Good news: I got my driver's license from the DMV about two weeks ago.
Bad news: My parents do not think it's safe for me to drive yet. I mean, I have been taking lessons for over 5 months and they STILL don't trust me?!?! WTH?! I was gonna make a statement on saying, "Why get my license if you cannot let me drive?" That's like having them giving me $100 in spending money and not having me spend it. >:-( ARUGH! I kept on telling them that I want to drive, but they kept saying "No." *sighs*
P.S. I'm turning 21 this year in November. Would this be considered "abuse to children?"
I'm in need of desperate help, here.
2007-02-27 04:01:40 · 43 answers · asked by Jonathan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is not abuse, silly! They are purely over-protective, give them the opportunity to see you drive more, drive them around more, let them gain trust in you by experiencing your driving, prove them wrong! Nothing better!
2007-02-27 04:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I feel like if you are 21 you should have been had your license and are you living at home? You are a grown man you are not a 14 yr old boy you can buy you a car and drive it all you want too because it is your car. I think you need to get out of your parents house and live on your own. At 21 you should be the most trustworthy person they know but either you are leaving something out or you really need to grow up and stop asking your parents opinions on everything
2007-02-27 04:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not so bad to wait to drive. Your insurance rates are sky high right now, depending on your credit. if you wait until you are 25, your insurance rates are lower. driving is responsibilty. if you let it get out of control so many bad things can happen. but if u use it to do good, it will work FOR you. that statistics say men under 25 are bad drivers. i can't believe you've waited so long to drive. most people start driving around 15 or 16. but if you really want to know what i think, maybe its time to assert some independance. you depend on your parents for everything it seems, now you'll have to break free from that eventually. why not now, when you are old enough. if you have the money to become independant, do it. but dont make the wrong choices. and drive the speed limit. there is nothing cute about speeding or tailing someone.
2007-02-27 04:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by theskyisthelimit02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a rational conversation with your parents. Show some maturity by sitting down and talking like adults. Find out what their concerns are. Address their concerns. If they're being ridiculous, you'll get a better sense for that. What's keeping you from buying your OWN car?? Get a job, get some money, and take the initiative to be an adult. Show them you're capable of it. They might feel differently about you.
2007-02-27 04:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by luv2teech2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've done nothing to make them not trust you, then I would tell them politely that you are of legal age and you can drive if you want. The problem is, if they purchased the car, then they can decide if you drive it or not. I would save up and move out, and get my own vehicle. It wouldn't be considered abuse to children, because you are not a child! Maybe that's the problem....
2007-02-27 04:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by Whitney S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude your 21 and they wont let you drive? If you have a job go and buy a car. If you live with them I guess they can tell you what to do but if you move out then they cant say anything, but damn your 21 and they wont let you drive? Thats harsh. I wouldn't call it abuse to children because basically your not a child anymore...your a adult.
2007-02-27 04:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take some time to sit down and understand their specific concerns. What are they worried about? What concerns them? Write them all down. Don't be defensive here. Just listen to what their concerns are and make sure you truely and completely understand them.
Then what you need to do is write down all of their concerns and try to come up with ways to make them feel safer about these points. If you were in business, you might cause this risk mitigation.
For instance, if one of their concerns is that you will get a speeding ticket you need to come up with some ideas to reduce this risk. You might need to get creative. I think that there are boxes that can be added to cars for teenage drivers that monitor the speeds you are going at and record the maximum speeds for parents later review, for instance.
Your parent's may be concerned about you being out late at night. You might need to establish a car curfew and make sure you have the car in the garage by a certain time. So, set up some policies that help them understand that you are willing to help reduce the risks and concerns that they have.
On the other hand...if you are 21 you are an adult and can move out and get your own car, pay for your own insurance, and live in your own house or apartment.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 04:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by BAM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This would not be considered "abuse to children" since you are currently 20. Be adult enough to approach your parents on an adult level and not that of a child. Give examples of WHY you should be allowed to drive and ask for small increments of time to allow you to do so. Prove that you can be trusted and give them reason to allow you more extended periods to be on your own. Also, if you live in a city, perhaps there is good reason to think it is not safe for you to drive. Also, offer to run errands for your parents and they will be happy to allow you to drive. Good luck.
2007-02-27 04:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by purplesec 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're over 18 put your foot down and stop letting your parents dictate your life to you! Wow! If you're almost turning 21 they again, have no say over you.
Now if you're living in their house you have to obey certain rules but this is just plain ridiculous! You didn't mention, however, if you have your own car. If not, than ya I guess they are calling the shots.
Get a job...get money...get your own dang car...and do whatever you want! grow up :)
2007-02-27 04:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it has something to do with your personality. Are you the reckless type. Do you act mature and responsible? The big question are you a good careful driver, obey all the signs and rules of the road? Maybe after honestly answering these questions, then you will have your answer. You are 21, get a job and your own set of wheels.
2007-02-27 04:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not abuse, but I must say: at 21 you do not need your parent permission to drive a car, you were legal ADULT age 3 years ago, if you want to drive, then go drive.
2007-02-27 04:05:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋