least equal in their ability to be a suitable romantic partner or husband have to put up with at least somewhat more fallout from their woman than she does from him. By fallout I generally mean an "I'm OK-You're not" attitude. He's romantic, he's self-sufficient both with chores and money, he's a respectful communicator, he's handsome, and fun to be around, but.........still at greater risk of nagging and shaming from his woman than she is from him. I've asked about a hundred questions in this forum. This is the one that really matters to me. If me not dating is the answer, so be it.

Thanks Tanks. I think you're right. I really don't like this part of living with a woman.

Alright, I give. I've chosen poorly, or stayed too long in bad relationships, especially my last one. I think I've learned enough about the symptoms and rhetoric of misled feminism through Yahoo Answers. Thank you so much for your all your insights, including the misled ones (Baba Yaga).

Answer 1

some women do act that way, some men also act in a similar manner. my point being, it may be in the nature of some *people* to nag and criticize and never be happy with anything they have. true, it tends to be the stereotype of women to be "nags"-- but that does not mean that women as a whole are more critical of their partners, maybe that they just tend to express it differently.

i do somewhat see your parallel between women at work & men at home, i think, but i think there's even more to it than you describe. i think women these days are under a lot more pressure to be and do EVERYTHING, to work, to be mothers, to be wives, to do it ALL, and to do it perfectly. many understandably get stressed out about trying to live up to perfection and can begin to resent their [male] partners for "only" having the pressures of work (which unfortunately can lead to 'nagging' in a misguided attempt to recruit help at home). i think that until men are actually considered equal in the home--by all, including themselves--this type of conflict will continue. and only when men are truly equal at home will women be truly equal in the workplace. the relationship between man & woman needs to become more balanced and more respectful from BOTH sides and in both realms, with each partner accepting their fair share of responsibility and duty.

Answer 2

lots, its also had a negative effect bon normal men too. laws have also been changed to reflect the wrong and unequal ways women were treated in the past. only a madman cant see how bad women were treated in the home, work place and society in general. However, whilst it is right that no-one should be disadvantaged or mistreated, it is also true that men are now finding themselves mistreated by the system and also extremist feminists. shouldnt we all just stop the campaigning and just get back to appreciating the differences in each other rather than fighting over them? The true and undying love of a good hearted woman is all that a man needs. I suspect the same is true for women looking for a man. If we just treat each other as we would like to be treated then the world would be a better place. It costs nothing to open a door for someone, or smile, or say 'good morning' as we pass in the street.... dont you think?

Answer 3

Imbalances cause chaos, which is where we are now. Opposing popular belief that it’s a feminist movement, I’d say it’s a technological movement.

The “Traditional Nuclear Family” is often labeled as “Patriarchal”. It’s been so long since we’ve seen this in Western Societies that we’ve forgotten what this truly means. I’ve got the pleasure of conversing with Priests from Africa, Families from the Philippians, and Muslims. They all have this in common. Yes, the woman stays closer to home, and the man brings home the $$$. Guess what, the man hands 100% of his earnings to the wife and then the wife allocates the money to the family; giving the husband, & kids an allowance. This is because men historically spend money unwisely, so he gives it to someone who will promote the family.

Now, with technology (washing machines, TV’s, transportation, computers) the husband then handed his $$$ to his wife, and became jealous that she wasn’t working. Like wise, she felt unworthy and needed challenges with the liberties afforded by new technologies. Throw into this TV & other media where the man is seduced by the picture perfect woman (who’s painted, cut, and fake) well, there is disaster. The man’s miffed at bringing money and he’s got a junker, and the woman’s miffed major ‘cas she’s board and abandoned by a man who’s seeking greener pastures.

During the period labeled “Feminism” we saw increases in “Wife Beatings” (man’s low self esteem). Then the movement of women objectifying women through commercials, competitions, and jealousy. “Blond Bombshells” emerged as men stopped looking for the women to share intimacy with for the “Top model trophy wife”. Sounds great on the surface, but many men found more loneliness without the intimacy shared within a marriage.

So, here we are, in need of repair of the relationship. Yes, it’s better to be single than to be in a relationship for the wrong reasons; objectification (being the “wallet” or “trophy“). Technology is forcing man and women to find a new balance within their roles.

Answer 4

So mislead feminism is the cause of you having crappy taste in abusive women? Am I reading you right?

There are a lot of reasons people end up as they do. The fella you've described... "He's romantic, he's self-sufficient both with chores and money, he's a respectful communicator, he's handsome, and fun to be around, but.........still at greater risk of nagging and shaming from his woman than she is from him." does NOT have to put up with nasty behaviour from his partner. He sounds like an awesome guy.

Friend, at the end of the day, what we 'put up with' is our CHOICE. If you don't like it... find someone who is not like that. She does exist. I really think you are trying to paint too many different issues with the same brush. Best of Luck.

Answer 5

I think men would like a very clear cut "role" and that is just not feasible in today's society. Every family and every relationship is different. I think some women like to use feminism to manipulate men and are very misguided about what the term really means. Feminism is about freedom & self-respect...mostly the freedom to make choices about their lives and have the same opportunities as men. It does not give a person free rein to be disrespectful or hurtful. JMHO.

Answer 6

That's an intersesting point you've brought up in this question. When I consider misled feminism, I think about men not wanting to open doors or pay for dates because they think that a woman with a feminist perspective might not appreciate it. You have to understand that the feminist movement was started because women didn't want their husbands to take their male children to bars and let them get drunk. Women didn't want to be beaten in the home for their male children to watch and see it as an example of how women are to be treated, and women wanted to vote and be represented in the political areana. Women were sick and tired of seeing mullato versions of their husbands stemming from the infidelity of their men who raped African slaves to increase the number of slaves they had and also for their own lustful pleasure. Black women were sick of their men being lynched and wanted laws, so they alinged themselves with the feminist movement which benifited women in the U.S. Today, the glass ceiling still exist for women in the work place, making it necessary for women to employ the enforcement of certain laws for themselves, and that's a fact , not a negative offshoot of feminism as some men would like to believe. Women also know and understand the old adage that a man works from sun to sun, (sun up to sun set) but a womans work is never done. Women want help in the house with the children and they want their men to understand that rasing children takes both parents. I said a lot, I hope that some of it touched on some real answers.

Answer 7

hi.

it is all in your perception and experience and both of these you try to comprehend.

and for a more full realization and truth of social relating issues and human relationship you will best be receptive to human nature.

negativity is a human mental reality. attitude is created in thoughts of self to society. which means that your own opinions although not wrong...are not fully right or correct either.

i want to correct you on your word "mislead"......i believe you intend 'misled'.

the issue of feminism or woman in society is confused by many because of humans lack of understanding of humans.

it is not really a feminist issue entirely.

for personal acceptance a woman needs to know what makes her happy and self-loving. and discovery of this leads to what is of a woman and what is of her humanity.

for social acceptance ... women apply to the prospects which are made available and with her own ideas/experiences meeting the platform of application which is constructed.

and therein is opportunity for confusion and knowledge-sharing.

knowledge-sharing may be misleading or it may be leading depending on the attitudes and purposes of those sharing.

my opinion is that the hyped differences creating confusion and some misunderstanding between man and woman has created a great opportunity for man and woman to know/see that there is so very little difference between man and woman that is not honored and respected by each their own biology and impact-realizations pertaining to their biological experiences.

or in short. ..... the difference is created in their own minds...and bodies.

so many men do not understand women because man do not understand well a womans biological supremacy.

and too many women have ideas about man which are fashioned by large social collectives which removes man from supreme feminist glory.

the misunderstanding is a cry that each wish to know more and meet peacefully for this discovery.

it is all about that.

the rest is .......... malarky.

so cheer up and tell your mother you love her. and your father also.


be well

Answer 8

You should change the question's details.

To answer the question, I think this is not feminists fault it is just in women's nature.

Yo don't get all offended ladies some times the nagging can be good.

Bad nagging: When she asks for something (chocolate for example) and you go get it a the store but it's the wrong type or from the wrong company or you didn't get enough or you were too slow, etc..

Good nagging: When you're doing something (working out for example) and she nags you about how the guy next to you can bench more, even though you tell her it's only 20lbs more and you're doing more reps and she nags you. This can really make you work harder to make her shut up. (which is good)

Answer 9

There is NO SUCH THING as it's in a woman's nature. Do you think women want to have better rights than men? That is not true and that is not feminism. It is stereotypes and beliefs created by society. Such a mindset implemented unto us, it highlights actions of people that conform to these false stereotypes, and then people who vary from that fixed stereotype they are being ignored because they don't prove those stereotypes. For example, we assume that women are jealous creatures. Then comes along this woman who badmouths women wearing miniskirts. So we all agree that women are jealous in nature. But we ignore women, many of them in fact, who praise women who look good and even exchange tips with them.

Answer 10

Yeah Tanks, too right, there seems to be much confusion these days about womens' nature (and mens') due to the effects of feminism. This is the problem with 'equality', it blinds society to the inate differences of women and men, to it's own detriment.

Hey Portwine, Don't let feminism give a woman the excuse to bust your balls. Just be the confident masculine man you are, its what your future woman wants eh.