Help I have a broken heart?

Question

I seperated my boyfriend after six years of relationship and one child.It´s been six months that I left him,but somehow I still love him but we can´t be a couple do to some serious issues(like money,family,etc)give me advice on how to get over it and start something new.

Answer 1

It has been 6 years, you gave him enough time and chance to prove to you whether he is serious in this relationship or not. Now that you have a child, I think you should think for your child's future and happiness. Do not forget your own happiness too. Yes you might still love your ex but is it love or is it fear that make you think that you are not good enough to move on? You need to move on since this man is not ready do some something serious with his life and be more responsible. First you have to make up your mind and then plan small steps in moving on to achieve your dreams and live a better life with your child. All the best!

Answer 2

Well, it'll take time reguardless, but the only way to even start "the hourglas", is to take some steps. Just small ones, like maybe toning up a bit, some serious *you* time. Try and get friends and family to help watch your child two or three days a week. Just a couple of hours on those select days. But *don't* relax! Take your time and all, but always keep doing something productive. Otherwise, if you have time to yourself to just sit and think, you tend to just slip back into thoughts of them (I know, it's happened to me countless times). You might even invite some of those friends and family over to dinner once every two or three weeks, just to have a little casual fun.

I don't really know what kind of shape you're in, whether you in great shape or horrible shape, but to be honest, it doesn't really matter. Going to the gym a couple of days a week will make you feel better reguardless. You just have to get your mindset right. Don't go in thinking "Oh, I'm gonna get in shape, and do all this stuff, etc.". As soon as you walk through that gym door, just take a look around, and decide what you feel like doing that day. And don't just "do as many as you can" on something. Before you even get on something, tell yourself "How many do I *honestly* think I'll be able to do?". I don't know if it's just human nature, but even people who think very little of themselves tend to overestimate their abilities. So, just do what you *think* you can do, and don't "change your mind" in the middle of it.

Trust me, whether you're worried about hitting the gym or not, it'll help you feel better. I'm not expert at human anatomy or anything, but once your body has been excersing for a good 10-20 minutes or so, your body releases Endorphins (spelling may be incorrect) into your brain, so you'll feel better without even really noticing it.

Answer 3

six years is six years, you can't possibly forget him just within six months especially you had a child together, it takes time to forgive and forget... but it doesn't necessarily mean that "time heal all wounds" time can't heal, instead you got to learn to heal yourself, accepting everything comes first, which is always the hardest part, I won't advice you to forget about him because you had a child together, I won't advice you to hate him cause your child both need your presence in his life... it's better to establish a strong friendship between the two of you, in order to protect your child and yourself (it's better to have a friend than additional enemy) maybe not now, but in the long run you will sure get that one chance to become great Friends nd don't let that chance pass... For now, you got to bare with the pain, because finding someone new was never a solution, it only lessen the pain but the pain is still there... Acceptance is always the cure for the pain...

Answer 4

Give yourself time, lots of time. Don't go rushing into anything. It is natural to still have feelings for someone you were with for so long. And since there is a child involved, you will always have some sort of connection to him.

Try to hang out with friends, do things you enjoy, spend time with the baby. As hard as it is, keep your mind busy so you don't sit and think about your ex.

I know all this sounds easy, but it is something you will have to work thru. I know, I've been there. Was with my ex for 10 year and had 2 kids with him. Give it time and be strong for you and for that baby.

Answer 5

the real question is do you really love him. If you really and truly love him you should be able to get back with him and try to work out your problems. Nothing can stand in the way of love unless you let it. Not to mention it would probably be best for the child if her parents weren't seperated. However, if he ever hit you or cheated on you stay seperated, you can do better no body and i mean no body deserves that. If you really need to get over him, start dating again, or hanging out with friends more. If that is too difficult, get a hobby, when my best friend went through this we both joined the YMCA and she got over him and looked good in the midst of it. Now we are both in great shape and her confidence is through the roof, it's kind of annoying though! lol

Answer 6

you know... maybe the affection you still feel is really infatuation??? do you fear as if you'll never find this type of feeling ever again.. the world is big and cliche says "lot of fish in the sea".. or whatever.. and it's true.. i say if your looking for romance just increase your standards...set goals.. and drop them for no one.. and then another thing is respecting yourself.. you have to respect/love self before doing so unto another.. you can do anything you wish to strive at! perhaps you have doubt in your mind now because your finally on your own again.. that relationship lasted pretty long.. but it's okay to feel that.. just trust in yourself.. and do what you have to to get back on your feet.. independence isn't something to be afraid of!!! fear should be in being dependent upon others constantly and always getting let down... with independence one can then choose to be dependent.. as it's not the other way around... i hope this helps.. just start doing what you do and trust ya'self ma!!!

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Answer 7

Move on with your life. I would suggest that you take some time for yourself and your child. Don't start dating anyone right away. Do some things with your child and some things for yourself that make you feel good. After a while, get back into the dating pool, but please don't go back to your ex.

Answer 8

You have a broken heart because you have one messed up life. That is what you get when you put the baby before the ring. You may have split from him but I sure you are sharing that baby with him because it is half his.
For something knew why not try getting an education and some morals on the side.

Answer 9

Its hard but start flirting at the grocery store and stuff it will help you feel better to know guys are still interested and just try to get out with friends or go on dates dont let on fish get you down there are millions of them out there one that will make you ten times happier than the last its all about finding them and not having to fix or change them!

Answer 10

well if you truly feel you cant be together, then stop confusing yourself with other issues, Dont dwell on him, this will only hurt you in the long run, Move on, when your thinking of him, or feel you need to talk to him, direct your time into something else that you enjoy, find other guys that interest you in ways that he didnt.