I am very emotional person if anyone shouts at me i crying even if a have any tension?I dont want to cry.?

Answer 1

There are several tactics.

One, is a longer term solution that will take more time to implement. When someone shouts at you, you are probably not feeling sad. You are probably feeling angry and possibly scared. If you can bring up the anger (though do NOT act on it) it might help you to not cry, and allow you a stronger response (especially if you are in a business career, where the men insist that you act like men).

If it is fear of anyone's rejection, than you need to work on that fear, so that you can accept the possibility and the probablity that not everyone will like you all the time.

For a short term strategy, when someone starts shouting at you, take long enough to get the gist of why they are shouting, and then begin reciting the square roots in your head, for example, "The square root of two is four, the square root of three is nine, the square root of four is sixteen"

Alternatively, you could recite the fibonnacci sequence, 1 plus one is 2, 2 plus 1, is three, two plus three is five, five plus three is eight...etc

Or you could visualize a cube with the square roots etc, written on each side.

Putting your focus on one of those should circumvent the need to cry and give you control over the situation.

Answer 2

I would tell you to toughen up and stop crying but that is hard to do. But, the world is full of bullies who like nothing better than to make a person cry. If you keep this up, you will become a target. Believe me, I lived through it. It is the bullies who strike at the weak and crying is a sign of weakness. I dont know how to tell you to stop crying but I can tell you to make it less public. If you feel the tears coming on, walk away. In walking away, you can also gather strength and decide that the shouting was just a nasty persons way of trying to make you feel worse than they are acting. When someone shouts, try to close off your ears and not hear what is being said. If someone is shouting there is nothing to respond to anyway. That is often why we cry. We know that there is no rational way to get a shouting person to hear what we have to say. Have you ever answered a shouter and been heard? Proably not, that is why we cry. Again, dont listen and walk away. Dont let the bullies get you. They are relentless.

Answer 3

What you're describing is a behavior pattern that you'd like to change. As you may have noticed, this is easier said than done, though people change habits, learn new skills, and modify behavior all the time. It's hard because you ingrained this behavior through countless repetitions over time, and now it's supported by a physical network of brain cells in your brain...you are wired to do it,. even though you can concentrate consciously to react differently if you want to.

You probably can't change this behavior pattern on your own, because it will take coaching and encouragement over a long period of time. Your best bet is to discuss it with a cognitive psychologist. You can do it, though, with professional help. Good luck!

Answer 4

I used to be the same way many MANY years ago... It comes from abuse.

I don't think that you SHOULD go out of your way to make it stop because I find in the attempt at forcing it, it usually makes it worse.

Honestly, I learned how to be a cold hearted stoic beeatch gradually... It wasn't necessarily the best thing to do, but I think that it works better for me than being weak or angry all the time.

Once I learned to express anger... I went crazy in that direction to compensate and had to learn to temper that to survive... So if it ain't one thing, it's another until you look at you and learn to love you as you are and stop making excuses for your triggers and take responsability for your own condition less the influence of the ghosts of those who helped make you that way.

You'll get there... and even if you never do. First and foremost, learn to love yourself as you are. Work out from there.

Answer 5

Try stopping and taking some deep breaths before responding. It can't hurt. Do something that makes you feel good about yourself.