I have an extreme case of hormone imbalance, I have hair on my face back,and breast. I used to be very attractive, I was voted most attractive in high skool,Now,I gained 60-75 pounds in 3 years,& I'm very hairy. i don't take the time to invest in my looks because I feel what does it matter, I have a beard I can only wear t-shirts 2 my neck (chest hair) I no longer care about what I dress like. When we get in public, for an example we were in a crowded elevator, and my aunt said, 'Oh lord, u look so nasty today. Fix ur hair!" and my younger sister said 'Fat and Nasty" The ppl in the elevator just giggle, I said nothing. I practice daily grooming habits, I bath twice a day, but I don't see the need in dressing nice (t-shirts and sweats) or doing my hair (ponytails)
If u would have seen me when i was 13-17 I was gorgeous. I've gained so much weight and I have polycystic ovaries, so Ive got tons of hair everywhere and I've lost my hourglass figure. How can I make myself love myself again?
2007-02-27 03:44:47 · 14 answers · asked by karamel_kandi6 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You obviously need help. There are natural homones that can be taken as well as those the medical doctors give....which are manufactured ones.
One solution would be to go to a nutritionist and have them check out your problem. They can do amazing things...and can determine what can be done.....they will also look at the weight, etc.
My guess is some of the weight thing is because you are so depressed about the rest.....decide to do something....you sound like you are old enough ....don't expect your nonsupportive family to do it.....
Make a plan...and take the first step...find a professional nutritionist ( or doctor...but their approach will not be the same).
A nutritionist will work to find the "cause"...and what to do. using natural hormones, etc.
A doctor will try to medicate the problem...not the cause.
And realize this...the real "you" hasn't changed....it's your "image" that has changed...and yes it affects how you feel about yourself....but you can take steps to change it. You have to get determined...one step at a time. And for your own sake...don't "proclaim" to those around you what you are doing....let it be a surprise when they see the result...that way they won't discourage you out of what you need to do.
If your family doesn't help you now, they also won't help you improve it. It might even be that they resented your better image...and don't want you to get better?....only you would know.....people get jealous, and sometimes don't realize it....
Think "today is the first day of the rest of my life!" Get moving on it
2007-03-05 14:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok you can get a lot of help.
First, see your GP or OB/GYN and get those hormones under control. If you have polycystic ovaries, the pill and other hormonal medications that can help bring under control the symptoms you are having - especially the excess hair growth. You sound quite down as well, so hopefully your doctor would be able to help with that too.
It also sounds like you are only interacting with your family - this would annoy anyone, so try to get out a little bit more. Exercise can also help PCOS - you will probably feel a little bit better if you do that too.
Finally, I think you should try dressing up a little more even though you don't feel like it. It may help you feel better - you're upset mostly because you don't feel attractive but also because you must have spent a lot of time before doing your hair, make up and trying on clothes - you don't do this anymore.
Good luck - I wish you all the best for the future xx
2007-03-05 04:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that makes you a person, the appearance on the outside or the lovely mind and spirit behind it? To regain your self-confidence and love for yourself, get a long piece of paper, write down the attributes that make you such a special person. Dwell on these, and also know that the love you release into the universe always comes back. Receive the love back and know that this is more important than the skin you are in. This will help heal your emotion hurts.
You know, I'm a 50 year-old women who weighs 260 pounds, have fibromyalgia and arthritis in my back. I get through each day the best I can despite my pain. If I thought of this all day, I would be very unhappy. Sure I have my moments, but I find that when I can give love to someone, or my dogs, or the flowers in my garden, I can leave my pain behind because I am not focusing on the disability.
You are lovely: you have the rest of your life ahead of you. Take care of yourself: God made you and loves you. This is the greatest love there is: soak it in and know it deep in your being and let the love for yourself bloom.
2007-03-06 18:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by sunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you must love yourself! you must. You have a condition and it can be treated so u can at least cope. My friend goes to a laser hair removal place and that can take care of the hair growth situation. if you can't afford that then shave, shave , shave! I am sure you are still pretty u are just hiding it. so maybe you gained weight that doesn't change your facial beauty. get some nice colors makeup. cute lipstick. for yourself!
you must not let hurtful words affect you! good luck
2007-02-27 03:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a really sad story when i read that i felt really sad for you, first your family and idiots they shouldnt be putting you down like that no wonder you have put on weight and stuff.
think of tommorrow as a new day! think if i wanna change i will change no wonder what people say i am still beautiful inside and out.
seek some treatment you never know wot new stuff they can try now only you can change how you feel and it sounds like you need to up your self esteem before its too late.
i really hope that you egnore your family and start to feel better soon
good luck hun
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2007-03-06 00:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never...ever...stop loving yourself! When you do you leave the door open for others to do the same....love yourself no matter what!
You should see your doctor...there must be a cure or a way to alleviate your condition. Believe in yourself that u are beautiful and dont let anyone...family or not..tell u otherwise.
You should also try to see a counsellor...who can make better suggestions to help you regain your self esteem.
I wish you the best of luck and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
2007-03-06 07:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by siddyp_litis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a good OB/GYN. There's got to be something that they can do to bring your hormones under control. Then once that's done, you can work on losing weight and get treatments to get rid of the hair. I feel for you girlfriend. Hope this advice helps!
2007-02-27 03:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by karenhar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really understand where you are coming from. I was the high school cheerleader and prom queen. now... well i weigh 215 and im 5.2. i shave just about everywhere. my mom makes comments and my dad says i really was supposed to be a boy, but my body got confused. my doctor said that birth control can help, but i have a brain problem and they wont give me any birth control, so i have to live with it. i wish you the best of luck. Just remember it really could be worse.
2007-03-03 15:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello! i want to tell u first that (even tho u dont beleive me) you are BEAUTIFUL!! and ur probaby thinking that ur not and theres no way i culd kno cuz ive never seen you. but trust me... i kno cuz God makes everyone beautiful!!
God made u knowing that one day you would have this prob and that u would ask this question. And i would answer to tell you that God is amazing and that you wont be happy or love yourself until you love him. Now i dont kno if you beleive in Jesus Crist but you need to pray for happiness. Not prettiness or skinniness... just happiness and you will then learn to love yourself!
God loves you very much!!
2007-03-06 08:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey please. get your hair lazered off at the doctors. it's permenant removal so it will never grow back. it may cost you some big bucks but believe me it's worth it. theres this weight loss drink at walgreens you can't get for eight bucks. it makes you loose ten pounds in one day but you have to drink eight glasses of water a day with it. don't think you are ugly. whenever you think that then think " i am beautiful." just think about the things you like about yourself and be optomistic. i don't like my flat chest, my wavy hair, my oily skin or my hair on my chest and stomach. don't worry about it too much. i know someone who weighs 300 pounds at 5"4. trust me you got it gooood.
2007-03-06 10:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋