2007-02-27 02:49:56 · 20 answers · asked by Baby Doll 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe, maybe not. Depends.
I got married at 25. Wasn't a mistake. If by young, you mean 17 or something, probably, but there are many success stories too. Different for everyone.
2007-02-27 02:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It turns out different for everyone. I believe any major decisions made when you're young, could go either way later in life. For example: I chose to keep a baby and marry the father when I was 19. Now I'm 32, and I'm in a marriage with a man who is wonderful, but I'm always dissatisfied. I feel as if I'm missing something. I love my children, and would never give them up. I also love my husband. But it's not always aparant, and often times I just don't want to be here. It's a daily struggle for me. So, before you get married when you're just a pup, think very hard about your future. Part of why you should wait, is to be certain that he is the type of man that is going to suit you for life. Shopping around can be beneficial.
2007-02-27 11:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you are a good responsible person. Marriage takes work.
Do not walk lightly into the wind. Do not marry because you want to get out of the house. You can get a good job and do that all by yourself. Do not marry so the guy/girl can take care of you...you have to take care of yourself.
Ask yourself these questions and be honest.
Do you love the person?
Can you put up with the little thing that annoys you?
Will you run the first sign of trouble?
Do you have enough money? And it takes lots of money to run a house.
Do you like the person? You have to like them and love them.
Will you still love them after you see their bad side?...and yes everyone has one.
Are you at least 20?
Do you have an education? Get one before having a baby...working, going to school and taking care of a baby takes lots of money, most of the time you are working to pay a babysitter.
Is home going to be your safety net when you fall?
Will you have to move back home with baby in tow when you can not take it anymore?
You need to find out how your parent feels about that one.
Last but not least...why do you want to get married?
If the answer to that is to have sex when ever you want then the answer to your question is YES getting married young is a mistake and you will regret it later in life.
I have know people that got married at 16, back in the 70's and have been married ever since, and never had to rely on mom and dad to bale the out. But times were different then.
In today’s time it takes more then $90,000.00 a year just to life from check to check, without to much after work life.
If you start out slow, work your way up the rungs you can make it.
But if you want to start out in a 150,000.00 home that just ain't going to happen. You can not expect you to start out with all the things your parents have now...It took them a long time to get them...that is why the houses are filled with all those old things that have been around since you were a baby. The average 50 year old started out making 20,000.00 dollars a year.
So think twice before marriage. Date lots of people to see what kind you like.
2007-02-27 11:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Mama, she's always right.
I got married at 21, and divorced at 27.
Love was never the problem. I just grew up into a different woman than I was at 21.
We still talk on holidays and birthdays, but it was the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life.
2007-02-27 10:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your relationship with your partner and your maturity levels, not your ages.
I have friends that got married at 22-23 and they're working out fine so far. My parents didn't get married until they were in their mid-30s and they're miserable, so go figure.
It's a mistake to get married before you're prepared to contribute to a family of your own and make that commitment to your spouse. But you're the best judge of what age that is; it could be as young as 17-18, it could be as late as 35-40. There's no rule.
2007-02-27 10:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your spouse and you're relationship. I'm married and I'm 20, got married at 19...I dont regret it. Sure I still have yet to find out. But my mom got married at 25, she's still with my dad! Good luck baby! Mom's aren't ALWAYS right. But if she really disagrees with the guy, I'd try and take a step back and evaluate everything. Is he going somewhere is this just a phase. You know...step out of your feelings and really look at the situation, can you picture being wiht the person FOREVER. Good luck baby, good luck, cause marriage is hard work.
2007-02-27 10:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by AE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES
mama is ALWAYS right!!! i have been defiant all my life, and if i would have just listened to mama, i would be in a different/better position than i am in now...they know what's best (most of the time)! lol
don't do it...from someone who married at 17 and am now 28...wait until you are 30 to make this decision =)
2007-02-27 11:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience I wouldn't do it. I got married when I was 17. I have been married for almost 13 years now. Things are realy good now, but we went down a long imature road to get to where we are now. I could be wrong but I just don't think older people probaly have the same sort of problems as we did as kids.
2007-02-27 10:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends how young really!?
I would say that if you have been in a long term relationship with your partner and you are sure then go for it, but personally I think if you are 17, 18 then you are too young!
2007-02-27 10:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was always told as a child >>>>Think marriage only after you are able to support yourself without ever having to feel dependent on another.
I found this to be very important.
Education and employment should be on top of the list then go forward with a date.
Age........
Well that depends on your drive to accomplish the "self" goals of Independence.
Love, communication,compassion for one another, caring and sharing.....Love and know yourself first....
I think if you set goals....and do as you want before adding another to your life....then you are ready.
Make sure that if you haven't finished your goals that the one that you marry is wanting and willing to work and do as you want too.
Young......is under 25......legal is over 18.....however even with it being legal....there is still so much to do before marriage.
Some are ready some are not......age to me...depends on the person and the couple as one.
Best wishes
2007-02-27 11:12:51 · answer #10 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋