I want to break up with my married bf.Since,I already knew everything now,and where to put myself.I tried many times but he's mad and angry.He want me to return all the things he gave to me,which I am willing to give it back to him just to prove that,I am not aftering material things from him and I love him not because of his gifts.I want to send everything including his clothes and the wedding set that he gave to me and ofcourse the so called"engagement ring"that I used to believe we're gonna get married after 2 yrs.But since,he's too far and cost me a lot to send it back..I dont know how?As of now,I just want to forget about him,I am tired of crying every night on my own.I know I am better than this,and he doesnt care about my feelins anymore,He said,he's wife is aware about us painfully,I can understand but I didnt know that he's married from the very start..if I only I knew about it,I am not gonna allow myself to be a second woman.Do I have just to leave without saying anythin?
2007-02-27 05:16:48 · 17 answers · asked by Volkan Ozdemir 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I felt pity for myself because as of now,I have to start all over again but I do love him a lot!But he doesnt respect his wife and I dont want to have a man like him.I am just blind since never felt inlove like this before.But,I do realized I always cried every night to the point I can't breath anymore,and I am the only one who's calling him now even we're chatting everynight here in the net.Before,he used to call me everyday..I can see and feel all the changes slowly.And I've learned the hard way to distance myself.I do really want to marry him but he's committed already to another woman,he loves her or not,he can't sail 2 rivers at the same time!If he played game with me or not,it's not my lost!I just hope,that his wife will love him more than I do.I need advice how to get on with my life again?And how to stop thinkin about him?DO I have to talk to him in a nice way to break up?Maybe he will threatin me again,and telling I am impatient and have no faith in us,make me feel guilty!
2007-02-27 05:25:46 · update #1
sell everything on ebay, amazon.com, or take it to the pond shop. wtih the money that you make from this...you can move to a new city and start a new life.
2007-02-27 05:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 05:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't you know GOD is watching you kick that loser to his wife.Remember what comes around goes around. One day you're going to have a committed relationship, and someone is going to cheat with your husband on you.If he does want to leave you alone tell him his wife doesn't need to know all of the things he did for you. Tell him to be on his way,and be careful of him.Sounds as if he is a real nobody.Tell a uncle ,brother or the law about him.I know you can find out more about this person, we ladies can do anything once we put our minds to it.
2007-02-27 06:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor pitiful you. Karma has a way of kicking you in the butt. You should have gotten out when you found out he was married. Move on and get yourself some dignity. Cut off all ties with him. Don't call him and if he calls don't answer. You should keep the stuff he gave you, you earned them.
2007-02-27 06:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by crystal17343 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't owe him the favor of returning his gift's to you.once given a gift is yours to keep and do as you please.if it would make you feel better by having them where you don't have to see them all the time,then send them back C.O.D. HE WILL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR SHIPPING!!!good luck to you,your changing your life before this goes any further. he wants you for the things that he's missing in his marriage.thats why he doesn't want to lose you. he had the best of both worlds.it's going to be hard for you to get over him because this became a habit.you had someone and now you want to do right.find a guy that will appreciate you.
2007-02-27 05:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not break up with someone that was never your to start with. this man knew he was married when this started even if you didnt and you found out at some point and that should have been the end of this love story right then. at this point what could you say to him just walk away and let him deal with the mess he created by cheating and remember if they will do it with you they will do it to you cheaters never change....
2007-02-27 05:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is easy for me to say, but just leave him. I know you have deep feelings for him, but you will always be the other woman... second. Keep the stuff. He won't make a big stink about it since I doubt he will want his wife to find out.
2007-02-27 05:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give him back anything, you are allowing him to walk all over you twice - DONT DO THAT TO YOURSELF! Burn anything not of cash value, sell the rest and get yourself a "breakup gift" on his dime - he owes you something for having utilized your spirit, time, energy & (body?), etc., etc. THis is not to sound as if you are being paid for something, but your lack of self respect needs a boost! This is a great place to start!
2007-02-27 05:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You decide what, if anything, to give him back. He made gifts to you and has no right to have them back. Do not let him control your life. He has caused you too much pain already. Remove yourself from the situation. From how you have described him I think that leaving without saying anything is the best avenue.
2007-02-27 05:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't owe this guy anything. With the stuff he gave you, sell it for extra money, and don't tell him. Cut off all communication with him completely. If you have to, change your number, email accounts, even your address. He's a loser and you deserve better. Many blessings.
2007-02-27 05:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT send anything back!! Jeez...who cares what he thinks of you keeping the gifts....
Is he going to somehow refund the time you wasted crying over him? If he is, fine, send the gifts back.
YES, just leave without saying anything, he will get the picture.
If he insists to get the things back, send them to his wife.
2007-02-27 05:21:21 · answer #11 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋