I am extremely dissapointed in my brother. Is he a sellout?
I am a black woman who is 21 and proud of her heritage. My younger brother Devon is 14 and in the 8th grade. I found his winter sports program on the desk in the den and I wanted to see his picture cause he is a basketball player. He goes to a mostly white middle school but we are proud blacks. Anyway, when I turned the pages, it was stuck together, and I was like what the heck and sure enough when I finally was able to pull the pages apart, it tore and sure enough there was a picture of the 7th and 8th grade cheerleaders and the pages were stuck. He did the deed on the page. I am so upset cause these were all white girls. Stringy blondes and brunettes. I read the names like Kristin, Elizabeth, Courtney, Tiffany, Paige, etc? I am like what the heck is my brother doing? Is he a sellout? Is he an oreo cookie?
2007-02-27 03:44:56 · 19 answers · asked by huerster101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's shallow. Black or white, it doesn't matter. Stop being so proud and be a human first. You should try white guys on dates before judging.
I'm white and I have dated the whole rainbow of ladies. I like mixing cultures. My kids are Asian.
2007-02-27 03:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well there are many answers to this. No I don't think he's a sellout, at 14 he'll do the deed to whomever he can! And even though I know how you feel - my older brother married a white woman and my 15 year old son mostly likes the little white girls in school, but both of them went to predominately white schools so I think environment plays a large part - demand and supply - not many black girls around. Obviously you love your brother as I love my brother and my son, and ultimately I want them to be happy. I was very hurt and upset at my brother, but I learned to deal with it. From that experience I'm able to say to my son "well it's your choice, but I'd really like it if you'd marry a black woman and raise a black family". I don't nag him right now, I just keep dropping "tidbits" in his ear and hopefully he'll make the "right" choice. You just want your brother to be happy right? Perhaps you can introduce him to some cute black cheerleaders or better yet, help steer his mind in another direction and off girls. Are there any African American resources, centers or programs you could suggest he enrolls in? Help him to learn more about his heritage and then let him make up his own mind. Remember though that it's his choice, all you can do is support and love him. Good luck.
2007-02-27 03:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first things first. This is none of your business. Second this had nothing to do with him being a sell out it has to do with him being male.
Now if there are mostly white girls in his school, who do you think he is gonna fantasize about? Second you have been black long enough to know that some of our men have a thing for white women even if they never act on it.
What is wrong with names like Kristin Elizabeth and Tiffany. I know black women with those names. Our children would fare better in the world if we stoped making up names for them like Shamaniqua( I know one of those two) so called Black names just label our children with stereotype images and helps single them out for discrimination. Now they do not even have to be seen their name on a list lables them and targets them.
More "proud blacks" should drop their own brand of racism and open their minds. We will all be a lot better off when we all stop with the color coded thinking.
2007-02-27 03:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, he is not a sellout. and i think you should be ashamed of yourself for thinking that way. because he did the deed to some girls at his school?!?!?! c'mon now, it's 2007!!! growing up my brother was in the same predicament. he went to a high-school that was predominately white and Asian. he was on the swim and water-polo teams...he loves to snow board and he listens to rock music. and yes, he's a black man with a white girlfriend....and you know what??? who the hell cares?!?!? he's my little brother and i will always love him...you can't blame your brother for his environment and surroundings. he's not supposed to look at the girls at his school because he's black and they're white?!?!? c'mon now, he's 14!!! he's gonna look, regardless of skin color...he's 14!!! i don't know how much i can stress that point. but you being the older one, you know you're wrong for even thinking that he's a sell-out. your closed-mindedness is hindering you from experiencing the world around you. and that, my sistah, is sad.
2007-02-27 03:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by desireme112 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's the colored like you who always point fingers at the whites saying we're the prejuduce ones! I think blacks are more so than whites! And the blacks get more from the states and federal laws.
IF your proud of your heritage, why not go to where it really started?
NO, your brother isn't a sellout. He's a kid who isn't predujuduce like YOU!
2007-02-27 03:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As long as he believes in being a young proud black male, what does it matter who he finds attractive or not?
And you have to realize, he's in a predominately white school, so his choices may be limited to some extreme.
He's not a sellout, he's just a typical young man.....
2007-02-27 03:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok i think of your brother is in basic terms starting to be up after all he's an adolescent. i comprehend the undeniable fact that hes duin it to gimpy cheerleaders isnt the suited because of fact shall we face it now and back they are no longer the suited of those with their like totallys and stuff yet i duno. Ya ok they have been all white females yet is it no longer solid in a fashion that he feels delicate to it like im white and that i comprehend there are some sexy black adult men obtainable and im particular in line with danger uv liked a white guy a while on your existence like wat im getting at it extremely is probably hes jus drawn to those females coz of basketball and cheerleading they r kinda grouped collectively arent they and he feels coz the different adult men like them then he shud. i havent a clue wat oreo cookies are the two coz im no longer from us of a of america yet i think of your brother is in basic terms starting to be up and has entered the huge undesirable international of center college or severe college. As u reported many of the college is white- in line with danger theres no longer a black woman there he likes or maybe he hasnt got here upon a black woman he likes in basic terms yet yet he probable will. Jus supply him time. Hes no longer a sellout tho hes jus a youthful lad.
2016-11-26 02:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real?! My goodness...so your brother got turned on by some pics of white girls, why should this bother you?
This is what you get for snooping....respect his privacy and don't say a word to him about it...I can't believe you can get so worked up over something like this.
2007-02-27 04:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets just be glad that he is not playing with himself looking at other guys. He is going through a faze and once he gets around other black kids he will start to look at things differently. He is adapting to his surroundings so let him be a kid instead of trying to push him to be something that he doesn't want to be right now.
2007-02-27 04:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like those are the only girls he has access to. buy him an ebony book or something. my brother who is whiter than white with red hair is married to my black sister-n-law for 16 years, weird i never once thought he was a sell out
2007-03-02 22:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋