I need help with this assignment give me your opionon please. can you help me please. assignment>>Can you imagine trying to have a conversation with someone who was looking at the floor instead of looking at you? Would this make you feel comfortable or uncomfortable? Would you think that this person was actually listening to you? Probably not! You can say a whole lot about your feelings and attitude with your body before anything comes out of your mouth.
2007-02-27 03:52:08 · 12 answers · asked by alwayz_n_trouble01 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Homework Help
I work as a counsellor and spend a good part of my week having 'conversations' with people who for a variety of reasons find making eye contact impossible. It doesn't necessarily mean that they aren't listening, or that they aren't interested, or even that they feel guilt, it just means eye contact, invasion of their personal space, or the barriers they have surrounded themselves with for protection, are very firmly in place.
I don't find it uncomfortable, sometimes just trying to imagine how difficult the process is for the other person, allowing them to see that they are not under attack, there is no immediate danger can be enough for them to loosen up and to take the first steps to letting go of whatever it is they are protecting themselves from.
I was very shy as a child, what made it worse was that my mother would immediately tell people that I was 'shy' and that I wouldn't talk to them. I never really ever had the opportunity to be any diferent because the moment she said that, other kids lost interest, and adults seemed to like a quiet child that didn't demand anything of them. I learned to break the habit after I left my teens and moved away, people didn't know me and I was able to throw off the 'shy' tag.
The best way to deal with this situation you mention is just to try and gain the confidence of the person looking at the floor, accepting that something has happeend to them to make them feel uneasy and to also just understand that sometimes people just do that, sometimes people just look anywhere but at the person they are 'talking' with. it's up to you to decide if you want to persevere, if the person in worth the effort, or if you really can't handle it.
2007-02-27 04:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Eden* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You couldn't have a conversation with someone looking at the floor because they are clearly not interested in what you have to say. A person that is interested would give you eye contact. It wouldn't make me uncomfortable but it would irritate me a little because I would feel like they don't care about me or anything that I have to say. If I took the time to talk to you about the situation then it must be important to me. I would ask them if they had something better to do because they obviously are not interested in the conversation.
2007-02-27 12:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone doesn't look at me when I am talking to him or her, I always think the person isn't listening or that they have something to hide and don't want me to see their full face. Facial expressions, especially what the eyes can show, and very revealing. I learned at an early age that if I had done something wrong, I should just confess. All my mom had to do was look at me (or my brother or sister) to know that everything was not as it should be. She was a teacher, and I think she could do the same thing to students once she got to know them.
2007-02-27 12:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lillian L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when someone is talking to me I think it's a "polite" thing to look at them so i try to always look. Sometimes when I know I'm not going to respond to what they are saying I'll look down so that they won't have to ask me anything after they're story.
When I try to talk someone intern i do expect them to look at me and it's a little uncomfortable if they do not look at me because it seems like they are just ready for me to finish whatever it is I'm saying.
I guess you just have to look at both sides of the spectrum.
CC
2007-02-27 12:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone looking down at the floor shows no interest in the topic or the person is thinking about something else. it also shows guilt.
2007-02-27 11:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Steve S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the easiest way to go about this is to think of the way you react to peoples body language. think how people react to you depending on the signals you send. eg: eye contact, fidgeting, arms crossed or loose. If you want to be creative you could actually go out one day and do some experiments. talk to different people while using different body language with the different people and see how they react.
2007-02-27 11:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Faz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can imagian haveing a conversation with someone looking at the floor.It makes me feel uncomftorble because its rude.No probly not listening.All of them are my brother!
2007-02-27 15:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by kimmelltwo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BODY LANGUAGE.
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2007-02-27 13:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe this person is shy....i know someone who does this
when talking to her.....she never look directly at you.. i mean at your eyes......and if she notices you looking directly at her when you are talking to her......she looks away................strange
2007-02-27 12:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Nevaeh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uncomfortable not listerning
2007-02-27 12:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by charles h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋