how to have a happy marriage?

Question

tips for a lasting and rewarding marriage

Answer 1

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.

4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.

Answer 2

Hello Georgia,

There is alot of things that are key and important to having a happy and successful marriage . Communication and trust for starters. Honesty and mutual respect are very important and never go to bed angry with each other. Unconditional love and unselfishness are key factors as well. Talk through things rationally instead of fighting and yelling at each other. Always hold hands and spend time together. Go out on dates once a month or more. Love each other no matter what. If there are problems you cannot seem to work through seek counseling and help for the marriage to try and get it back on track again. Do not ever talk bad about your spouse to anyone at any time and never cut each other down. Treat and love each other the way you want to be treated and loved. Praying together is key as well and God really should be the center of the relationship and marriage. Making your marriage and spouse a top priority in your life is very important because where your priorities are in life is what becomes your passion of your heart and life.

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Answer 3

It's not magical or complicated! Get a copy of the traditional wedding vows and go over them time and time again with each other. Make sure that you both understand what each word in those vows mean! The part that most people can't seem to hold themselves to is the part where you promise to love(NOT LUST), honor, and cherish each other. Those three little words of commitment hold the most power to a lifelong marriage. You love them for what they are inside not outside, you honor each other by staying faithful and not giving in to temptation, and you cherish them even through terminal sickness because life is so short. If you both agree to not just recite those vows for one day, but live them every day you will have a happy marriage that will overcome any obstacle and last your entire lifetime. Take it from someone who has tried it, lived it, and accomplished it.

Answer 4

Don't be SELFISH.
Don't marry someone that is SELFISH.

So getting lazy in the rack is selfish,
Not working is selfish,
Hanging out with buddies or girlfriends ALL the time is selfish,
Getting fat is selfish,
Complaining about 5 extra pounds is selfish,

Get the point -- the selfish angle covers all the problems.

So given those two conditions, if two selfless people make a commitment to put the marriage first. The rest is happy history with a little work (negotiating) and some knocks (finances) thrown in from time to time.

Answer 5

Put your spouse first. Ahead of yourself, ahead of the kids, everything.

Don't let a day go by without doing something nice for them.

Trust them. Be trustworthy.

Be honest. Accept their honesty (i.e. don't crucify them for the truth - if you do, you won't get the truth anymore). Open and honest communication.

No sneakiness. No lies. No having a completely separate life.

Be dedicated only to your spouse.

Answer 6

Build your relationship on a Godly foundation.

Answer 7

Be happy, act happy

Answer 8

Be honest and open with each other.

Debbie H.