I have so much to do...work, kids, house work, pets to care for and All I ever get done is sleep. Why?

Question

I really do want the other things to be taken care of. I just cannot get motivated. What is wrong? What will help?

Answer 1

Work, children, pets seems overwhelming at times for anyone.
Don't make all of these daily things overwhelm you. You sleep for escape a lot of people do, or they choose unhealthy escape routes.
Maybe you are sad about something right now. Can you talk to anyone? I know we all are vulnerable to getting depressed. I was for awhile at one time. It helps to get things off your chest with someone else who cares, or can relate to what your going through, like another working parent maybe, or if you can an older Aunt, Uncle, or family member. They've been through this situation or something similar. If not there are Family Group Organizations that can help out, try your local papers.

Distraction was my biggest problem. I couldn't stay focused on what I was doing. Because I had to devote most of myself to everyone else, I had to invent a thing I called "my-time", a time I could do what I wanted to do like paint. I did this when I knew the distractions of daily life could be minimized. It helped me relax, and was so therapeutic I could deal with the daily routines in my life.

Hope this inspires you.

Answer 2

That's not an uncommon problem. Some people, when faced with what seems an overwhelming task or amount of things to do, "hide" from it or procrastinate because they can't decide where to start and it seems impossible to get done.

Don't think of EVERYTHING you have to do, but just one task at a time. Do that task, and then move on to the next task.

Looking at the situation in parts, instead of the whole, will seem less daunting. Prioritize what you need to do, then take care of the more important stuff first and work down to the less important stuff.

How old are the kids? Can they help? If they are old enough, have them help care for the pets and help with the housework. Everyone who lives there should be responsible for keeping up the home...not just you. ☺

Answer 3

It could be depression. I'm a single mum, 3 kids under 8, work 4 days a week and my house is always a mess. I'd like things to be different but have had to accept that I am not superwoman. I make sure the essentials are done ( clothes washed, lunches made, shopping done, kids bathed, homework done, kitchen cleaned,- every day, phew!) and try not to worry too much about the rest. It all gets done eventually. Try to make some 'me' time for yourself. Read a book, have a bath, chill with a DVD when the kids are asleep, and know that you are doing your best.
Good luck
Jx

Answer 4

Sounds like depression. I am a secretary for therapists and that's what they would told you, but with a cost. I would ask your general doctor. Maybe a light dose of prescription anti-depressants will help. Watch that. Make sure you're not allergic to anything and you DON'T take more than they prescribe. Prayer is always a good thing. Talk to some friends that know you and can tell if this is a serious problem because they know how you should be. It will suffer the children and even the pets if you 'don't pull it together'. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 5

You're feeling overwhelmed! Try making a list. Then prioritize the list and tackle things one at a time. Not only will you accomplish more, you'll feel better about yourself and you'll find it easier to tackle the next day. I recommend a daily list, and don't feel bad if you don't accomplish everything in one day. Just scratch things off as you complete them.

Answer 6

you may have the winter time blues.. get up 15 minutes earlier than normal make a coffee or a tea and sneak away from it all before you have to get the kids and yourself ready for the day!

Answer 7

I guess prioritizing your work would do wonders.You can plan the next day schedule ,the previous day and stick to it.The most important thing is being committed to your plan.