After I had my baby boy, I totally lost interest in sex in any way. Since I wanted every day before delivery, my husband got used to it and now keeps trying and asking and I just starting to be alergic to any mention of sex, I am afraid I am going to hate it after a while. Did you have the same problem and most importanly, did your sexual apetite come back and when?
2007-02-27 05:08:23 · 11 answers · asked by Matahari 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
it will come back- your estrogen levels go way down after birth and you are a walking zombie from taking care of a newborn! With my first- it took almost a year for my sex drive to come back!..
Im in the opposite boat now though- dh couldnt get past the 'hurting baby/thinking about baby' so we didnt have sex for almost 2 months before i delivered and i was horny as all get -out... now he wants it- and im still wanting it.. lol.. but im still 'bleeding'.. so far it's a no go.. can't wait until i stop! haha. good luck and don't worry- it will come back =)
2007-02-27 05:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok! I'd bet about half, at least, the women who've had babies lost interest in sex after the baby for awhile. I mean, hello, you just went through this huge ordeal to deliver the wonderful baby. The pain is still fresh, the thoughts of how it all began are still there, and it's not a comfortable thing. Gradually the appetite will come back. You need to still cuddle and kiss with your husband. Let him know how you are feeling right now. As long as he gets some attention, I'm sure he'll be patient with you. If it goes on too long, ask your doctor for help. Remember to take time for you and make a date night for you and your hubby. Things will progress in their own time and soon you'll be back doing the bunny dance as often as he wants.
2007-02-27 05:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't necessarily lose interese, just the energy required to actually accomplish it!
Some days, after holding and nursing the baby all day, plus night wakings, etc. I just felt "touched out", and those particular times the last thing on my mind was more touching.
Both were temporary; hubby and I just learned to take advantage of other times when I was less exhausted, more open to physical intimacy. The end of a long, hard day with a small baby was definitely NOT the right time to approach me for sex!
2007-02-27 05:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by LaundryGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did after my first. My husband work midnight and slept during the day. So I had to take care of our daughter all night and all day by myself. I had no help from anyone, parents lived almost 2 hours away.
Our husband's have to realise that we are carrying alot more weight at the end of pregnancies and then we have to deliver the baby. I had an emergency c-section so I had to heal. Then we are the ones who get up at all hours for the baby's needs. We are just so tired and sex is the last thing on our minds. Our 2nd baby is almost 3 mths old and just now he is realising that I do need help around the house, instead of him sitting on the computer playing games. He asks me to get him up during the night to give him a bottle. The baby wakes up about 4 4.30 am, my husband gets up at 4.30 am to go to work. So what is the point of me getting him up when he leaves shortly there after. Sorry to vent on your question, but there are father out there who need to know this.
HELP YOUR WIFES. WHEITHER SHE ASKS FOR IT OR NOT.
2007-02-27 05:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by HAH 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will come back your body has been through a lot of changes. You are a new mother and right now that is your first priority. Tell your husband to be patient. Maybe you could try cuddling and kissing and holding hands, that way he still feels important and that you still love him. Trust me it will come back. Hormones are part of it. Exhastion is part of it. Like I said your body has been through a lot. Take care of y;ourself first. Everyone else will come later. My experience was much the same and it came back. Ive had three children. Three times the experience.
2007-02-27 05:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost interest during my pregnancy and didn't regain it until about two months after. It's tough on the men, but remind them how tough it was being pregnant, giving birth, and recovering. Encourage him to have some quality time with himself until you start to feel better. Giving birth takes a lot out of your body and taking care of a newborn can really leave you feeling loved and touched out. It'll get better.
2007-02-27 05:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my sex interest too after I gave birth, it was painful and dry. It didn't get back to normal 1 year later, never able to organsm again somehow. I think it might be the episiotomy I receive in the hopsital
2007-02-27 05:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES I lost interest, esp. as I had more kids. My youngest biological child is 3 now, and my sex drive will probably never be what it was but it is much better. We're back up to a couple times a month now.
2007-02-27 05:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEP! you in basic terms could relax and discover a time to get interior the temper whilst everyhting is quiet, attempt letting him supply you a heat tub or a foot rub down till now you attempt!! now and back you should no longer be interior the temper yet as quickly because it extremely is in you already know which you have ignored it!!
2016-11-26 02:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by kirodimal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been 8 years...I'm still waiting.
2007-02-27 05:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by Quarter Midget Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋