A few months ago I asked what I should do about my son. He kept wearing his sisters leotards and tights. I had spanked him the first two times I caught him wearing them and almost everyone said that I was probably making the problem worse. The concensus was that I should buy him his own leotards and tights so he wouldn't wear his sisiter's. I bought him several leotards and tights and I even got him his own high heel womens boots, so he would leave his sister's alone. He dresses up in his leotard and tights with boots every day. His sister is complaining because she says that he walks around sporting wood in them every day and she is afraid to have her friends over. (She's 16) He also spends a lot of time in his room masturbating and she says that when I'm not home he does it with the door open. I thought the novelty would wear off by now but I think it might be making things worse. What should I do now?
2007-02-27 03:42:33 · 11 answers · asked by Mike Smith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I'll tell you what you already know. You son is a cross dresser. The good news is that most cross dressers are not gay. Now you really can't do anything about the cross dressing and you really shouldn't try. People have all sorts of fetishes and this one is pretty common as fetishes go. His fetish seems very specific, its not like he wants to wear bras and panties too. He isn't asking for a skirt, makeup etc. There was a line from an old TV series that I never forgot. "Take any item in the sears catalog and someone somewhere wants to sleep with it." I believe that is true.
But saying that, he is acting inappropriately in other ways that you should address. Masterbation is a private thing and you should tell him don't do it in public. When he is dressed, tell him to keep the door closed. When he comes out in public, tell him to put on some pants. What he is doing is the same thing that other kids do while they are looking at playboy. All boys do it, but they have enough sense to do it privately. A boy masterbating to playboy leaves the playboy in his room when he joins his family for dinner, doesn't he?
My advice to you, is to treat this the same way you would treat your boy if you found him masterbating to porn. You'll never get him to stop, but in this society one must be discrete. It is inappropriate to sport a visible woody when you are around your sisters, cousins etc.
2007-02-27 05:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by ojmoo 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You might want to have a talk with your son about his sexuality. Don't accost him and don't be forceful with him. Just sit him down and ask him about how he feels about his sexual orientation. you sound like an amazing parent to do all those things for him. You should feel proud that you are willing to support him and love him despite the fact that he might not seem "normal" to other people. It is, however, normal for children his age to explore with masturbation. If you are truly concerned for him you could consider taking him to see a therapist, not to change him, but to help him figure out who he is as a person. It could save him a lot of personal grief in the future. If your son is a homosexual or a transsexual you should still give him the same support and love. That is what he is going to need most during his journey through life.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 05:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well leotards and tights were originally designed for men. So when your daughter puts on her own leotard and tights she is the one crossdressing. Who cares what your son wears, is it really hurting anything?
Also if you are afraid to talk to your children then you shouldn't be afraid.
2014-06-10 01:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I answered this the first time you posted it. You didn't listen to me and now look how he is. I think you should take off your belt and spank the hell out of him every time you catch him wearing a leotard and tights. If that doesn't work then get a wooden paddle and paddle his leotard wearing butt! If your not man enough to spank this behavior out of him, I am. Just let me know and I will put him over my knee and spank the daylights outta him!
2007-02-27 15:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Don the Man 1 · 0⤊ 7⤋
you need to grow up and not be afraid to talk to your son openly about his disgusting habit
if he insists on wearing tights, that's one thing;
to be disgusting in front of others, is another.
2007-03-04 21:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mountain One 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
if he's open enough to let people see him with his door open, you need to tell him straight up how it is, say you saw him with the door open, embarrass him, we're moms sometimes we can embarrass out kids, you don't want this to lead to something illegal and perverted in the future.
2007-03-02 22:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
buy him his own pair of tights
- then he'll leave his sisters alone!
2007-03-03 02:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by jon h 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
talk to him maby he's doing it for attention.if he's already made up his mind about it you might not get him to stop.
2007-03-04 13:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by <3 sarah <3 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
take him in the see a psychiatrist and get some counseling
2007-02-27 05:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Cornell is Hot! 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋
consult a good doctor
2007-02-28 18:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by john 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋