2007-02-27 03:23:47 · 8 answers · asked by Senses 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Personally, I'm not and I'll either watch with him or on my own. Good stuff.
The women I do know that are insecure about pornography typically have ill-conceived ideas about WHY men are watching porn, commonly thinking that the reason men view porn is because they don't find their partners attractive. Generally speaking, that is not the case, but insecure women believe what they want to believe.
Something else to think about: some women just find porn demeaning, and if you've ever surfed the net for porn, you know there is porn created for the sole purpose of demeaning women; therefore it may not be insecurity causing your woman to balk at the idea of you watching porn, but she may think you are essentially supporting the degradation of women.
2007-02-27 03:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by TinyDancer77 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I am not. Another assumption and broad sweeping generalization to shoot down.
He is a good Muslim and has no interest in the stuff. He feels it is as wrong to watch such material as it is to go to a strip club. It is just not something a good Muslim male should be watching. And I am 24 years older than he! He is a workaholic and not interested in wasting good time when he can be earning good money!
We are both of the opinion that 99.9% of that stuff is just plain unaesthetic. He feels he does not need it and I tend to agree with him because, believe me, he does not need it for stimulation. Our mutual libido works wonderfully as it is.
If he did feel the need to watch such things once in awhile, I would not mind. I would just go into another room and read a book then happily take pleasure with the aftermath of his viewing. But he won't.
If you were looking for a pat answer like, "Well he will see my body is not so perfect as that of an air brushed floozy" or "God says it is wrong!" look elsewhere.
However, our world is already sex crazed and sick. We prefer not to contribute to such things by investing any of our hard earned $$ in an industry that abuses and exploits women.
There are many reasons to not watch this crud. BTW my first husband was also in the same frame of mind about porn. He never even thought of the stuff and we were married 13 years.
A few years ago porn was a private matter. It was not in your face as it is now. I know I will sound like a grinch, but I see its current popularity as yet another symptom of a nation that is becoming sicker and sicker from within. An internal corruption if you will. Hugh Hefner, the free love movement, (of which i was a part), society now pays for our idiocy in the 60's and 70's.
So... it ain't always about body image. Some people actually have no need for the stuff.
2007-02-27 04:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate porn..I seriously think there is a correlation between rape and porn. The way women are portrayed and sodomized in pornography is appalling, and the fact that so many men get off to it is disturbing.
It does not make me insecure. My boyfriend goes to the strip club with his boys every Wednesday. I don't care..there is nothing wrong with seeing topless women dance. They are not degraded and dehumanized in the same matter as porn.
2007-02-27 04:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Imagine you have a girlfriend or a wife(if you are a man). She enjoys watching porn starring men who are physically very appealing, more appealing than you perhaps.
Would you feel insecure?
2007-02-27 04:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good news about sex and marriage, by Christopher West:
14. What’s the big deal with porno?
Pornography is attractive. The reality should not be denied or dismissed. Instead, we need to ask why. Why is it so darned alluring? How is that it can reach in and get such a grip on our souls that it seems to suck us in with irresistible force?
I'm (Christopher West) speaking from a man's perspective, of course. Visual pornography is predominantly a male thing. It taps into the way men are wired much more than into the way women are. This is why PLAYGIRL magazine is purchased much more by men with same-sex attraction than by women. Most women simply don't get their "kicks" by looking at picture of naked men. There is however, a steamy female counter part to pornography --- romance novels. Both (romance novels & porno) are appealing to the fallen impulse in us for sexual gratification. Neither is very healthy. In fact, in both forms they lie to us.
What's the big deal with porno? It robs us of the very meaning of life. It's an anti-gospel message, because it seeks to foster precisely those distortions of our sexual desires that we must struggle against to obtain true love.
What's the big deal with porno? It does nothing but foster in a man his fallen inclination to treat women as things for his own self-gratification. A man who uses porno, so long as he remains in its clutches, has incapacitated himself to love women properly.
This isn't because the naked body is bad. Nor, for that matter, it is bad to desire to see a naked body. What's wrong is the lust in the human heart and the desire to foster the lust. What's wrong is in portraying the naked body in a way that intentionally incites lust and reduces a human being to an object to gratify the lust.
2007-02-27 03:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-26 02:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature, we all enjoy watching porn, except that we girls were raised with the thought that sexuality was dirty and we find everything sexual dirty... I think those girls who are insecure about their man watching porn feel that way cause they don't think they're as sexy as those pornstars... but, don't we like watching guys? (no matter if it's not porn).... we all like to watch. Some get jealous.
2007-02-27 04:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by User 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
the reason would be he'd rather be watching other people have sex then having sex with me! plus i don't want any of our money going towards those disease ridden women, also my husband would be pretty upset if he caught me with a playgirl magazine, it works both ways
2007-02-27 03:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by Falloutgirl 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋