Help me out with this one?

Question

I am 18 weeks pregnant and I do ALL the housework, I'm not complaining, I am a stay at home mom so it's the least I can do.But my question/problem is...I HATE doing dishes.I absolutely despise it.So I ask my husband to do them, for a few weeks he has been doing them (we have dishwasher so he doesn't have to work too hard) But he has been complaining every single time he does them.He does work but he is a Tap auditor and 95% of his time is spent sitting in his Van.I don't ask him to do anything but the dishes.Am I wrong for asking him to do them? He doesn't do anything else, he doesn't even change our daughters diaper.

Answer 1

Well, how 'bout a mans opinion on this question? Seems like only women are answering. It doesn't matter how hard he works, or how long, any time a man does something that is outside his "responsibilities", he is gonna look for praise. And if he doesn't get any, he will complain about it. I on the other hand, happen to be the one that cleans, does laundry, etc. around my house, so I feel you. He should step up and give you a hand.

Answer 2

Your not wrong at all. I am a stay at home Mom too and I keep the house clean, cook all the meals and my husband almost allways does the dishes without being asked. If he gets out of changing diapers it's the least he can do. If you have a second one on the way he should help out more. Your going to be busy with two and you will want all the extra help you can get. Trust me I have a two year old and a 4 month old he should help with the housework and child care. Good luck.

Answer 3

not that you are wrong but since you are not working l don't see any reason why you should ask a man who work all day to wash the dish l was having the same problem with my husband at the beginning of my pregnancy cos l am a stay at home mom too,l was the ond doing all the housework but today l am 36 weeks along and my husband is now doing almost everything in the house .dont worry with time he will change it is just the beginning of your pregnacy you still have a long way to go be patience with time he will be doing everything without you asking him to do them.

Answer 4

you aren't wrong asking for help but since you both hate to do dishes why don't you buy paper plates and then all you have to do is put the pans in the dishwasher. or if there is 1 part of doing dishes you don't mind doing like loading or putting them away share the chore with him. I don't like to do them either so usually my kids do them. We also fill a cup with water and put all silverware in there during the day. Maybe you should listen to what he says when he complains like the stuff is dried on or they have been sitting all day. My mom always emptied the dishwasher right after it was done then as dishes were used they were put in the dishwasher right away then it was run after dinner.

Answer 5

If that's the only thing you ask him to do, then no it's not too much to ask. Men say women are complainers, but I think they complain more. I just tune my hubby out when I hear him complain. I think it's just a way for them to vent. I wouldn't think twice about it. Also, he may have the job, but if he's not doing physical labor, then he could help you out a little more I think while you're pregnant. Housework is very physical work. You should not be doing it all yourself, especially with things like cleaning the bathroom because most cleaners have harsh fumes.

Answer 6

sounds like your husband is a little selfish. You really need to talk with him about how you can work together during your pregnancy to make things easier on you, and him too. As for changing the diapers, I have no response except that he has a little growing up to do. You are not selfish to expect him to help more. But for you, if things don't get done all the time, don't worry about it. Prioritize things and don't overdo.

Answer 7

No mrs, you are not being unreasonable at all, men need to realise that when women are pregnant they need all the help and support that they need, even if he works, you work too, you are a 24/7 mum and pregnant again, which by the way, congratulations on. I am pregnant at the minute and work full-time while partner is out of work, and i am lucky enough not to need to do ANY WORK AT ALL!!! he sorts it out, I think you are being soft on him, tell him that its his job from now on and that this pregnancy is different as you ahve a baby to care for now as well as yourself.

I think you are 100% in the right, so dont let him walk over teh top of you

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Answer 8

I think you are absolutely right to ask him to do the dishes, infact I think you would feel worse about yourself if you did them to keep the peace. Why the hell should you anyway you've got to give birth in about 5 months time - save your energy for that! You might have to stroke his ego a little bit though - tell him how lucky you are to have a man do that (hopefully this will reap rewards for you!) Enjoy your pregnancy.

Answer 9

i hate dishes too!! rah!! i used to do everythingggg around the house and the diaper thing too..always me...but now..after bout 7ish years he actually did grow up some and he does a tremendous ammount more then ever before..all the laundry...vacumms..some of the dishes..still me mostly lol...but when he cleans..he does it way more thorough then i do, i had to wait several years but i'm extremely thankful for all of his help now!! Good Luck! =)

Answer 10

no, you're not wrong. he should be helping you out, it is his house too. asking to just do the dishes isn't like its going to kill him.