My husband and son are huge baseball fans. They watch and play it all the time. My son recently tried out for his school's baseball team and didn't make it. He was so disapointed. I talked to the coach and let him know that my son has been working out really hard, and how it is his dream to make the team. The coach told me that if I really want my son on the team, I would have to sleep with him every weekend until the end of the season. I was outraged. I slapped his face for being such a perv. When I got home and informed my husband about the conversation I had with the coach he got mad at me!!! He told me that as parents we need to do whatever it takes to ensure our son has every advantage in life. He says that baseball is our son's dream and if I have to sleep with the coach for a couple of months just to make our son happy then I should willingly do it. Is he right? Should I really have to sleep with my son's baseball coach?? Help please!
2007-02-27 04:32:13 · 59 answers · asked by mamabag06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you shouldn't and your husband is wrong on so many levels!!! I think your dilemma right now shouldn't be whether you should sleep with the baseball coach but whether you should continue to be in such a unhealthy relationship. If this happened to my wife, I would would seriously give the baseball coach an a$$-whopping and call the cops on him for trying to take advantage of the situation- NOT tell my wife that she should SLEEP with the a$$hole!!!!
Even if you think you are doing this for the good of your son- how do you think your son would feel if he finds out about the real reason he made the baseball team?! And, what if you have to continue to cave into this sick bribe EVERY baseball season... your son will most likely find out later on in his life and will resent you and hate your husband for it. If your son can't make the baseball team this season, if he really loves baseball- he can try harder and will make it the next season. I recommend you spending more time encouraging your son's passion than giving in to some pervert's.
I don't know you... but I'm kind of worried for you... your husband's response to the situation is the opposite of what a normal, loving husband's response should be. It seems like you are a good mother and you are definitely trying very hard for your family... you don't deserve this kind of treatment from him. It seems like he cares about your son but he shouldn't manipulate you to sacrifice yourself for your son. I think you should seek professional counseling or help for your relationship with your husband... he is mentally abusing you.
I hope everything works out.
2007-02-27 05:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by mercury 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I hope this isn't a real question because you are surrounded by some very disturbed men. If a coach is offering to put your son on a team for sexual favors he should be reported immediately. Also, is this the kind of coach you want your son to learn baseball from? I am sure there are other youth leagues in your area for him to join.
If your husband really said that you should have slept with the coach - slap him twice as hard. Seek marriage counseling.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 04:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a father you need to teacher your son that some time life is not fair, BUt you practice harder then you will make it next year. Jordan did not make his high basketball team but won 5 NBA rings. Your husband is wrong. He needs to stop living his dream through his son. If I was you I would leave your husband. Think if your son knows that the only way he made it was that you sleep with the coach. Kids would make fun of him and he could be depressed his whole life. I played aaa baseball for the san diego . I worked my *** of and it feels great to know i did it by my self ;-)
2007-02-27 04:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you see where you stand. Talk 2 the other mothers & see if they have had the same exp,Then contact the school about this.Hope there was someone else around 2 back you up.I wouldn't have my son on the team until the coach is replaced.On moral charges.Your nut-less husband should of confronted the coach stood up for you.Your call on the spinless husband, He lose all respect. Whats next for you if the stays.
2007-02-27 05:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is going too far and you should report the coach to the school administrators because that is ridiculous. He should be fired that is clearly sexual harassment and you should sue him and the school for that. No you should not have to sleep with the coach to ensure your son has a spot on the time and you should slap your husband too for saying that if anything he should of kicked the guys *** for even saying that to his wife. Hell if your husband feels that strongly about it he should sleep with the coach and then you should divorce him.
2007-02-27 04:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck no! Good for you for slapping the perv in the face. I agree about making your son happy, but not by sleeping around. What kind of man is your husband that he would let you sleep with someone else? If your husband is mad about that then let him stay mad. He's got issues he needs to work out.
2007-02-27 04:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by jbug742 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This coach has made an unreasonable request and your husband is a total jerk for not supporting your position which should not be compromised, by the way. Your son needs to learn how to make his own way and not be dependant on others for his sucess. Your husband needs to grow up so he can teach his son something worth while and sports isn't it. Kind of lets you know where you stand huh, when he made this stupid statement. Don't compromise your good judgement over this bozo's dumb *** ways.
2007-02-27 04:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i'm pretty sure you have more dignity than to sleep with the coach oh well there's always next year and or talk to the school principal about getting your son on the team. What is your husband thinking obviously he does not care about you.
2007-02-27 04:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Jessica 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husban is really crazy. Either that or he does not love you anymore because he does not care about you anymore. You should not sleep with the baseball coach at all and you should report what he told you to the school principal. That is sexual abuse. Also, you need to confront your husband and tell him that you are not going to sleep with anyone and that you two are going to find another way to solve that problem. And again, report the coach to the principal, director or police for what he proposed.
2007-02-27 05:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by Solaris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me. If your son can't get into a baseball team on his own merits then he's not good enough. Change teams don't degrade yourself. Next minute your husbands going to be telling you that he needs to sleep with his secretary so she works harder and that will in turn put more food on your table. I would be ditching the husband as well as the team if I were you.
2007-02-27 04:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋