im 19 and pregnant!!!?

Question

im going to college and am not yet married how should i tell my parents will they be mad??

lol just for the record ive been with this guy 2 years he has a job i just haven't moved out and im not a whore or sleep around

Answer 1

they will come around dont worry. they will be mad at first and then get over it there is nothing they can do. my psychology professor got preg in her 2nd sem of college and look where she is today (she still in her 20's!) ! and remember to tell them u will continue your education. that will ease their fears. and
, you will probably get more financial aid because you are a (single?) mother so you still have plenty of opportunities to finish up. life is far from over! good luck and congrats!!

Answer 2

Although your parents will be disappointed. I am sure after the initial shock wears off they will be supportive. You chose a hard road. Having a baby and going to college. Try not to let anything stop you from finishing your education. If I was your mom I would give you a big hug and tell you it is going to be ok. I would try and help you do everything you can to finish your education. If you quit most people dont go back. Yes, initially they are going ot be mad but they love you and will come around. Where is the father? I hope he is going to do his part. Be the best father he can be. I wish you a lot of luck. If you want to talk e-mail me [e-mail]. Even though I am not your mom, here is a hug anyway. You need all the support you can get. Good luck. Congrats on the baby you will love this new experience.

Answer 3

Just tell your parents. Afterall, you are all adults right? Of course this is going to put a damper on your education for the time being, but that is something that you can go back to. As far as marriage, honey, not many people are married and then have children anymore... I had my kids first and then we got married, backwards, but it all worked out for the best. I am now 34 weeks pregnant with our 3rd child and can finally say this one was planned and within wedlock lol. I was 20 when I had my first child, I am 25 now, and having my third. I am happy. I'm sure you will be also. Don't be worried about what your parents are going to think, it is something you did, you are of consenting/legal age, if they get upset they will get over it. Thats what unconditional love is. You know they will be there for you no matter what. Best wishes to you and congrats.

Answer 4

Chances are that your parents will be disappointed. You need to be straight and to the point with them. Do not approach it with emotion, nor take their response with emotion. You have decided to do adult things (have sex) and have to deal with this like an adult, which includes how you deal with your parents. You must realize that they are going to be disappointed as it will forever change your life and make it more difficult at every step. Not that having a child is horrible or terrible, it is a wonderful thing. It is just that your life will change in ways you can not imagine. It will be more difficult to go out with friends, to find a boyfriend, etc. Your life will change and that also is something that you must accept, and possibly your college career may be put on hold for a bit. Good luck, you will survive this and in the end have a wonderful baby.

Answer 5

Your an adult, so handle it like one.
I was 21 in college when I was pregnant with my firstnow,26 with 3). I have a friend who had her first at 17, now 22, the mother of two. Maybe you shouldve waited till you were married, but its too late for that. The truth is there is a baby inside of you, your baby, be proud to be the mom you are, know that NO mom knows what to do at first, 19 or 39. You can wait until you get your first ultrasound pic and show them, they wont be able to resist that cut baby, their grandbaby. Meanwhile, if you dont have insurance, apply for medicaid, get to the doctor. If you need your parents for this, youll have to be an adult about it, because your not the kid anymore.

Answer 6

I'm 19 and found out I was pregnant in August. I dreaded telling my mom, but I did, and I cried, and she wasn't mad. Probably more surprised than anything. She has been very supportive through the whole thing and can't wait for him to be born! When we told my boyfriend's parents, his mom just cried. She wasn't mad either-- she gave me a hug and told us she loved us. She's also really excited now. How long have you been with the father? My boyfriend and I have been together for years, so that made it a little easier, but your parents love you more than anything in the world, and even if they seem upset at first, they will adjust to the idea of it and love you and your baby unconditionally.

Answer 7

Fifteen months ago, I could have written that question, word for word myself! I found out I was pregnant at 19 years old, unmarried, two weeks befor I graduated from college. Just tell them, the longer you wait the bigger the chance they will be upset. Don't add hiding it from them or lying to them to the list of reasons to be angry. My Mom was excited, if a little disappointed. She got over it pretty quick when she realized she was going to be a Grandma. My Dad didn't talk to me until the last couple months of my pregnancy. When he did start talking to me, it was to tell me how big of a mistake I made. The day my daughter was born he was in the hospital bearing gifts and holding my daughter, just as happy as can be. My daughter is six and a half months old now and he (and my mom) loves her to death! He brings her gifts and has special nicknames for her and everything. Dad's always seem to be upset, but don't let it get to you. The sooner you tell them the sooner they will get used to the idea and be happy for you. No matter what the situation babies seem to make people happy. They're just too darned cute to be angry around!

Answer 8

I'm 18 and in the same situation. Your parents might be mad (mine really weren't because I live with my boyfriend and support myself), but they will be much less mad if you're just honest and open with them from the beginning, rather than waiting till you're wayyyyyyy obviously pregnant, like my best friend did. Her mom couldn't deal with the fact she'd been lying, and she kicked her out. So just be open and honest with your parents. Also, about not being married, I don't know how religious you are, but the main reason people think it's "improper" to have a baby before marriage is because of the sex before marriage...and if you're not ashamed of the good lovin', why be ashamed of the product? I hope I helped. A supportive boyfriend (or a few good chick friends) will definitely help you make it through. If you have any other questions, you can email me at [e-mail].

Answer 9

I was 18yr when I was pregnant.. My mom and dad divorced on the day I found out.. SOOO I kept it quiet for about 5 weeks and then I just walked into my dads room and told him I am pregnant, he was very happy, I never told my mom....

You are a adult now so you need to let them know your pregnant and your having the baby and you will do the best you can with going to school and work (if you have a job) etc. And if he is still in the picture (boyfriend) have him go with you when you tell your parents...

Answer 10

I'm 19 as well and I'm trying to get pregnant and my family has no idea......you should just come out and tell them...you are an adult there is nothing they can do.....i also go to school.....just because you are pregnant doesn't mean its the end of the world....you can still go to school and raise a baby many women have done it and everything will be OK.....just sit your parents down explain what happened and then tell them your decision on whether you will keep the baby or not.......they will probably be mad for awhile but they will soon get over it every parent does......they love you and I'm sure they will support whatever you decide to do.....good luck and congrats!!

Answer 11

I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant with my first. We waited until we had an ultrasound picture to show our parents, then we went to them separately at their houses at a stress-free time (the weekend). We just came out and said it and showed the picture. My parents were a lot more receptive than my boyfriends at the time. But, after it sank in, they were all excited and his mother was already off buying baby clothes. I'm sure it won't be as bad as you're expecting. (If you're in a long-term relationship, I'm sure it will be even easier, as they might have known the day would eventually come anyway.) Good luck!