when i care about someone i always have a period where its blissful and so much fun being around them and enjoying their company, but then i start to push them away and i dont know why. i try to stop myself doing it when i start but in the end i do it with out realising it and i end up hurting them and then im annoyed because i hurt them. A friend of mine asked why we were drifting apart and i joked it off saying dont be silly, but i do see it too. She has other friends and so do i, she's become more confident now, i think i got too attached to her. she's much more free do do what she wants unlike me so i cant hang out with her at concerts etc bloody curfews. my culture restricts me and i dont want to disappoint my parents.
2007-02-27 02:35:07 · 12 answers · asked by sprite 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
do you think it could be possible that deep down you feel for some reason that you dont deserve to have freinds?? maybe you could explore this within yourself. maybe someone, has put you down at some point in your life and you feel unable to sustain relationships with others on a deeper level.
as for your culture restricting you, are your freinds not aware of restrictions you face at the beginning of the freindship, and yet, they at least wish to continue. it shows you must have alot to offer, dont you think?
2007-02-27 02:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a counsellor i hav had this many times. u shud explore your past with a professional and find out if you have unresolved childhood issues that are causing you the problems.
it could be a way of completing a vicious circle that has been set up for us and there are no easy solutions to this. it takes time and working through the conditions set out during a forgotten period. you may be aware of what im talking about or it could be in the subconcious. and the journey could be painful and you may want to run away from it. but if you decide to see a counsellor and work at the issues your life will be much more worth while and you will know where you need to change. counselling could be a real benefit and i love exploring myself in a therapy session, even now as a trained counsellor i still have regular sessions with my therapist to work through things.
give it a try! we all need to work through the messages given to us as children and you won't believe the effect they have on us, even if you dont realise it now.
why will your parents be disapointed in you? i kno that no matter what anyone thinks that i have the support of my parents, they may not agree with what i do but they can't run your life. that is yours to live how you want.
what is stopping you? we have to make compromises to live the life we want and no one should dictate to anyone how to live their lives. i dont dictate to my 3 kids, i support them in their decisions and guide them and we are happy and are very close.
2007-02-27 02:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the reason you do this is because you feel that when you get too close to someone you dont want to get hurt (well thats just what I think) but if your a scorpio then its in your nature
2007-02-27 07:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by UndeadNitemare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 21:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i get close to people, i too have periods where they are pushed at arms length, it bcos im afraid of getting hurt, so i pull back a bit
2007-02-28 21:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have sort of the same problem...exept its with my parents and teacher... i dont lie to my friends. i dont tell them stuff so they dont worry bout me and just leave me alone. erm, bout ur culture, if u dont want it follow it any more ul just have to tell ur parents, it might dissapoint them but it is ur life! thts if u dont want to.
2007-03-01 02:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mort 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I do the same, I think it may be past related.
2007-02-27 03:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good friends stick around. It depends on what you do to them or what kind of things do you do. I am intrigued
2007-03-02 07:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Babe K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could it be that you are afraid that someday you're friend/s may leave you or be fed up or get bored w/ you and before that happens to you, you leave them first....counselling will really help you alot
2007-02-27 09:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know really maybe its just sumfink dat happens naturally.
2007-02-27 04:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋