Girls, Please Answer!!!?

Question

Today at school we ha tests, so there was a mass of people outside the test area after break. It was quite cramped and my best friend (a girl, 15) was in front of me. I was back against a wall, and there was a bit of room between us. But she was facing the other way and she kept backing up slightly so we were closer. She rubed her butt into my crotch quite a bit. Side to side as well as pressing into me. I had never thought she saw me in that way. I still dont, really. But was she just playing? Messing, and trying to arouse me as a game? Was it for her enjoyment and arousal?? Any help is appreciated.

Answer 1

Woah woah woah!! That is super weird. She was probably just playing around, but you should ask around and see if she's lesbian! If she is then I would say that she isn't playing and you should either A) stay away if your not like that or B) tell her how you feel?!

good luck...

Answer 2

Calm down woman!You already said that there were many people in the room so she may felt too stuck or something.Plus,she may wanted to play a game,indeed,as hormones can drive people crazy.The question is if she has ever shown such attitude towards you before.If so,then have a small chat with her about that.But-for god's sake-do not let yourself be misunderstood.I bet,however,that it was on the heat of the moment.I once witnessed an occurence like that.That's why your question triggered my curiosity.Best of luck.

Answer 3

I hate when people stand so close to me, even my friends. I hate when I go to the bank and someone stands so close to me that if I were to move slightly back I would bump into them. It's so annyoing.

But I think you were reading too much into it. Next time someone gets so close, move out of the way. Tell them "excuse me, can you back up a little bit?".

Answer 4

Just completely ignore it, and don't let her know that you were worried about it. The betting is she won't do it again. If she does,then let her know that you don't like it. She may have been teasing you, or she may have been quite unaware of what she was doing. What ever, don't make a big issue about it.

Answer 5

If you're absolutely sure she was doing it on purpose, it sounds like she's trying to jerk you around without admitting it. If you confront her with it, she'll more than likely deny it or call you a pervert.

Some girls, sadly, just love mind games. It's a way to keep your attention without having to make a commitment.

Answer 6

The victim doesn't 'like it" because this is a type of sexual assault. It is a criminal act. The offender is mentally ill (a sexual deviant or "pervert") and requires therapy, but this does not serve as viable 'excuse' in a court of law:

Frotteurism
Definition
Frotteurism is a disorder in which a person derives sexual pleasure or gratification from rubbing, especially the genitals, against another person, usually in a crowd. The person being rubbed is a victim. Frotteurism is a paraphilia, a disorder that is characterized by recurrent intense sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies generally involving objects, the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one's partner (not merely simulated), or children or other nonconsenting persons.

Description
The primary focus of frotteurism is touching or rubbing one's genitals against the clothing or body of a nonconsenting person. This behavior most often occurs in situations that allow rapid escape. Frottage (the act of rubbing against the other person) is most commonly practiced in crowded places such as malls, elevators, on busy sidewalks, and on public transportation vehicles.

The most commonly practiced form of frotteurism is rubbing one's genitals against the victim's thighs or buttocks. A common alternative is to rub one's hands over the victim's genitals or breasts.

Most people who engage in frottage (sometimes called frotteurs) usually fantasize that they have an exclusive and caring relationship with their victims during the moment of contact. However, once contact is made and broken, the frotteur realizes that escape is important to avoid prosecution.

Causes and symptoms
Causes
There is no scientific consensus concerning the cause of frotteurism. Most experts attribute the behavior to an initially random or accidental touching of another's genitals that the person finds sexually exciting. Successive repetitions of the act tend to reinforce and perpetuate the behavior.
Symptoms

In order for the disorder to be clinically diagnosed, the symptoms must meet the diagnostic criteria as listed in the professional's handbook, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. These symptoms include:

1. Recurrent, intense, or sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors that involve touching and rubbing against a nonconsenting person.

2. The person has acted on these sexual urges, or the fantasies or urges cause significant distress to the individual or are disruptive to his everyday functioning.

Demographics
Males are much more likely to engage in frotteurism than are females. Females are the most common victims of frotteurism. Most acts of frottage are peformed by those between 15 to 25 years of age. After the age of 25, the acts decline.

Diagnosis
Most people with frotteurism never seek professional help, but people with the disorder may come into the mental health system as a result of a court order. The diagnosis is established in an interview between the person accused of frotteurism and the mental health professional (a psychiatrist or a psychologist, for example). In the interview, the individual acknowledges that touching others is a preferred or exclusive means of sexual gratification. Because this acknowledgment can bring criminal charges, the disorder is underdiagnosed and its prevalence is largely unknown. In some cases, other people besides the accused may be interviewed, including observers or the victim.

Treatments
For treatment to be successful, the frotteur must want to modify existing patterns of behavior. This initial step is difficult for most people with this disorder to take.

Behavior therapy is commonly used to try to treat frotteurism. The frotteur must learn to control the impulse to touch nonconsenting victims. Medroxyprogesterone, a female hormone, is sometimes prescribed to decrease sexual desire.
Frotteurism is a criminal act in many jurisdictions. It is usually classified as a misdemeanor. As a result, legal penalties are often minor. It is also not easy to prosecute frotteurs as intent to touch is difficult to prove. In their defense statements, the accused often claim that the contact was accidental.


The primary goal of frotteurism is to touch the clothing or body of a non-consenting person. This behavior most often occurs in situations that allow rapid escape, and frotteurism is most commonly practiced in crowded places such as public transportation vehicles. (Patrik Giardino/CORBIS. Photo reproduced by permission.)

Prognosis
The prognosis for eliminating frotteurism is poor as most frotteurs have no desire to change their behavior. Since frotteurism involves nonconsenting partners and is against the law in many jurisdictions, the possibility of embarrassment may deter some individuals.
Prevention
Most experts agree that providing guidance as to behavior that is culturally acceptable will prevent the development of a paraphilia such as frotteurism. The origin of some instances of frotteurism may be a truly accidental contact that becomes associated with sexual gratification. There is no way to predict when such an association will occur.
Resources

BOOKS
American Psychiatric Association. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.Fourth edition, text revised. Washington DC: American Psychiatric Association, 2000.
Gelder, Michael, Richard Mayou, and Philip Cowen. Shorter Oxford Textbook of Psychiatry.4th edition. New York: Oxford University Press, 2001.
Kohut, John J., Roland Sweet. Real Sex: Titillating but True Tales of Bizarre Fetishes, Strange Compulsions, and Just Plain Weird Stuff.New York, Plume, 2000.
Wilson, Josephine F. Biological Foundations of Human Behavior.New York: Harcourt, 2002.
PERIODICALS

Eiguer, A. "Cynicism: its function in the perversions." International Journal of Psychoanalysis80, no. 4 (1999): 671-684.
Rosler, A., and E. Witztum. "Pharmacotherapy of paraphilias in the next millennium." Behavioral Science Law18, no. 1 (2000): 43-56.
Seelig, B. J., and L. S. Rosof. "Normal and pathological altruism." Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association49, no. 3 (2001): 933-959.
ORGANIZATIONS
American Medical Association. 515 N. State Street, Chicago, IL 60610. Telephone: [phone]. Web site: .
American Psychiatric Association. 1400 K Street NW, Washington, DC 20005. Telephone: [phone]. FAX [phone]. Web site: .
American Psychological Association. 750 First Street NW, Washington, DC, 20002-4242, Telephone: [phone] or [phone]. Web site: .
L. Fleming Fallon, Jr., M.D., Dr.P.H.

Source(s):
http://www.minddisorders.com/flu-inv/fro...

Answer 7

lol hahah blue ones huh. what a tease.
Maybe she digs you, or maybe she did for the cheer passion of it. Cruel Cruel joke.

Answer 8

well she sounds like she likes you if shes not a virgen id say its definatly sexual and not playing if she is a virgen it wasw more than likely a mistake or she wants to be unflowered lol

Answer 9

she probably was just goofing around.....just wanting to play with you....i wouldnt worry about it....if it continues then i would ask her whats up...good luck

Answer 10

honey, do you feel violated in any way? it is not ok to use your body for her pleasure without your permission!