How many was it? How did he take it?
2007-02-27 03:41:48 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have no clue, because I don't dwell on it. The past is what it is. My husband has never asked the exact number (and yes, if he did, I would tell him). He doesn't ask because they don't matter to me. He is the most wonderful lover, and I let him know that everytime he walks in the room.
2007-02-27 03:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't see why this should matter so much in a relationship. I know that the number always looks alot worse with the woman than it does with a man because well..women are suppose to settle down and get married while with men..can do what ever they want *rolls eyes*
I think that if you are married..or soon to be married then you should be completely honest with your husband. If he doesn't like you for who you were and who you are then you don't need to be with him. If you aren't honest in your relationship with the person you are going to be spending the rest of your life with then what do you really have?
I love my husband dearly and I can't see myself lieing to him. He has the right to know how many people you have slept with considering you are going to be sleeping with him to. I have only slept with 2 men. 1 was a previous boyfriend and the other was my husband. He knows about the other guy and he doesn't hate me for it because it was before him and I got together.
I know mine is lower than most women but regardless of how many men you have been with. I think that you should tell your husband.
2007-02-27 04:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Roe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I have been honest. I was the one who brought the subject up and I volunteered the info. He never asked. He asked me if any of those men were still in my life and if I had contact with any of them. I told him that none were in my life any more and I only had the phone # to my last BF, but that was over a year old. He said that as long as I was in the clear of all my past relationships then he didn't care about my number, and that he knew I was a different person then than I am now.
2007-02-27 04:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, regardless of how many men I had been with (I am presuming you mean slept with?) I would not have thought that was any of my hubby's business - likewise me for how many women he had slept with. I have seen others divulge that kind of information to each other and each time it has been kinda devastating to those involved!
Yes, great to be honest, but should it truly matter - if you truly trust them and let's face it - yourself, how many partners you have been with? That's when insecurities and perhaps but not always accusations of being promiscuous start to creep into a good relationship. The only time it should matter is when there has been a development of an STD and therefore resulting in lifelong consequences.
2007-02-27 03:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was very honest with my husband before marrying him. He took it ok and he was honest with me as well. I kept no secrets from him in this case. I however do not feel it really is your business how many guys i was with before marrying him. This is private and between my husband and i.
2007-02-27 04:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was and so was he, we were honest about our past sex lives and that was before we got married. In this day and age you have to be and expect others to do the same...there are to many STDs flying around not to be careful... even if they are honest Still insist on condoms until you marry them and want kids!
2007-02-27 04:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ PrincessLeia ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband never asked, he knows better. And I've never asked how many women he has been with. The past is just that, the past. He's the one I married so who really cares how many other guys I dated before?
2007-02-27 03:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was openly honest with my husband about how many men I'd been with. As for the number, it's none of your business. He agreed that it was in the past as long as I was faithful to him.
2007-02-27 03:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by pixie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For most guys - they just hate being lied to. If it's 2 or 22, whatever - as long as it's the truth. I don't want to find out later that there is more to her then she told me about. If my wife told me it was 2, and then later I find out there was another, that hurts because she lied to me, and couldn't trust me with the truth.
Her number is way higher then mine. I have no problem with that. After 12 years, there is no change and I really don't care.
2007-02-27 04:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a thing called honesty and another called forthwith. My husbands, as well as my fiance, knows I am not a virgin anything more would be bragging or a lie. Some things are just better left unsaid.
2007-02-27 03:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋