why do parents in the western countries particualry in the US don't like hitting their kids unlike in Asia

Question

I see some of my friend's kids they are kinda spoiled. I just wonder why they don't hit to discipline them and train how to be an obedient. In asia if the kids are likely stubborn or seemingly learning bad behaviours the parents would hit them, not s everely but it would also hurt the kid. Do you think hitting is a good way to discipline chidlren?

Answer 1

How many times do you see an Asian throwing a fit in a store or being disrespectful....Rarely if ever. Why? Because Mama-san whoops snot-san out of her kids.

Afro-American Mamas whoop snot out of their kids to, and they behave too. That is until they get to be bigger than her, or they get to age 8 and start packin' Glock 9s!

White Mamas stopped hitting their kids in the 70s and 80s. Because they got the snot kicked out of them by their World War 2 aged parents, and they didn't like it. They changed the rules in schools and even in some states so you can't spank a kid anymore.

And look where we are today. EVERYONE under the age of 50 is a rude, self-centered, jagoff to the rest of the world. No one has any more respect or manners, because they never had manners or respect smacked into them.

Raising kids is just like bareback horse riding, or teaching a puuppy not to dookee in the house. To train either one, correctly, you first have to break their spirit. A horse has to be bridle and saddle broke before it learns to behave. And a puppy needs a newspaper to the hieney to learn no to poop on the oriental rug. Once the appropriate amount of pain is applied, the animal bends it's will to the expected behavior and peace, harmony, abound, buggys get pulled, ground gets plowed, dogs get kibbles and get to sleep on the bed.

Kids need exactly the same correction. You can not reason with a toddler. They are too free spirited and too determined to learn and explore. So they reach for the stove burners, run into the street, and scream like fools in public to get their way. Applying the right amount of pain corrects that free will and redirects the kid's behavior so respect is learned. Manners are learned. And peace and harmony in the home is maintained.

I was never spanked growing up but I WAS raised in an abusive home. I was punched in the head instead, and whipped with a TV antennae, and the prong end of an extension cord REGULARLY. I do NOT advocate the Mike Tyson theory of child raising,but a swift crack on the *** now and again NEVER hurt a kid in the long run.

Answer 2

A good spanking should be reserved for a very serious offense, i.e., running out in the street, turning on the stove/oven, running away from parents in the mall/store, etc. This way the child knows what is REALLY wrong and dangerous.

For every day brattiness, time outs, loss of privleges, being grounded, no TV, no games, no internet, etc. should do the trick. Send the kid to bed--and don't allow any games, phones, TVs, etc. in the room. Let him/her cry--they deserve to cry. But, this needs to be done every time the child acts out--kids need consistency, or they will remained spoiled.

Answer 3

Its a question of dominance, not of violence. If you lay down the rules and enforce them with a non violent pucnishment if the rule is broken and a positive enforcement for the chile if they do what is asked, it prevents the child from becoming spoiled. By yelling and hitting the child you teach them that violence is the answer which can lead to abusive relationships later in life. Studies have shown that children respond better to positive rewards for postive behavior as opposed to negative reactions for negative behavior. While discipline is necessary, it shouldnt be harsh or excessive.

Answer 4

First of all no parents wish to hit their kids

They get angry and want to hit and in Asia police dont care and there is no law. Here in the United States there is a law that says you cannot hit your children to discipline them.

Sometimes hitting helps but since you have a law against hitting kids the kids dont have fear. Atleast the kids dont have to know about that law.

Answer 5

Hitting is great if you want to teach your child how to be violent.

Hitting isn't necessary to teach respect and obedience. Respect and obedience are easily taught if you take the time to be consistent in your expectations and punish appropriately if they're not met.

Time outs, discussion, suspension of privileges and activites do work. If a parent takes the time to explain the reasons for the rules, children then have a better understanding and find it easier to remember and follow the rules.

Simply saying, "Because I said so", wouldn't be an adequate explanation for anyone, adult or child.

Showing your child respect teaches them how to respect.

Fear will only enforce obedience for as long as they are children. When they grow up you'd better hope they don't decide to teach you how to respect them with fear and physical abuse.

Answer 6

No hitting is not a good way to disipline children at all. Like the lady above me said, hitting will teach the kid how to be violent? Actually, I don't know if people actually think what could happen if the child got really badly hurt.

Answer 7

have you ever seen the film the 'horse whisperer' . its about a guy who grows up watching horses being physically broken in and beaten into submission until they 'learn' to be ridden, then he adopts an appraoch where he makes emotional contact with the horse using body language and the horse does what he 'asks' by willingness alone and not through physical pain. nanny 911 is also a good way to understand how children think and learn Beating someone will make people do what you say but they wont respect you for it. its also very wrong

Answer 8

I am a 38 y/o father with 6 kids. Believe me, sometimes smacking your kid on the a** for doing something dumb is just the way it is. Most of my friends were raised in the southern u.s. where their parents used to make them cut a switch off a tree so mom or dad could get that butt. I don't agree w/ that, but sometimes spanking is appropriate.

Answer 9

Without the stick the westerners has no respect for elders, they abuse them, don't care for them when they are old , don't have any culture, and most of them use drugs.
Where as the asian stay with the family, learn value of life from their parents, and in returns they care for them when they are old,
The Americans has only limited education that they have to import teachers from aboard and thats the fact.

Answer 10

i think they sometimes want to hit their kids but the law prohibits them so they don't do it. i think western culture is overly democratic when it comes to child rearing. american kids know what 911 is, asian kids don't (or at least they do in a lesser degree).

i don't know which is more right. asian kids like to live with parents after college graduation. parents have to ask them to start their families. western kids don't want to come home to stay with parents.

i think both methods are right. whatever works for you, do it, as long as you get good results... although i must say that i don't favor hitting.

we don't actually call it hitting. we call it "rod of discipline."