This guy at work keeps asking me what I'm doing every weekend, trying to get me to hang out with him. I'm just not interested in hanging out with him; I'm a guy as well. I just don't think being a guy and all, we should have an all honest talk that I don't want to be his personal friend, just a friend at work, but he persists, what is the best way to deal with this? Keep inventing excuses?
2007-02-27 02:53:27 · 4 answers · asked by money maker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OK, it's clear that you don't want to hang with the dude and there really must be more of a reason than you suggested. I'd say "no thanks" without explaination would be sufficient and he'll finally stop asking. It's two words. You don't owe him a reason, just "no thanks". OR...if that doesn't do it for you, you can ask the guy to have a cup of coffee with you, sit down like a man, look him in the eye and tell him. "Look, I work with you all day and I don't think it's a good idea to be friends outside of work. I appreciate your asking me, but I'm never going to say "yes". I have a life besides work and at the moment, I have plenty of things to do. I'm thinking of volunteering for BigBrother and that's going to take up a lot of my time. You should do the same." Drink up and leave.
OK...it's mostly true and maybe you did think of volunteering on weekends. At least you approached him eye-to-eye, you laid it on the line, and there will be no reason for him to ask in the future. You have already covered the "future". That's it, done, over. Cold? Maybe. But that's ok. There is no rule in life that you have like everyone who happens to come within the circle of your life. And it's good practice for future offenders. Godloveya.
2007-02-27 03:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple ... if this was you wanting to hang out with someone at work and they really did not want to be your personal friend what would you want them to say to you? The best answer is always the truth ... simply tell him your not interested in hanging out outside of work. In fact very rarely do people want to hang out with people they work with. Generally speaking ... Good Luck.
2007-02-27 11:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your going to avoid the truth just give him an "excuse" he cant ignore. Tell him you have prior commitments and your weekends are all about them, or tell him you don't mix work buds and weekend buds, bad business and all. Use your imagination. If he insist on details just tell him (politely) that your commitments are your affair.) Good Luck. If all else fails just be honest.
2007-02-27 11:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell him how u feel, why u feel that way, and tell him u mean no harm and if he accepts it goo, but if he don't then he just doesn't. if he continues to bother u, then u say it in a mean way or just ignore him
2007-02-27 11:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by ATLZtaz300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋