I am extremely dissapointed in my brother. Is he a sellout?

Question

I am a black woman who is 21 and proud of her heritage. My younger brother Devon is 14 and in the 8th grade. I found his winter sports program on the desk in the den and I wanted to see his picture cause he is a basketball player. He goes to a mostly white middle school but we are proud blacks. Anyway, when I turned the pages, it was stuck together, and I was like what the heck and sure enough when I finally was able to pull the pages apart, it tore and sure enough there was a picture of the 7th and 8th grade cheerleaders and the pages were stuck. He did the deed on the page. I am so upset cause these were all white girls. Stringy blondes and brunettes. I read the names like Kristin, Elizabeth, Courtney, Tiffany, Paige, etc? I am like what the heck is my brother doing? Is he a sellout? Is he an oreo cookie?

Answer 1

for god sakes! its his life, let him lust over who he wants to lust. the poor kid is only 14 for goodness sakes! he is only a sell out if it was a picture of animals. keep it amoung humans is what i say

Answer 2

Well your brother doing the deed should have been his own private affair, and why he chose to spill it out on his year book is to me the most disturbing of all that you have said. As far as him looking at stringy haired blondes and brunettes, you have to consider how white society consistently makes sex objects of white women and then bombards us with that continuously. It is one of the reason that black men choose white women if not really light skinned women when they reach the pinacle of sucess. Look at how white society glorify's skanks like Paris Hilton, and Anna Nichole as oppsoed to women like Angela Basset or Serena/ Venus Williams. It's like the difference between candy and a nutrious meal, only black men still don't have enoguh loyalty and common sense to choose what is nourishing over what is not. They are following the examples and the lead of the predominent men in our society that control the media and who set the criterea. The seeds for that are slowly growing in your little brother. I suggest you find ways of counteracting that in a positive non badgering way, that let's him realize the true essence of the beauty inherent to black women, rather than turn him off by prying into his personal life and or ridiculing him for his budding sexuality. Don't get me wrong, I understand how you feel and why, it's just that the manner in which you choose to handle this situation that obviously is a sore spot with you will determine the outcome for your brother and your relationship with him and in part how he views black women. You are one of the black women that he is close to which makes you an example of what you want him to be attracted to. Show him characteristics that will intrigue and interest him, not turn him off and repell him. Good luck!

Post Script:
He's not a sellout just because he might have gotten off on a few white girls, he's just a horney teenager.

Answer 3

In another question you asked, you were a 25 year old male teacher. Now you are a 21 year old black woman. I saw another question where a mother was posing this exact question after finding a sports program in her son's room.

It's all a pack of lies.

Answer 4

nicely there are a number of solutions to this. No i do no longer think of he's a sellout, at 14 he will do the deed to whomever he can! or maybe nonetheless i comprehend the type you experience - my older brother married a white woman and my 15 12 months previous son in particular likes the little white females at school, yet the two considered one of them went to predominately white colleges so i think of atmosphere performs a great section - call for and supply - no longer many black females around. of course you love your brother as i admire my brother and my son, and ultimately i desire them to be happy. i grow to be very harm and upset at my brother, yet I found out to handle it. From that have i'm waiting to declare to my son "nicely it is your selection, yet i might extremely like it in case you will marry a black woman and elevate a black relatives". i do no longer nag him top now, I in basic terms shop dropping "tidbits" in his ear and optimistically he will make the "top" selection. you in basic terms desire your brother to be happy top? possibly you may introduce him to 3 lovable black cheerleaders or greater useful yet, help steer his ideas in yet another course and rancid females. Are there any African American supplies, centers or classes you should point he enrolls in? help him to earnings greater approximately his background after which enable him make up his own ideas. bear in mind nonetheless that it extremely is his selection, all you're able to do is help and love him. solid success.

Answer 5

I think he is a typical teenage male and what he does in his own privacy is none of your business also this question has to be made up b/c a same story just like this one popped up in the politeness section. Except it was from a mothers point of view.

Answer 6

Judging by your other questions and the fact that you've asked this question 4 times in 4 different categories, I don't think you're being serious. Learn how to spell.

Answer 7

If your brother is around one specific group all the time that is what he is going to be attracted to. He is not a sell out but a normal teenager who find people in his school attractive.

Answer 8

Your brother isn't a sellout, but you're a bigot. You need to check yourself seriously. You're going to pass down that disease to your brother. You can be "proud" but you sound racist. I don't know if you know, but it's NOT OK for blacks to be racist, either.

Your brother is still trying to figure himself and the world out and he doesn't need a racist putting hatred in his heart. He'll have to deal with racism in due time. Let's not give him a head start, eh?

And don't berate your brother with names. You're no different than the white person who calls you n.i.g.g.e.r.