Ex wife to be is calling my employer to get me fired?

Question

My Ex2Be is calling my employer to get me fired. She is going to tell them of an old felony (7years ago) and every other personal dirt she can say.

I pay child support for my only daughter that does'nt live with me, and losing my job would hurt her very much.

I sent her an email today saying As of 9 a.m today she should not contact my employer for any reasons. It is now documented.

If I lose my job, can I sue my ex for harassment/slander for my wages + loss of child support for my daughter + damages?

My daughter is from a previous marriage

Thats the reason to get me fired, hurt the child

Felony was right after I started working so no disclosure to my employer was necessary. 18 months probation for unorthorized use of a credit card. I aint "Dillinger"

Answer 1

I feel your pain... however, attorney or not, when people are bent on doing mean spirited things and they have a full head of anger, the only thing that will satisfy them is "their pound of flesh" which of course she'll never get.

All I can suggest to you is do your level best to document every contact (time, date, subject) and don't cave-in to the desire of dishonesty. Custody and support cases can take years and thousands of dollars in attorneys fees (all they want is for the both of you to keep arguing anyway - cha-ching).

All the best to you as you engage in this battle.

Answer 2

Smart move on the email. Email is very strong evidence in court. I don't think you'd neccessarily win in court just because you told her not to contact your boss. If she tells your boss any untruths, that would be slander. If what she tells him is facts only, I really do not think you have a case. (Unfortunately). The harassment part may be a different story, especially since you contacted her beforehand. If you have a case at all, I don't think its a strong one, rather one that can go either way depending on the judges mood. That's only my opinion though, I'm not an expert of the law. If I was the judge I'd fry her for it.

Answer 3

Divorce sure is a *****, ain't it?

If she is going to be trying that - she obviously doesn't realize how she is also hurting herself, or doesn't care about your child. I believe you would have a good case in court if she does follow through with this. I would say don't worry - beacause your boss shouldn't care about a 7 year old felony - disclosed or not. I would say it would also be a good idea to tell your employer that she might be calling. Then if she does it will be a little softer when he hears from her.

Just ride it out - and if it does come to a boiling point, then you can bring out the big guns.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

TO be honest with you, if you have a good relationship with your employer, call the police in on this one. Have the employer make a statement regarding your wife's harassment and attempted defamation of character, hopefully this will result in an order of protection prohibiting your wife from contacting your employer. It is harsh, however at the same point you need to take care of your rights and you ability to support your child.

Answer 5

I hate to say, but my mother did the same thing to my father, and he hasn't been able to find a job since! She needs a good whack, I don't care if she is female. What my father did, since my mother was employed also, he called her boss, and politely spoke to him and said that my mother (his wife) was making disturbing and threatening phone calls from the office, and that his boss was threatening legal action if it didn't stop. Her boss put a stop to it quite quickly, and my mother learned not to mess with us haha! I'm sorry about your situation. I'm sure your boss is really irritated, having to deal with her little juvenile drama when it's not in his job description! Have him start recording her, even let the answereing machine run while she is going on. And if she really isn't calling anymore, ask him if he can get phone records or any proof he has, an take them to court, even if not with her, then just to say that you are having major harassment and slander issues with you wife, and you may want to press charges. some women just don't make anything easy.

Answer 6

Here's what I suggest:

1. Talk to the boss and the HR folks at work. Tell them you are going thru a divorce and that your ex is threatening to call your employer with stuff. Put it in writing and sign it. Give a copy to your boss and to HR.

2. Tell your wife she will only hurt herself if you get fired, which will render you unable to pay child support.

If you lied on your employment application, shame on you. You should decide on how to handle that at some point.

Good Luck

Answer 7

It never ceases to amaze me the depraved depths to which people will go to get a pointless dig at each other. I can see why you want rid of her.

You can sue for anything you want. Whether you will be successful is another question entirely.

You don't mention whether your daughter is from your current wife. The sense I am getting is that she is from a previous relationship. Which is it?

Answer 8

It's only slander if it's false...if you lied or didn't disclose your felony on your job application, you have no leg to stand on.

On the other hand, if you're paying your child support, your wife would have to be an Olympic-class moron to try to get your job taken away.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Try to get a court restraining order. She's probably gone nuts and lost all of her abilitiy to think rationally. She's charged with tons of negative emotions. You better be smart on how your handle this or else you are going to have a long vacation from work.

Answer 10

I'd beat the ex to your boss. Full disclosure and you will never have to worry about it ever again.

If your employer fires you after YOU tell tell all, what do you think the same employer woulod do after an ex tells all?