I need a man's opinion.?

Question

I am a woman. My best friend is a man. We have had a platonic relationship for six years but now I want more. He says he doesn't want to ruin the friendship. Is this true or is he just trying not to hurt my feelings?

Answer 1

it is possible that this guy doesn't want to ruin the friendship since u guys have been friends for so long, but it's more likely that he just doesn't feel the same way. if he did, he'd go out with u, especially if he knew u liked him. this may just be his way of letting you down easy.

Answer 2

I don't think anyone out here can tell you if it is or is not true. Maybe he is just afraid of making a commitment. If you are giving him sexual favors, try holding back and see where that leads. As the old saying goes, "why buy the cow when you are getting the milk free?" Yes I am a man. I believe relationships should be 50/50.

Answer 3

get him drunk, he will then tell you the real way he feels. Also makes it easier for you to take advantage and this may be the spark that ignites the flame. you have a great basis for a relationship with such a strong friendship. these relationships work better as a general rule. Your friendship may no longer be the same already since you have told him, really there is nothing tolose.

Answer 4

Could be either or. The main thing is he sure he's not interested in a relationship with you. He was upfront with not wanting to persue it. So you should stop asking why or if that's true and accept that there won't be a relationship. Otherwise you could ruin your friendship.

Answer 5

If the friendship is important to you, more important than having more of him, accept his wishes. These things have a funny way of working out, and if they dont, you have kept a good friend. We want what we can't have most times, so date other people, and maybe he will see what a good girlfriend you can be. And in the meantime, you might find love.

Answer 6

Friendship and intimacy are too separate relationships. Maybe he does know the value of a friendship and wants you two to have that instead of risking a chance of things not working out as boyfriend/girlfriend.

Answer 7

Let me say first men vary in exactly how they feel. Iwas in a similar situation and for me the friendship was to dear to lose or even change that said try to 'unknowingly' be more attractive or provactive show him a little to much cleveage orjust alittle peek of what your holding. If he is trying to spare your feelings or not may be gauged by his reaction. if he relucantly looks away or dont even notice visual foreplay rates high in a mans domain, best of luck.

Answer 8

I don't think he is untruth full to you.I had a very very good lady friend and I wanted to take her to bed so damn bad.I finally did and our friendship was over after we slept to gather about ten times.I miss her all the time and she said that she misses me but we can never screw again,but on the other hand my wife is my best friend now and we sleep to gather for the last 49 years.

Answer 9

Hmm...I would say he is just trying not to hurt your feelings. If I was a friend with a lady for six years, there would have been at least one time where I would have tried to give it to her.

Answer 10

I'm a woman and I married my 'best freind' ... but we did this only because I was going through an emotional crisis and wanted to 'cry on his shoulder' ... he took that literally, and I found out that being in his arms was the most COMFORTABLE thing in the world. I RAN from the room that day, but had the good sense to ask him to have a 'long heart to heart talk' with me a couple of days later. We talked about how 'good' our friendship was, and he told me that what I thought could be 'romantic' were just things he did naturally ... but since we were 'best friends' we also talked about other things, including 'sex' ... and decided to 'explore the romantic path' together. I thought he understood that we would do this over a 'long period' of time ... but he felt that he needed to 'make up his mind as quickly as possible.' One evening he 'dropped by' after work with two subs he'd bought for us for dinner ... I was playing cards with a female friend, so he sat on the couch and the three of us talked. He and I made a 'date' to go shopping for a computer printer the next day ... it was his computer, and I could have used it to write on, but since it didn't have a printer, it was 'useless' to me, so he was going to get the printer for me. The next day he showed up at my door early, with a little pot of flowers ... and we went shopping and acted 'outrageous' (we did that just for 'the fun of it') and he sat next to me on the bus, instead of in the seat across the aisle. At the end of the day, we went to a bookstore and he bought a book I wanted but couldn't afford until the first of the month ... I went to kiss him on the cheek to say thank-you, and he turned and I kissed him on the mouth ... and was so embarrassed that I can still remember all the Christmas lights on the trees seemed RED when they were actually white. I had a 'job' to do that night, and he 'said goodnight' with a kiss that was so 'hot' it nearly set off the buildings smoke alarms ... but I still thought he was simply EXPERIMENTING with the 'romantic path' ... and I didn't know that we were 'going together' and were going to get married until the next day ... and when I realized that I'd been 'jealous' of the 'one and only woman in his life' who would make him 'stop being best friends' with me, but that I was that 'one and only' and had been 'jealous of myself' ... and laughed so hard I fell out of bed.
We've been married for ten years now, and we are still 'best friends' as well as being 'lovers' and 'married' to each other ... and we'll be married 'forever and beyond.' Now I can't picture being married to ANYONE who wasn't also my 'best best friend' ... and maybe you can tell your 'best friend' about our story, to point out that 'if you do make a relationship work' between the two of you, that he can have 'the best of both worlds' with you ... but if it does turn out that you can 'only ever' be 'best friends' then you'll always be best friends, because you've 'worked out the romantic' together, too ... GOOD LUCK.