How soon after meeting did you realize you met "the one"?

Question

How soon after meeting someone did you realize he or she was "the one"? How did you know? Can you explain it?

Answer 1

I knew she was special within an hour or two of meeting her. It was a full two years though until I proposed.

I have a mental image in my mind of her sitting on a park bench with me smiling at me. That was the moment I knew she was special. I don't know why.

Answer 2

Actually, it was before we met. We'd been chatting online for a few months and realised we shared a very similar world-view and got excited at the prospect of having a conversation. I'm no big talker but we could talk for hours. When we finally met over a year later it was really wierd because we knew each other very well by then, but had never even held hands. That took some getting used to.

I think the moment I realised she was the one was when I realised that my face was hurting from all the unaccustomed laughing. She still makes me laugh all the time.

Raul: I agree that you have to work at relationships to build them up and keep things going well, but just because you have not experienced that moment of clarity doesn't mean that it doesn't exist.

Answer 3

The first time I met my future wife, I knew she had something special...but I was in a stage where I refused to enter a relationship (because of a very painful experience with a previous girlfriend)..so we started off as friends. The thing is that we were extremely comfortable with each other, and though I had announced myself to remain a bachellor..we unintentionally became an item without actually 'announcing' it. She was very special and even though I dreaded another relationship, our comfort zone was extrememly high and our friendship was way more than friendship...became very intimate and I don't know how it happened, but I actually ended up unofficially living with her (my dorm was deserted for an entire semester!). I guess I knew she was the one on the day I left for holidays for one month and a huge feeling of loneliness/incompleteness kicked in and remained until we saw each other again...I never missed someone as much as her. That's why I married her, cuz I cannot stand the feeling of being without her. Of course, we have to be seperated once in a while, but that incompleteness always kicks in...and that's why Jerry McGuire hit so many people with the 'you complete me' phrase...cuz for those who know this feeling, knows that this small phrase expresses perfectly the true love for another.

Answer 4

A month after I met my now husband i realized that he was the one that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.I am not sure about how you first know, but all I can say is that its a feeling.A feeling so strong and so real that the very thought of not having that person in your life depresses you and make your life seem unliveable. Its just requiring this person to be a part of your life and you are instantly happier when you get to see and be around your partner.

Answer 5

I am 36 and I haven't meet the one...The guys that I meet have many issues and I really don't want to deal with their issues because I don't have any will yes I have issues but my are that I love life more the anything and I don't like problems too...How you will now the one...I can tell you that one will be the one you and that person will get along well even both of you don't like the very same staff still both of you will try to be content with each other...Sometime people get it wrong because just the another one do't like the same things as you like it doesn't means i won't work...Both of yoy want make happy each other always...Live one day at the time...

Answer 6

You don't meet 'the one'! You have to proactively get out there and work at making things happen. There are no 'soul mates'! That's all a bunch of romantic crap! There is no instant gratification unless you are talking about physical attraction or infatuation and even then you have to work at it. People have a rough time in relationships because they want someone great with the least amount of effort. Get real! True love involves a very tightly knit web of trust, patience, tolerance, understanding, compassion, sacrifice, support, and a host of other PROACTIVE traits!

Answer 7

I think an normal available male today knows he is ready for an engagement after about six months to a year. If not he is either not being honest with his mate or himself. But I think there are times when one can feel a strong attraction to someone immediately. Defining what that attraction is whether it is a healthy one or not is the trick.

Answer 8

I knew my wife for about 2 months. On our third date I knew. She will tell you she knew after the first. It was just meant to be, a feeling like I've had with no other girl.

16 years later I would do it all over again.

I think you'll know when you find the right one.

my very best

Answer 9

I think it is too much pressure to say you've met "the one"', because your expectations for that person are way too high.

Look at all the people in crappy marriages/relationships. Obviously at some point, they thought they'd found "the one", and yet, that person failed to live up to the standard.

When you meet someone, look for qualities that you want in "the one" and let the other person decide if they want that title.....

In answer to your question....I met the man who fit the bill as my "one", in one lunch, I summed up that he was a keeper, in one month, he announced he was "the one" for me.

Answer 10

Can't explain it, but, it happened two seconds after our eyes met. One year later we were married.