2007-02-27 04:55:10 · 8 answers · asked by Seerin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a dude...
sorry
2007-02-27 05:05:09 · update #1
she has my kid..and hangs it over my head i may never see her again
2007-02-27 05:05:59 · update #2
she does that because she has her own insecurities and takes it out on you... if she belittles you it makes her feel better about herself...shes the one with the problem... and you shouldnt feel worthless.. you know ur special esp to ur child....how to cope.... get a lawyer and tell him what are ur rights as a father.... but always be there for ur child....dont allow her bad mouth to keep u away from ur child... maybe thats why she does it... and if it has to do with money... just tell her ur trying ur best.... a child will always remember love that u gave them before a toy...
2007-02-27 05:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to cope with this you have to figure out why you think you feel worthless. Once you find that out you have to figure out a way to deal with the outcome. For instance, she's telling you, you are a worthless father because of some reason. You just need to realize that you aren't a worthless father and just try to be there for your kid no matter what happens between you and your ex. She is just trying to make your life harder on you and you are letting her do it. Just keep your head up and do what you think you need to do. You have to believe you aren't worthless before this is going to be over.
2007-02-27 14:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jessika J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might tell you your worthless b/c you skipped out on your child support hearing....hmm....sound familiar? When you say I'm holding the child over your head. I ask what am I supposed to do you won't pay. Should I let you see her still?? I do no other bargaining for you to get your child. I haven't taken you to court to decide visitation I have left it up to us. I keep asking for days you can take her. I"m the one doing all the pushing. How many times have you called to see if you get her out of the blue? Since we broke you have asked for her maybe one time, I'm the one calling you to see if you want to get her. I'm forcing you to have a relationship with your daughter. From now on if you want her you call me I'm not begging you to take her. I've told you time and time you can have her whenever you want.....If your not worthless then you know it and it shouldn't bother you??
2007-02-27 14:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to control you. Ignore him. Go out with your friends and do whatever you want to do. When he recognizes he has no power over you, he'll back off.
And really, he has no power over you. You get to decide what you are worth - no one else.
I know it's hard at first but practice laughing when he tries to denigrate you. He'll figure out soon he has no power or control over you any more.
Good luck, sweetie.
2007-02-27 13:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what exes do, unfortunately. As for the kid, get a lawyer. There are laws as to what she can and can't do!
2007-02-27 13:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an ex is an ex for a reason. why do you associate with him/her.? stop talking with this person. they can't make you feel worthless if you don't talk to them. ask yourself why you want to talk to someone who makes you feel this way? this is abuse. don't put up with it.
2007-02-27 13:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE HER AS$ TO COURT AND TRY TO GET FULL CUSTODY... MAYBE SHE'LL SEE THINGS IN A DIFFERENT LIGHT... HER TRYING TO MANIPULATE YOU LIKE THAT WITH THE CHILD IS GROUNDS FOR STICKING HER WITH AN "UNFIT MOTHER" LAWSUIT... LET HER KNOW THAT AND I'LL BET SHE'LL CHANGE HER TUNE REAL QUICK... I HATE WOMEN LIKE THAT...
2007-02-27 13:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by Love Me or Hate Me... 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ignore him
2007-02-27 12:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋