I am happy to report that my wife loves me even more for letting get sex on the side. She has been deprived for the past 5 years due to my health condition so I decided to let her enjoy herself sexually on occasion. Neither of us feel ashamed or damaged today because it is not about relationship, just sex.
2007-02-27 04:06:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is it a mental health condition?.
2007-02-27 04:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by Tha Most Shady 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm...
Well there's a saying that I believe in: "There's more to a relationship than sex"
But also there is the (somewhat) contrary: "There is more to sex than just sex"
I know as a guy that you and I see sex as somewhat detached from feeling. Women are not wired this way. I wish you the best, but I think that this will cause problems. There may be moral, emotional, religious, intimate and other issues that you will have to deal with. It's hard to take something this personal and talk about it, but a marriage counselor could save you a lot of grief or at least give you piece of mind. Consider getting professional counseling.
2007-02-27 12:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by Wes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are "happy to report" and you "don't feel ashamed or damaged" and it's "just sex" then why are you seeking approval from strangers? That's your business and it's your sex life and no one else can give you advice on what's okay for you or give you approval that you've done the right thing. No one on Answers is going to come to your house and settle your marriage problems if something goes wrong with the choices you are making. I really don't understand why you posted this.
2007-02-27 12:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Is this your 63 year old (no wait you're in your 40s and 50s) wife who thinks you roleplay too much because that's the only way you can get excited but who likes your fantasy of you catching her with a black man? Maybe she's one of those "married cougars" you were asking about. The one you say is "not open minded enough".
2007-02-27 20:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by RIFA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally i would not be able to put up with this, no matter what the circumstances were, but whatever u feel is right. aren't u afraid she will leave u for someone else and fall in love, what about HIV and the std,s. sexual relations sometimes do turn into affairs and people can't help but get involved emotionally. not a good bet if i were betting on it.
2007-02-27 12:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have a health condition and cannot help her in the sexual department I feel that you are a very wonderful and loving man for doing that for your wife...
and if you both love eachother enough and this is helping your relationship that is wonderful...
i just wouldn't have you wife doing it all of the time...
but good for the both of you for having such a strong relationship
2007-02-27 12:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by colie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As long as she does not being to have feelings for some one else, then your okay. It's when it is not just about the sex, that you have a real problem and have made a real mistake.
2007-02-27 12:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bearess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey good for you no i don't think its a mistake.your wife has stood by your side without any neuky she loves you.she obviously knows that her grass is greener in her yard.hey i am all for just sex.i have brought a girlfriend home for my husband,and he has let me have fun on the side .as long as she is telling you of her intentions before she acts on them and is wearing protection,who the hell are we to judge.i say have fun .you have to keep each other happy.if you cant have sex how r u satisfied.?
i say i would take you to a titty bar and get you a bunch of lap dances.don't listen to any bashers out there.they are just hating the fact that you two are somewhere in your relationship that they r not.good luck
2007-02-27 12:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by TRXCEE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if this is OK with both of you than who am I to say it is wrong. Is it a mistake? could be because she just might find someone that can give her the "complete package" and leave you for the "young stud". Hope this works out for ya
2007-02-27 12:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are Ok with it, keep on loving. Not many people are confident in their relationships to do this for their spouses. You're a good man!
2007-02-27 12:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by fdrsnail 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋