2007-02-27 03:16:40 · 36 answers · asked by asker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make sure, and if you find out that he is, MOVE ON! Get a divorce. Life is too short to live with a cheater!
2007-02-27 03:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask him. But, if he is having an affair, he will deny EVERYTHING, even blame same thing on you, 100% gauranteed. But you can see he is lying, looking away, nervous, deny things you never accused him in; you will see for yourself. But he will NOT stop the affair, just he will hide it better.
Stop playing by the rules. Check and trace everything you can. Install a keylogger on the computer. Spy on him. You will get him. Cheaters start thinking they will never get caught, and do not hide the traces as good as in the beginning of the affair.
Once you have hard proof - pictures, printed e-mails, you decide what to do. In my opinion, you will prove it's the end of it (marriage).
Having a witness does not count as a proof. He will still deny everything.
It's that simple. You are not the first.
2007-02-27 06:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by w w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know for sure you can find out. Make sure you want to really know. Once you know then you have to do something about it. Sometimes we're just not ready for the hard truths. It's been my experience that a spouse that suspects cheating are usually right. Before you find out make your worst case plans. Know what you're going to do about it before you find out. Set everything up so that you have an easier transition. Once you know for sure you're too upset emotionally to take care of the things you need to. I wish you all the best and I hope you're wrong.
2007-02-27 03:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know for sure, possibly even before confronting him, because if you are wrong this could cause a lot of animosity...Think of things like checking detailed phone bills, credit card bills. This is not snooping because this should be joint information in a healthy marriage. Good luck!
2007-02-27 03:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by jaynasmommy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're instincts may be right so first prepare yourself for that possibility. Ask yourself if its something you can forgive and move past eventually if he infact seeks your forgiveness. You can wait for concrete evidence, or you can just confront him about your suspicion letting him know the exact reasons you suspect him of unfaithfulness. You won't be the first to go through this so my advice is to be strong.
2007-02-27 03:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by nothesecret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to confront it and speak to him, but the chance of getting an honest answer aren't good unless he is ready to leave u. but if your intuition is telling u something, it is usually true. just find out where his heart is at, if it isn't with u, no need to stay in the relationship, as the longer u stay and hope the more emotionally hurt u will become. follow him and find out where he goes, look at his cell phone, find out for sure before u confront it.
2007-02-27 03:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out for sure, with some solid proof. There should be tell tale signs. Dont bother asking him. If he's actually seeing another, he's certainly not going to be honest with you about it.
Does a drug addict admit to being a drug addict? Come on people, let's get real here.
2007-02-27 03:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM? How freaking STUPID is that! Cheaters ALWAYS deny everything until they are caught practically red handed.....who are these people answering these questions? KIDS????
If you suspect something, and in the past generally had no reason to, FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCT!
Remember, cheaters aren't playing by the rules, so nor should YOU!
Check phone records, hide a voice activated recorder under his car seat (How I busted an ex long ago!)....follow him...whatever...
NEVER, BUT NEVER lead him to believe you suspect anything...he will only try to cover his tracks BETTER!
God, people here are so freaking clueless..........."ask him".....LOL!
2007-02-27 03:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you confront him then if he is quite possibly out of insecurity he'll turn all of the blame back towards you... guys suck like that... men/boys.. whatever.. we suck.. i'll admit it even though i've never been guilty... so my advice would be to never make assumptions without proven evidence.. you could be sneaky and "steak-out" for him.. or console into a trusted person as to keep tabs.... that is until you get evidence.. and once you have "TANGIBLE EVIDENCE" THEN YOU CAN CONFRONT HIM.. cause he can't push blame towards you... if he's a real man and he gets caught though i doubt he'd lie to your face if he loved you...... but then again i have seen different in my young years oh too many times..... hope all works out for you love and i hope sincerely that you don't ever have to take heed this advice... =D
tokyo londons
2007-02-27 03:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by Tokyo Londons 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pull yourself together. First you must prove that what you are thinking is true. Get proof if it is true confront him. You do not deserve this. If it is true find out why and see if you still love him to work it out and vise versa. He must be unhappy if you are thinking this.
2007-02-27 04:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋