sometimes it's like a living h*ll. My 16 year old sister gives my mom such a hard time all of the time. She has no respect for her at all. My mom tries to talk to her or ask her something she will tell her to shut up leave me alone. She'll ask for something and if she's told no she'll cry till mom says ok or if mom still says no she'll trow a fit like a two year old...stopping up the steps yelling at her how mean she is to her. After this my mom will give in and let her get away with it. Any ideas on what i can tell my mom on how to handle her?
2007-02-27 02:51:12 · 10 answers · asked by chelb_1981 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Honey, this a problem for your mom. The behavior will never change if your mom doesn't stick to what she says. I really don't think you will be able to advise your mom on the one. If there is a trusted adult in your life maybe they could talk to your mom.
2007-02-27 02:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by beth l 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It really is your Mom' responsibility, as a parent, to raise her child as a productive individual . She's the parent and should never try and be friends with any of her children (it's just not possible). She has to stand firm and never give in under any circumstance, by giving in, the child knows exactly what to do, to get their own way.
Talk to your Mom about this and tell her how you feel about this whole situation. Tell her that you love them both but by her giving in to your sisters every whim is not good, for anyone. Your losing respect in them both and the chaos is affecting you (be specific).
What happens next is really up to her, if nothing changes and chaos continues, remove yourself from the situation and don't interfere. In the long run they will both lose and you'll be a whole lot saner, if you just ignore them.
2007-02-27 06:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom to look at the big picture of how she wants your sister to act when she is an adult, and to help her be a responsible adult, your mom has to stop giving in. Sure, it's easier but she's not helping your sister learn self-discipline. Without self-discipline, her adult life will be a nightmare.
2007-02-27 03:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow i dont think that that is normal for a 16 year old to be throwing fits to get what she wants. your mom keeps giving into here thats why shes not gonna stop and i think that shedoes need a man in her life to put her in the place that she should be in. punish her take everything away...i mean everything till she starts to act her age...trust me i dont act like that but i talked back to my mom and all i had in my room was a matress and some clothes...but seriously someone needs to put her in the right place
2007-02-27 03:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A possibility is for your mom and sister to go to joint counseling. Your sister for behavioral management, your mother to learn tactics in controlling your sister. Is your mom a single mom? If she is, it is not uncommon for kids to try to control, manipulate and harrass the mother so they can control things. I know, my boys did it to me. I tried every tactic there was, but both boys just would not let up. So, I packed them up and sent them to live with their father. They treat me much better, but it took a serious action to prove to the boys I meant business! Good luck.
2007-02-27 03:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
teenage girls are like that and unless your mom has a really stong personality stong enough to stand up to her then the only way is to put her in some kind of institution so she can realize what she has and appreciatte it. there are places to take her like girls homes or things like that usually they arent that expensive especially if its from the state. when she sees how girls act in there she wont be so tough and it will teach her a lesson. shes gonna want to come home in about ten minutes of being there
2007-02-27 02:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by ~countrymonkey~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's yours?? Okay, if she doesn't treat you that badly then you need to seriously talk to her. Maybe your mom spoilt her or something like that.
Please refer her to these pages:
http://www.relationship-affairs.com/Grandparents.html
http://www.relationship-affairs.com/Grandchildren.html
2007-02-27 04:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U SHOULD TELL HER TO NOT GIVE HER HER WAY ALL THE TIME WHEN SHE DISAGREES BECAUSE SHE WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HER.
2007-02-27 17:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by unknownmystery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're the sister not the mom
if you want to do something kick your sisters butt
2007-02-27 03:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by Dee Brat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need a male to put her in her place
2007-02-27 02:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋