2007-02-27 02:59:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
counseling and being open to change
2007-02-27 03:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nic Jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things that can go wary in a marriage that could be salvaged, with time and patience, communication and forgiveness anything is possible. The best way to save a marriage is work on it before it goes bad, but you need to get to the root of a problem before working on the whole of the marriage. Well meaning friends and family are nice to sound off to but rarely do they help with marital problems, if you and your partner are unable to work it out together I would suggest counseling
2007-02-27 03:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to "educate" her as if she is a dog!!! first of all, your current situation must me the consequence of something... what has been happening between you two?? haven't you tried to consider that she must be even less satisfied than you are?? you are thinking just about "fingering" and stuff like that when maybe the source of the problem is communication?, empathy? and understanding??? anything else Beyond the mere sexual act? And don't even try to take this situation as an excuse and cheat on your wife now!! That would very selfish and even immature for a man of your age... Try to listen what she has to say and DON'T JUDGE her of having traditional thoughts... im sure there's a lot to save in in your marriage, even more after 22 years!!!!! Good luck and sorry If I spoke strongly but men sometimes are so thoughtless....
2016-03-16 01:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say marriage counseling and working together with your spouse to try to save and restore the marriage if at all possible. Also becoming a praying husband or wife helps out bigtime as well and God can actually change the hearts of the people in the marriage. Working on and saving a marriage is a choice and we can choose to work on and try to save it or to run and not do it.
http://www.marriagetoday.org
2007-02-27 03:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to each other about how you feel, and being honest with each other. Theres no point in telling your closest friend how you feel, your husband/wife should be the one you can talk to about everything so maybe more communicating with each other. Also go away for a few days and stay in a B&B just spend some quality time together away from the hustle and bustle of life/work/kids etc. Think about the reasons why you fell in love with this person in the first place and if you've got one watch you wedding video. If this dos'nt work you could try counselling. Good Luck
2007-02-27 03:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To save a marriage, both people have to want it to work and be committed to making changes for the better. It will take talking things out peacefully and calmly and both people being willing to make compromises. Honesty with each other and mutual respect for each others feelings and opinions are a must. Your marriage must become the number one priority in your lives if you want to fix things. And most important of all you both have to willing to put the past in the past and start fresh. Don't look back, work on today and then move forward. I wish you both the best and hope things work out for you.
2007-02-27 03:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both will need to feel like the marriage is worth saving. If you don't have feelings for each other then there is no point in trying.
2007-02-27 03:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having issues that you and your partner aren't able to resolve on your own, then you should try marriage counseling. You need to learn how to communicate with each other; without that, you have nothing. Best of luck!
2007-02-27 03:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the heck off this website and stop asking strangers how to save it! Every marriage is different just like everyone is different. You need to sit down with your spouse and COMMUNICATE. And by that it means listen to one person. When they are done take a moment to soak it in cooly and then your turn to speak. But seriously...don't ask complete strangers!
2007-02-27 03:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Time, compromise from both and of course God. Also most married people have the attitude "well I'm not changing a thing until he/she does" but if both of you have that attitude you will never make any improvements. So one has to be the first to make change.
2007-02-27 03:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be willing to sacrifice and completely commit to your marriage. Counseling could be a huge help.
2007-02-27 03:02:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋