It was a saturday we had been home all day. I had to run an errand but i forgot my cell so 10 min later i was at the house I called him no answer noticed the office door was closed and locked I went to knock and could hear a women moaning. Then I knocked and said to open up I could hear his pants coming up and belt being buckled. He opened I jokingly told him he was busted he said "what i can masterbate if i want to". Then I said to him was to keep his phone on him my tire was losing air. I acted cool about the whole situation and he walked out there to look. Anyway while I was driving I felt hurt..why didn't he approach me? Its been a couple of days since I've seen any action. I let it go figured the day wasnt over but nope nothing that day or the next its now tues and we are not talking. I'm upset its happened before I feel like the man that doesn't get enough. I've discussed this with him before. I want sex, I thought men did too ...
2007-02-27 05:38:47 · 7 answers · asked by ilisalec 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to say but it would be a yes and a no. Depending on what kind of sex life you guys have and even then. They say 95% of guys do that and the other 5% are lying. I know with my hubby we can have sex 4 or 5 time a week for a couple of weeks{usually 3 time a week is the average for us} and he will still do it. I don't think and I know it has anything to do with me, he says sometimes he just want to do it himself. The only way you will know is to have a talk with him and don't be judgemental about it. GUYS DO IT ALL THE TIME.
2007-02-27 06:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's at least got a porn addiction, even if he's not cheating. You need to get some help!!! I was once in a relationship like this. I couldn't convince him to have sex with me, but late at night he'd have some fun with some other chicks online. You better do something quick!!!
2007-02-27 08:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not overreacting....I have been in the same situation as you are. I have been married goin on 10 yrs and it still upsets me. I don't mind that he masterbates when I'm not at home..I understand that, but when I'm home and he is horny I expect him to come to me for pleasure. I have caught him several times while I'm at home and it cuased allot of problems. Even though we talked about it, I felt like he didn't understand how it was making me feel. I felt unattractive, I felt like I wasn't good enough for him. I truely understand how you feel. See, men only think of them selves and there needs. Like I told my husband...when you have needs I'm there to fulfil them and that is what he needs to do for me. We have needs too!
Do you and your man watch porn? I began to watch porn with my man and do what they do..lol and it helped our sex life allot. I'm not sure if I was any hepl but don't think your the only one that feels that way cause your not alone. Good luck!
2007-02-27 06:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by latinabeauty29 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't overreacting. Anything that takes his focus off of you is an intruder in your marriage. You must be feeling betrayed. Look into the book, Every Man's Battle, by Stephen Arteburn. It is fantastic and did wonders in our relationship as far as helping us both understand his physical needs and the ways he is tempted constantly out in the world.
I wish you the best in resolving this.
2007-02-27 06:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Heffiner 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is something wrong when a man would rather masturbate than have the real thing. There may be some underlying issues.
2007-02-27 10:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sounds like he is cheating you better find out for the sake of you and your son!!
2007-02-27 05:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When the porn is interferring with giving your partner sex, its then a problem........
............yet another reason why porn sucks........
2007-02-27 06:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋