im scared what people will think of me! mum died when i was 16 and i dont really have anyone else to confide in. my sister is WELL proctective of me and would go mad. i no im a 'grown up' and married now but it dont stop me feeling worried. also wondering wether i will cope or not!!! help! xx
2007-02-27 01:57:46 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You have a daughter, you have a family. Do not let any one else make you feel inadequate. You have to make your own choices. Your daughter and husband needs you, and so will your future child.
I am sure you will be a great mum, and that you are worring is natural and a good sign. It shows you care!
2007-02-27 02:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by natasha * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be fine.
Having a child while married...that's called having a family. Why anyone would look down on you for that I can't imagine.
Your 21... that's not to young. You're doing this exactly right. You are married and having kids at the best possible time biologially. Humans are designed to be having kids at your age. This whole idea of having kids when you're in your late 40s after extending your teenage years well into your 30s is a very recent (and I personally feel silly) idea.
You already have a 3 year old... they can be a handful (I have one who is 11 and one who is 3) but you've been there, done that. You will be amazed how much your little one loves and adores her new brother or sister.
I think you are afraid of the changes this is going to make in your life. They are good changes, but they are still big changes and you wern't expecting them. It is natural to be a little paniced at first.
But that will pass. This is a good thing all around.
You will cope just fine. This is what women have been doing for millions and millions of years. Yeah, it's scary, it's natural to be freaked out by a big change, but it's nothing you can't handle.
Relax and enjoy your wonderful new child.
and Congratulations!
2007-02-27 02:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Larry R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun if you are too young I definately was. Got married at 16 had my son at 17, then had my daugther at 19. Had a happy and healthy marraige until last year but we are still mates. I think its a personal choice and I am proud of my abilities to cope as a young mother....also its nice to have the children close together (i think so anyway) my kids have a two year gap and are now 9 and 11 and are close...I love being a young mum.(although just found out im expecting again now at 28 and although most of my friends have only just had a baby..I feel old! lol)..great proving all your critics wrong too! Goodluck to you and congratulations on your baby!! x
2007-02-27 04:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by doodlebip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband think? Did you intend to get pregnant? If it is a surprise then take it as a gift and I'm sure everything will turn out well. You are lucky to have a situation where you are married and able to have children, some people can't have children so you should feel blessed but the most important question is do you want another child? Have you had a good life with your first child? Are you in a situation where you can support another child financially and obviously give the child the time and love they deserve? Talk it over with your husband.
2007-02-27 02:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Biff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about what other people will think its your life if you are able to handle it then dont worry. I am 22 (23 in August), and I am married, we have a 17 1/2 month old daughter and I am 6 weeks pregnant. We know thats what we want and we can handle it so I dont care what other people think, some people are just jealous. One of my so called friends is jealous of me , I guess because I am married and both of my kids have the same daddy and we are happy and shes not. Congratulations and good luck
2007-02-27 02:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and married so who really cares what others think. I had two children when I was 21 and yes I got alot of comments from people that had no idea what they were talking about(I too am married and have been since I was 19...almost 26 now) Stop being so worried about what others think of you(it doesn't matter what they think...learn to ignore them) and put that energy towards being the best mother possible so it does not give any leverage for people to talk.
2007-02-27 02:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say I was 21 with a 2 yro and pregnant. Now I am 28 with a 9 yro son, 7yro son, 3 yro son, 2 yro daughter, and my youngest turns 1 next week. They are your kids, your body, your life. You make the decision, if you are happy and feel ready THAT is what matters. Age has nothing to do with it. Congratulations and many blessings
2015-08-02 02:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by Christi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not too young! I am 23 and having my first child. My husband and i got married in August and we are due in June (you do the math). I look like I am about 16 and yes, I have been getting looks, but that shouldn't let you feel bad. You know you are a capable mother (since you did it once before). You have a husband to help you out, so you don't have to do it alone. You can cope, and congratulations. Babies are absolute miracles!
2007-02-27 02:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by E. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're not too young. Everyone's life is different and you shouldn't worry about what other people think after all your living your life for you and for no-one else.
I'm 31 am still not married (although I just got engaged) and I have no kids yet. I wish that I had done all that in my twenties as I am terrified that I will have difficulties getting pregnant because of my age. You are so lucky, and remember age is only a number.
2007-02-27 02:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter if you are married what people think of you. I dont think anything is wrong with it and if your pregnant now, then not much you can do about it anyways. So dont worry about it so much. I got married at 19, had my first baby at almost 21, 23, 27 and now 30. We are still happily m arried and have a happy family and i didnt care what people thought of us then, and I dont care what they think of usnow. Sometimes they make comments about us having 4 kids. Doesnt matter what anyone thinks.
2007-02-27 02:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step son's mom had him when she was 17. She got married and had another one when she was 22. Nobody seems to look down on her for it. She's 29 now with a 12 yr old and 7 yr old, but I don't think people think about her age. You are an adult and the only thing that matters is if you are able to take care of your kids.
2007-02-27 02:17:25 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋