2007-02-27 04:29:41 · 26 answers · asked by BrianS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't know.. my guess is if she is love with someone else and she's told you.. she obviously doesn't love you as much as you love her..
perhaps its time you moved on and let her figure out whatever it is she needs to figure out..
and you can find yourself a decent women who loves you and no one else
2007-02-27 04:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Immediately get some space from her. You need some alone time to process this. Don't fight for her, dont talk to her in your time alone. You have a big decision to make and your wife is a coward and weak for "connecting" with another during your marriage. She is selfish for holding on to you. She got to a point where she saw you for what your were not, and put you in a very bad posiition. Love is about consistency and she will realize that. But she never will if you are there for her. During your time alone you might realize somethings about her and yourself. When you love someone you are able to compromise some of your core values. Dont do that to yourself by allowing yourself to be taken for granted. You need to regain your sense of self worth again. She doesn't know what its like to lose something good, and you will only let her have control if you continue to be there for her. Your love is a privilege, not a right. She does not deserve that by not being honest with you. You need time to yourself to process all this info.
2007-02-27 12:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life can be so cruel sometimes, there is not a lot you can do, she has been so honest with you, is she just saying this to wake you up in the relationship or has she been seeing this other guy behind your back. The only thing you can do is accept what she is saying and try to move on with your life, you cannot make somebody love you. Try to learn from it what you was or was not doing right in the relationship. Do not let her walk all over you as you still have feelings for her. Move on, Good luck to you.
2007-02-27 12:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to communicate with her and get to the root of why she's so in love with this other person.
Maybe she is in denial or going through a hormonal phase in her life where she feels this is the only way to get your attention. Talk to her, maybe even go to a marriage counselor if you think it would help. Pray on the matter.
Dig deeper to find out why she doesn't love you the way she loves this other person.
Sorrry, and hope all goes well with you. You deserve more!â¥
2007-02-27 12:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow thats harsh. i'm sorry for the hurt you must be feeling and i guess no one can say anything to take that away. however i will tell you that although you must feel really bad right now your probably at your lowest point. now your wife has told you how she feels you can at least communicate with each other and hopefully mutually agree how to move on from here.
I wish you good luck, strength and patience and hope that in a short time from now you'll be feeling better than you do right now.
2007-02-27 12:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by denise m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how long has she been in love with this other person is the question is it even worth trying to save? Sometimes the more u try to save a marrage the worse it gets. if she stills loves u and u are willing to forgive her then fight with all u got. But if there is no feeling in her for u let her go u will be better off even thou it kills u inside. you only make yourself sick because u can't have her. not worth hun. pat
2007-02-27 12:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats terrible news but at least she has been good enough to tell you now rather then continuing a relationship behind your back. Its awful but believe me the hurt soon turns to anger which helps you to get over it faster. Then you can get on with your life & find someone who truly loves you back....one day she will regret it.
2007-02-27 12:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me 2 months ago,believe me you think your going insane,but the pain does subside and you soon realise all the bad stuff about that person YOU thought they were but were not.
Move on and move upwards,do things for yourself and learn to love yourself more than you once loved her.
Happy Healing xxx
2007-02-27 13:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by live life 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry, i was a wife who fell in love with someone else, and ive seen the pain you,ll be feeling i hope one day the hurt will go for you, i do feel for you x
2007-02-27 12:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by apple 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, she has obviously been seeing someone else to fall in love with him, why would you want to stay with a cheat?
2007-02-27 13:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by geehaich 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋