we hate each other but, i caan't ever stop thinking of him and, he sends me text message with hearts and, sometimes special things we once had together. what the heck does that mean? i did him really wrong. i cheated through our whole relationship. i do regret it though. he was very mentally abusive. should i just ignore it? even though i still think i love him?
2007-02-27 02:29:47 · 12 answers · asked by higa1980ash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all..how long were you 2 married? Give it some time. See how you feel in 6 months or so.
2007-02-27 02:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is a destructive relationship, there was once love, sounds like great love, but you have forever changed his heart with his infidelity. You don't just stop loving someone even if they cheat on you, you grieve and love them and try to get over the hurt. Eventually he will move on, and if you decide to pursue this relationship, it will only be more destructive the 2nd time around. Let him go, he is abusive mentally to you, you cheated, let it rest, and move on for both your own goods!
2007-02-27 12:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing. My ex and I love each other soooo very much. But when we are together it's not a good thing. As much as we miss each other, we both know what would happen if we were to get back together. Maybe in a few years after we both learn a few things about our selves then maybe we can handle each other. But for now I'm just trying to live life by myself and I'm getting to know myself a little better.
2007-02-27 10:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by cromswife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's got to be difficult for both of you to let go. You loved each other at one time and you had good times together too. That love will always be there somewhere but that doesn't mean that you are right for each other. You both made mistakes but the question is... have you both changed? If you both have and are willing to give it another shot than why not try. But if you honestly haven't changed you could just be dealing with difficulty letting go.
2007-02-27 10:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well this seems like one of those messed up situations. In my opinion, just move on and let him go.
If you two were to get back together, what's stopping the mental abuse from him or you cheating on him again?
I doubt if any good could ever come from you two getting back together.
Then again, people can change. The choice is yours.
2007-02-27 10:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you want to try again, go along with it. If not, ask him to stop contacting you.
You sound like a bad mix, though. He was abusive, you were a habitual cheater. Why would you want each other? You will ALWAYS have an attraction, but it sounds bad to me.
Don't ignore, just say "sorry, but unless it is important, please don't contact me".
2007-02-27 10:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's rich: you cheated on him, and HE was mentally abusive? What did he do? Call you a tramp?
Stop communicating with him--you've done enough dammage to that one. Find another victim.
2007-02-27 10:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, ignore them! If he was mentally abusive, then you need to move on. Some women enjoy being victims, but if you don't, then you seriously need to get over him!
2007-02-27 10:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh-oh. You guys are going to get back together. It seems you're not really done with each other.
2007-02-27 10:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a fool if he takes your cheating hiney back!
2007-02-27 10:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋