How do you know if you've fallen out of love with your partner?

Question

I been with my partner over 2 years and were having a baby together but thats all were doing recently is argueing. Im fed up of the way we talk and treat eachother its getting me down and i feel like we'd be better off single parents help please!!

Answer 1

Read books on how to improve your relationship. Try counseling. Remember what made you love each other in the first place and don't argue about the little stuff its not worth it. Treat each other like you want to be treated and don't say hurtful things. The baby can bring you closer if you work at it. Good Luck to all of you!

Answer 2

It's really normal to go through some hard times when there's a baby on the way. Whether or not you both want the baby, you are both experiencing the pregnancy very differently.

As a woman you are totally aware of this little person growing inside you, but as a man he is only really aware of his partner's changing body. Your hormones are all over the place, but he doesn't understand why you can't just be the same as you were before. For you, everything changed the moment you saw a line on a stick, for him, it might take until the baby is 6 or 7 months old before he really connects with it.

It's tough. It's really tough, but you can get through it.

Try to find some time to do stuff together that isn't focussed around the baby and enjoy the relative freedom you have now. You need to find some common ground again - ways to communicate without arguing.

Answer 3

I agree with all the people who have told you that your pregnancy hormones are all over the place and that is probably reason enough for you feeling out of sorts with your partner - after all he is the one who got you pregnant, you will probably be feeling a little bit of resentment as well as you see your life as an independent, free-spirited woman disappearing over the horizon as the weight of responsibility of future motherhood hurtles towards you.... but don't forget he is also probably feeling all those emotions as well. Becoming first time parents is the most rewarding and most terrifying time of our lives. Try to find some common ground and to remind yourselves why you are together as a couple... make the most of the time you have just being the two of you, soon enough there will be another little person encroaching on your relationship.

Do not enter the world of single parenthood lightly, this could just be a glitch you can both overcome but the repercussions of being a single parent for both of you as well as your child will be far harder to deal with.

Good luck with your relationship with each other and also the successful conclusion of your pregnancy.

Answer 4

Do you still love your partner?
After 2 years together, its time to really put some effort into a relationship. If you honestly want to be with him/her, then you need to put the spark back into your relationship.
Being with someone long-term takes effort and you both need to sit down, tell eachother how you feel about oneanother and maybe try new things to do together.
You both have an important time ahead with the birth of your baby, and its worth just a bit of effort to re-kindle the passion and love you used to have, if not for you both, but for your baby's future.

Answer 5

don;t start by wantihng to be a single parent,
SLOW DOWN..
if you argue all the time-what are you arguing about?anything important?if not don;t argue,walk away.
come to an agreement that you will only argue over important stuff,but then talk.you can talk about anything.it doesn't always have to be an arguement.if your partner starts the arguement,tell her you would like to talk and if that won't work,take 5 away from each other.she will eventually see that you don't want that kind of relationship.
if you two can get back to talking and loving,your relatioinship will be much stronger..
GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 6

I think you should sit down and talk to each other. A lot of couples spend all their time arguing when in fact all they need to do is spend a bit of quality time together and talk.

If you really cant stand being around each other anymore and have no feeling for that person, i.e. dont care if you dont see them, then perhaps you should look at calling it a day. However, please remember there is a child that will be involved in all this and there is nothing worse than watching someone else bringing up your kid. So please think before you jump!

Answer 7

Me and my boyfriend are exactly the same I've just had a little boy hes 6mnts now. and we started arguing all the time when i was pregnant and it hasn't got any better. i love him but think that it would b better if we split up and i know he feels the same sometimes. i haven't got the answer cos i don know wot to do either but ya not the only one. people have said it will get easier when my little boy gets older and its less stress with looking after a baby. x

Answer 8

If it has been a recent thing it is most probably all the hormones that are making you feel like this, as for him he may not be able to cope with the situation right now. if i were you i would wait till the baby is born then see how you feel about each other then. good luck.

Answer 9

Remember, your hormones are a bit wacky these days. Could the arguments be blamed on the hormones? Go for councelling, and try to re-connect for the baby. If that all fails, then, it is time to move on.

Answer 10

you both need to make time for each other,things do change especially when you have a baby but try and keep it alive,communicate,tell them exactly how you feel and they may be feeling exactly the same!then you either decide to work at it or go your seperate ways,which i bet if you both are truly honest you wouldnt want to do that,so do something about it!