If a man is not getting what he wants at home in a marriage sexually but still loves his wife...?

Question

Is it wrong to seek gratification elsewhere?

Answer 1

Of course it's wrong. Did you forget your marriage vows? Talk to your wife and find a way to spice up your marriage.

Answer 2

Look, cheating on your spouse, and I don't give a sh*t what the details are, is unacceptable. Talk to your wife. Tell her that you're having a hard time with your sexual urges, and see if you two can make a compromise. It may seem a little embarrassing at first, but if seeking help for this particular issue will save your relationship, I would say that it's not even a question.

Trust me, I know what a struggle it is, but just keep strong, and talk it out with your wife. If she is willing to try and become more "satisfying" to you, then I would say that you have a perfect marriage, and I wish you two the best. Just brace yourself; she (because she is a Woman) is, natually, going to take it absolutely the wrong way when you bring this up. So just be patient, and I'm sure you two will find a compromise.

P.S. I despise people who cheat, for my own reasons, but I know it's considered a lot more "casual" than it used to be. But if you're willing to overcome those temptations, and work it out with your wife, then you have my respect, and maybe even a little envy.

Answer 3

Yes! Don't do it unless you are willing to go through the guilt, the pain of your wife finding out, and maybe even divorce. People have different sex drives. No woman wants to feel like her husband just wants sex. Have you tried romancing her? Treating her like woman instead of a wife or mom? Treat her as though you have just started dating. Explain to her that you love her so much, and you are still so attracted to her, that you really want to make love to her more often to show her how much you love her. Tell her you want her to feel good and satisfied as well. Sex is a very important part of a marriage. If that doesn't work you will have to blunt and tell her that you need sex to feel fulfilled in your marriage, and as a man and you don't want this to ruin your marriage but making a mistake such as seeking an outside source. Honesty hurts, but maybe it can help.

Answer 4

Talk to your wife, she may be up to trying new things to spice up your marriage. Never cheat, how would you feel if it was being done to you. If you where realy in love with your wife you would not even have to ask this question. Also, before cheating, try masturbating if it is lack of. If you are still not satisfied, and find it necessary to go elsewhere for sexual pleasure, then leave the marriage. Definately talk to your wife first, if you can't be honest and open about sex with her, the one you are suppose to share your most intimate moments with, then maybe you should not be together anyway.

Answer 5

Well of course not...he has two hands doesn't he? Seek away! Any outside the marriage sexual gratification is cheating, pure and simple, no matter how much a man claims to love his wife once he cheats on her he has told her how little she means to him

Answer 6

Yes it is wrong. You are married not single. OK let's think about this: If your not getting what you want at home sexually have you spoken to your wife about it? Have you gone to counseling? If you truly love your wife then you would find ways to communicate with her. Why are you giving up so easily on your marriage? If there's something that you want more of say so. Are you giving her as much or more than what YOU would like? The largest organ in your body that can help you with sex is your brain. Is your wife doing all the housework? If you have children is she taking care of them herself? Are you pitching in? Stress and exhaustion can damper the sex life of a married couple. If so then help her out at home. Take the time to go out for a weekend to dinner a movie and book yourself a hotel room with your wife. Invest the time, the money, and the energy on your marriage. Why go sneak around, and throw away your marriage? Will it be worth it at the end? No it won't. So in the name of your love for your wife why don't you concentrate on dealing with the issue with her instead of making it worse for the both of you by finding someone else.

Answer 7

If you even have to ask the question, you already know the answer.

Talk to your wife about what you want or need, more, less, different ways, whichever. Let her know that it's bothering you.

People who cheat on their spouses get no respect from me. Male or female.

Too chicken s**t to deal with the real problem so they selfishly go elsewhere looking for their quick fix and ultimately end up hurting the one person they loved, oh so much, yet they couldn't tell them there was a problem and give them the chance to fix the issue.

Please.

And no...I haven't been married, just hit on by way too many married men in my day....and have heard too many women say, "if he had just told me that he was unhappy I would have done anything to try and fix it."

Answer 8

well i think its wrong to seek it elsewhere what you should be doing is talking with your wife and getting to the root of the problem there must be a perfectly good reason why you wife doesn't want sex try marriage guidance there are many reasons why both men and women go off sex but it does not mean you should stray that's just not on get it sorted with your wife and good luck

Answer 9

Absolutely it's wrong! Unless you don't care if you get and pass on a sexually transmitted disease, lose the trust, respect and love of your wife that you supposedly still love, lose the respect and trust of co-workers and friends that know the two of you...

But you would gain the thrill of a momentary fling...make the choice! Just give your wife the option of becoming Lorena Bobbit before you pass on HIV or herpes...

Answer 10

Yes you took vows to be faithful for better or for worse. Since when has talking to your spouses about problems been outlawed in a marriage. That is why the divorce rate and the infidelity is so high.. Lack Of Communication....