Are today's children spoiled? Why are we so afraid to punish them?

Answer 1

YES THEY ARE SPOILED. WE ARE AFRAID BECAUSE PEOPLE WILL CALL DSS. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CHILD ABUSE AND SPANKING. SOME PEOPLE DON'T REALIZE THAT.

Answer 2

Yes they are spoiled. We are afraid to punish them because of the recent "enlightenment" against spankings. Children know they have control with that because they can tell any other adult they are spanked and get the authorities involved.
We also do not have the same relationship with teachers as we once did. Parents and teachers don't work together to raise children. Parents do not support teachers and teachers do not support parents.
I know when I was growing up that if a teacher had to call my parents at work to tell them something I did wrong, I would be in serious trouble when they got home. Now teachers cannot even find a phone number to call parents.
Those children, whose parents are involved in their education have a very different view toward behaving and not. They are the children who are well behaved because they know they cannot get away with it.

Answer 3

I still can't figure it out. Yes, today's children are spoiled. Beyond spoiled, actually. They are spoiled because parents give them things instead of time. They enter them into everything... but never really enter into a relationship with their children. They drop them off, but never stay. They don't play with them, they leave them alone. They give to them without requiring them to EARN anything. These kids come out into the workforce and have this sense of entitlement that is staggering, frankly. And really can't handle the demands placed on them like an ol' schooler like myself.

Anyone ever seen 'My Super Sweet 16'? It is a hideous display of excess and I sit and wonder, what did your kid do other than turn 16? BMWs, Mercedes, and Volvos at 16? Spending $25-$300K on a birthday party??? Insane!! How are little miss or mr.'s grades? How much time do they spend volunteering to serve others? Do they even serve their families? Usually the answer is no.

When I see 2 year olds falling out in the floor, beating parents, and going word for word with an adult...it drives me crazy. It's not about spanking them (although it wouldn't hurt) but they have no fear. Now I'm not talking about being afraid mom or dad is gonna kill you or something. I'm talking about respect and reverence. Three generations ago, teachers would 'beat the tar' out of a kid for 'giving her sass'. On the way home, the neighbors heard about it and they may spank you too. And you still got it when you arrived home. It didn't cause anyone to fall apart at the seams. It didn't cause low self esteem. Kids understood that when you do something wrong, you have consequences for your actions. Not time outs and groundings.

I do not believe that my mother ever had to ask us to do anything twice. As a matter of fact, I remember being 5 years old and a LOOK from her would stop all the nonsense. She never HAD to chastise us in public, we already knew what was expected of us. Ah, the good old days!

Answer 4

I never had to punish my daughter, simply because from the very beginning I disciplined her. They are not the same:
Discipline:
Training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character. Control gained by enforcing obedience or order. A rule or system of rules governing conduct or activity.
Punish:
To impose a penalty on for a fault, offense, or violation. To inflict a penalty for the commission of (an offense) in retribution or retaliation. To deal with roughly or harshly, to inflict injury on.
Too many parents don't discipline their children as for being spoiled...well they get control, and then the parents want to inflict pain on them because of it...which makes no sense to me, the parents hand over the control to the kids and then want to punish the kids when they DO take over. It isn't that parents are afraid...it's simply that they don't know how...they don't have the skills to parent effectively. They have bought into this "I HAVE RIGHTS" thing with their kids. I have a poster in my kitchen "Kids Have Rights: They are: A safe secure roof over their heads, healthy wholsome food in their stomachs, warm weather resilient clothes on their backs and a warm, safe, secure, comrotable place to sleep"
Everything else are PRIVELIGES to be EARNED, that's the way my daughter was raised and even though she is an only child she didn't grow up spoiled and I never had to inflict any sort of injury on her. Anytime a parent hits (spanks) their child they are inflicting an injury on that child. YES it IS abuse and intelligent, effective parents don't need to resort to it. The apes inflict injury as punishment on their young, I'm just a wee bit more intelligent than apes...

Answer 5

they are very spoiled and why are we affraid to punish them because the courts have gotten so involved that you cant punish them. The children use i will tell my teacher or counseler. I went thru it with my now 23 year old daughter and believe it or not she was the one who broke my hand while banging her head against a wall i was trying to stop her and needless to say it went from there.

Answer 6

Cause now days we go to jail!! So yes children are spoiled!! All we can do is try to punish them in other ways and yes thats scary!! When i was a kid my dad would be my *** if we need it!!

Answer 7

That's easy. Because people think that punishing children is abuse. What people don't understand is that it is a necessity to show your children right from wrong. I encourage all parents to discipline their children...it trains them on how to be respectful good adults. Verbal warnings do not cut it. Get out the belt or the spanking stick and show your child that you are the boss, but in a loving way...not out of hate.

Answer 8

Yes, they are spoiled. The ACLU protects the right for a child to grow up spoiled and undisciplined.

Answer 9

they are spoiled and you cant hit them or you will go to jail. parenting is for the birds. i hate people that say "oh my children arent spoiled or bad" nobodies kid is an angel. they just cant face the truth. people try to tell me how to raise my kid all the time, but their kids are bad too, but they dont see it. weird!

Answer 10

yes many of them are, it's because no one wants DFS called on them. It's sad you can't even discipline your own kids with someone thinking that you shouldn't