How can you tell if your spouse is lying to you?

Question

For instance if you ask them if they flirt at work or ask them if they talk bad about you to anyone and they say “no not at all”. However if they drink things slip out that seems to contradict them but not enough to totally accuse them of lying. Is there one thing that liars do that makes it easy to catch them? Do they accuse you or are paranoid of things that they have done?

Answer 1

You CAN'T tell a good Liar, unfortuantley. Till you catch her red handed, not alot you can do. Just hang in there...

Answer 2

Well, first of all, who doesn't actually flirt even just a little? Of course it can be harmless; of course it can be dangerous. That should be answered honestly with something like "Sometimes" or "I have"...they don't have to go to work to flirt; it can just happen and only a robot doesn't do that every now and then. So...probably an untruth right there. And why the untruth? Every person is going to be a bit different with their way or lying or not wanting to say something to hurt their partner, but some signs that different people may exhibit are: defensiveness, turning the tables and making the other person look guilty (even for asking), OVER-compensating and being very attentive...sort of a distraction effort, as mentioned above, lack of eye-contact or shifting of eyes can be a sign (unless they are shy and rarely make eye-contact anyhow), being aloof, being jumpy. So many things. It depends on the person, the situation, and the questions being asked.

Answer 3

Of course he/she is going to tell you, "not at all." Because you are asking 1001 questions. They know you are looking for them to slip up so lying to you keeps you from freaking out on them.

I learned a long time ago to pick and choose my battles. If I hear what I think was a little fib, I'll give him a look and he knows that I picked up on it, but I let it go. Who cares... in the big picture, its harmless. Whenever my man has slipped and said that a girl on TV is hot, I'll give him a look and he'll give me the "opps" smile but its not a big deal.

I think there is a huge difference between liars and fibbers. Liars have no good intentions for you and are not worth your time. Fibbers, even though they are stupid at times, are just trying not to hurt your feelings.

You'll live a much happier life if you can get to the point with this person where you aren't hiding anything and can focus on the big picture of how to be happy in life, rather than the little details that you won't even remember 2 months down the road.

Answer 4

Each person is different, but when your married long enough body language as well as tone of voice or quickness of answers will be enough to know whether a spouse is lying or not. His accusations was a warning sign to me, either he was accusing me of things or suspicious of my time, checking the milage on my car. What it came down to was he was doing the things he was accusing me of and he needed to keep track of my whereabouts by checking the milage on the car he could gage wherther I was out looking for him or not. Guilt was another thing, in the beginning of him cheating I received flowers for no reason, as the liasons between him and his female of the night became more intimate I started getting jewlery and furniture, actually my family and I use to laugh when I got something rather expensive out of the blue and we would wonder what he had done that his conscience was bothering him over. He always denied his affairs, making it seem as if I just wanted rid of him or I was stupid or I was just trying to clear my conscience by blaming him. He was made of ice, no tone change, no fidgeting, he would yell but he did that a lot anyway.

Answer 5

Trust...it's the thing you are missiing in your relationship...you can manipulate all that you want but it all boils down to lack of trust. YOu have to first find out if the lack of trust is from internal sources (i.e. you insecurity) or from external sources (her actions). The internal stuff you can affect through counseling..the external stuff is a lot harder.....

You have already married this person and now you have doubts...if you do not have children then hold off until you can trust her without reservation...if you have children then you are partially screwed...divorce would be very expensive and emotionally damaging to your children.

You are right if a woman will lie to you about a small thing then she will lie to youo about a big thing (i.e. banging the co-worker etc...)

If you have children then you need to reinvest in activities that will increase her moral fiber (i.e. church)...get into church and church activities.....the probability of "stinkin thinkin" is less there and it will give you the framework to work out any problems.

If you don;t have kids then still use the church route to instill moral fiber...if you're interested in keeping her.

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Good luck

Answer 6

It sounds you are looking to catch him in a lie. Old saying, if you dig deep enough you might find out what you do not want to know. Stop being so suspicious and relax. We all say little lies here and there, and it does not mean anything. Sometimes if you plant the seed of deceit, it will grow to a full grown lie.

Answer 7

Speaking of paranoid.....

It must be wonderful for your spouse to come home from a long day at the office and be met with a shrew of a partner grilling them about their "supposed" wrongdoings.....

Do you black out the lights in the room and shine a spotlight in their eyes during the interrogation?

What a lucky partner you have!!

Knock it off unless you want the harmless flirting at work to turn in to serious shopping for your replacement....and who would blame your spouse? You sound like a real pain in the *** to live with.

Answer 8

If you learn studying body language for which simple books are available, u will easily catch anyone telling a lie. Normally a lady telling a lie will slip words and her ear lobes will turn red.

Answer 9

If you are asking this question right now, it means one thing...you have trust issues with your spouse. If you have a gut feelign he is lying...chances are high that he really is. The truth does come out when you are drinking...try going to a counselor to work out your problems before they end up getting worse.

Answer 10

Pay attention to the EYES. The windows to the soul tell all!!

I believe a person is lieing if when asked questions and their eyes drift off to the "left" . It means their trying to come up with a quick lie or untruth.