Why is it lonely being a deep thinker?

Question

Its hard for me to fit in because i love talking about life and serious issues. Are most people sheep?

Answer 1

I think...

Your time in the sun will come.

But right now, this is probably mostly an age issue. My feeling is that you feel lonely because you are a Young Deep Thinker: and most young people choose not to think too much about life, or serious issues. They're not trained to, and general society doesn't encourage them, too, either. It's a lot easier to just Have Fun, be young, Enjoy Life, and to go with the flow. This is why they will "shine" more during this period, and you may feel sidelined and in the shadows.

All people have a Body, Mind, and Heart. Many younger people tend to live through their Body aspect more, and the Body at this stage is usually more energized. If you choose to live more through your Mind & Heart, you'll feel and be different - and others will see you as different or even weird, which is why "fitting in" will be difficult. It's hard for them to understand why anyone would want to think about & try to understand life so much - from their point of view, life isn't about Thinking or Understanding it, or Talking about it, but simply about living it.

But the older you become, the less lonely you will probably feel. This is because as people get older, we often encounter and need to deal with life's more difficult & complicated Problems, Pressures, Responsibilities, Concerns, and Losses. The Mind & Heart often become heavier, more easily burdened - and the Body begins to age & slow down, and Death becomes a real presence. It is at this point that some people become more receptive to Talking about, Listening to, and Considering deeper life questions, issues, & perspectives, that may shed some Light on life. At this point, you & others who live more through their Minds & Hearts, begin to shine more brightly.

So in the meantime, you can take heart in the fact that there are plenty of deep thinkers around, as you can see by the other answerers here.

My only advice is that you do not focus so much on your Mind, that you neglect the Heart. Be Kind also to the sheep - both in Mind & Heart, for underneath, many of them are lonely and unhappy. Especially since many sheep get Eaten by wolves, get Trampled to death by other sheep, or get Butchered in factory farms by their bosses and Sold on the free market.

If thinking and talking about life is your Passion & Strength, even if it makes you lonely, don't give it up! (Thankfully, I don't believe you will.) If this is Truly your Love, then cherish & cultivate that love - because it will ultimately attract more love into your life. So have Faith & Trust in your own path and your Self. There will come a time when you actually do meet others like you, and also a time when others Not like you will appreciate you more for what you have to offer.

I, for one, am very grateful that you asked this question, since it is very heartening for me to know that there are people like you in the world.

Answer 2

"It's hard for me to fit in because I love talking about life and serious issues." Same here, Hassan. I think to a lot of people that would be boring. I don't know about you, but sometimes that has made me feel like the odd ball, the one who doesn't fit in. Once I've experienced something deep, come out of a time of deep thinking, or had a deep conversation, it's hard to lighten up and enjoy the company of those who are in a lighter mood. Sometimes it's nice to talk to others who enjoy those deeper topics. Sometimes I just need to be alone and think. Sometimes it's nice to get lost in light-hearted conversation with friends or strangers. Maybe you have a high IQ. Maybe the topics you enjoy are too heavy or depressing for most people. Different people like different things. Look for activities you can do where you can find like-minded people. For a healthy balance, though, you can't be a deep thinker all the time. It does get lonely and can be depressing depending on what you're thinking and how long you think about it.

Answer 3

It is lonely being a deep thinker because deep thinkers think to much and act to little. I also have found that most people would rather talk about a celebrity than ponder serious questions. You probably wouldn't want such people hanging around you anyway being a person of substance. So it seems to be a mathematics issue. If there is a smaller percentage of people who are in a constant state of deep thoughts than it is only natural that deep thinkers would feel lonelier than others.

Answer 4

Not all people are at this level of philosophising about Life and other serious -acccording to your personal opinion- issues.

People have various interests. What would happen if i.e.some goalkeeper started talking to you about football _which is his job, consequently a very serious issue for him- and you do not show any interest? Would that give him the right to call you sheep?? Not at all.

You, being such a deep thinker, I am sure you understand that everybody is entitled to his own level of thinking. We must not judge people so easily.

Besides, being a deep thinker is not a lonely procedure at all!! I believe, being a deep thinker, gives you the best company of all : your inner self.

Be just a bit more compassionate and you will gladly see how well you fit in. With everybody! I am sure of it.

Keep the good try.

Answer 5

Don't assume others aren't deep thinkers.
You'd be surprised what people really think and care about. Start with questions about movies or tell a funny but very personal story, then they will trust you enough to tell you anything. Sensitive issues should be reserved for close friends or someone who isn't afraid to tell you their thoughts. If they still have a blank look on their face... then you can assume - light's on, nobody's home.

Don't think of it as a reason for being lonely. Think of it as a gift. A gift than you can reserve for the right time for the right people.

Answer 6

What you state is an assumption and cannot be sustantiated. Besides there is an added confusion in your view about lonliness and talking .

Not all people are deep thinkers . They are thinkers allright , like you and I. For many the varied thoughts and the confusions arising therein , can make them go silent , mimicking deep thinking.

The real deep thinker is more a contemplator, having internalised himself. They talk but talk less. They are not lonely at all. They are totally with themselves .

As for you , if you say that you love talking , talking about life and the living , just go ahead.. At some point some of the thoughts will converge and you will talk less and less and start to contemplate . Try this exercise . Try to keep silent for ONE DAY in a month. Wear a badge to announce to the people around you that you are going to listen and not talk,.

You will realise an amazing , simple truth. Silence always exists. Always. It is the noise that is an intrusion in silence. You donot have to say "Be silent" to be silent.

Answer 7

It is a Star question. Thanks.

I believe that deep thinkers do not feel lonely.... it is others who find their company a bit overwhelming and stressful. The deep thinkers perhaps lack common abilities like simple and straight communication, tuned-in responses, interest in a large variety of subjects and objects etc. etc. Deep thinkers mostly end up in a narrow hole like the bore-well.... depth somehow appears to rob one of spread and width.

All these are reconcilable... what others can not put up with is the deep thinker's conviction that others are 'sheep'.... but as I said at the outset, it doesn't matter to the deep thinker for he/she is usually quite happy in the august company of his/her own thinking self.

Answer 8

There are lots of deep thinkers out there in the world! You just got to go and find them. Also it is not bad to be not serious about everything everytime and take few things lightly. After all, you can't get out of life alive!

Answer 9

i would like to put it this way that deep thinker is a lonely being..

Answer 10

Most people don't think at all about life and serious issues. Yes, most people are sheep. However lonely it may get, consider yourself fortunate you're not like that and have a decent brain in your head! Well done, you!