If you met the partner of your dreams and (s)he lived at 400 miles away, would you move if it meant having to start up a new business in an area you knew little about...and leaving behind family and friends (if the partner was unable to move to live with you)?
Or would you just forget about it and hope to meet someone else eventually? My business used to be the only thing that was important to me and I'm terrified of putting anything else first, especially a relationship, in particular as it may mean having to leave behind a successful business in someone else's care.
2007-02-27 02:45:55 · 8 answers · asked by ticket2ride 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Small Business
I am about to move to be with someone I love and this has meant giving up the job I love and moving away from my family. I have been on my own for a long time and never expected to meet anyone at my age (56) and I feel this is the right thing to do, even though it means re-establishing myself in another area.
No one else can decide for you, only you know what is right. But I always say that if you don't know what to do, don't do anything!
2007-02-27 02:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by fengirl2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats 400 miles? If it's a recent relationship, stick out the distance, I continued a relationship for 5 years with my partner living in a different country?!Seeing him once every few weeks.If it's meant to be, the distance won't be a problem ...trust is the issue. After 5 years I moved to Germany, left my career and started a new business which is a success,we've been together for 10 years now......and still not married. Ignore the get marrried thing,you should get married because you both feel it is right, not as a form of bribery.Is there no way you could expand your business to the new town where he/she lives? If your attitude is "forget about it , I might meet someone else" then he's not the one."
Worse scenario is ...you leave, business goes down hill.
What do you do?
Move back and take charge again. At least you tried and your partner can see that.
Leaving family and friends can be harder, but see it as an opportunity to meet new people.Don't stop your life for others, you are your priority.If life is miserable without your partner, move. If it's bearable then only you can make the decision of whether it's worth the risk, If you leave the business in someonelses care , you would still have your business and you certainally wouldn't lose it for good. Then after a year if your relationship is all good and well,then you can make the next decision.
2007-02-28 05:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rose,
DO NOT Move or shut down your business until your boyfriend proposes AND marries you. After you have a commitment from him then make a commitment to him. Until then keep your pants on and run your business in the town you live in.
To do otherwise is to have the whole thing fall apart with you 400 miles from home.
You'll find out truthfully whether this is the man of your dreams by taking and sticking to this stance with him. If he waivers at your wish, then you can bet he would have waivered after you uprooted and shutdown. You must stick to your guns on this.
Good Luck,
Dana B.
2007-02-27 17:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by planningresult 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally i'd be very reluctant, but love can do funny things to you. If you feel that this guy is the one you want to grow old with and he's someone who's gonna make you happy then the decision becomes more difficult. I suppose you've got to follow your heart. Money comes and goes and a business is just materialistic but real love is sometimes only once in a life-time
2007-02-27 10:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Smarty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why (s)he unable to move - are they nailed down? If you have a business that's successful it seem madness to throw it all away. But then again if you can manage it from afar, why not break out, you might find new interests and new friends. Families a different matter!
Tough decision good luck.
2007-02-27 11:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought women believed we always let them down? Isn't anyone smooth enough to get you to leave your business and move 400 miles to an area you know nothing about going to move on with his playin' skills about the time you get your business running again?
2007-02-27 11:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt personally move, unless i thought that id be just as (or better) off where i was moving to!
2007-02-27 10:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by Henry.yoyoyo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u can have both .. if you just met the person give it some time ..see if u and that person can cme to a mutual agreement
2007-02-27 11:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by pivotalperson111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋