Is it better to know details that will hurt you or not know and go on love and forgiveness for whatever it is?

Answer 1

I have a quotation for you.

"The certainty of pain is not as bad as the pain of uncertainty."

Answer 2

If I were the one who committed the hurt, I would not tell them but seek more into why I did it. Why hurt someone else just to ease my guilt? If I decided that I committed the hurt because I really was not happy in my current situation, I would ease out of the relationship and never tell. If I decided that I made a terrible mistake out of fear or "wanting to make sure he was the one" I wouldn't tell....but I would never do it again.

If I were the one hurt, I wouldn't want to know the details.
I think you need to find out why it happened, rather than the details. Knowing the details is only going to hurt you more and give you a permanent visual in your head that will never go away. If your relationship is worth fighting for then find out why and fix whatever is lacking in the relationship.

Answer 3

I will assume were writing about infidelity.

Regardless there is pain with both options you suggest.

I think some couples can move on after but I think it take time, love and a great deal of patients.

To your question: I don't want to know all the details if I'm going to try and work it out. To be haunted by thinking that they did it this way or that way would just kill me. It will make it harder to move on.

If you have this secret... If you want to stay in the relationship then keep it from your partner. Make a promise to yourself not to do it again and move on. Safe yourself and your relationship.

If you're trying to deside in your life, I wish you well.

Answer 4

I would say it depends on if what it is. I mean do you really need the details of something your already finding unpleasant. If a person is asking you to love and forgive them for something but won't tell you what it is, then I would say BEWARE! These are the people who are habitual offenders, and if they don't have to give you any details or tell you exactly what they've done, it'll just make it easier the next time, so really your call! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Honesty is the best policy, but sometimes it's best to keep certain details to yourself. I prefer to go on with love and forgiveness that way I can move on. Many blessings.

Answer 6

Well, I suppose it depends on if the "hurt" out weighs the "fool" or not.

I feel it's better to know and hurt from it, than to walk around having others know and me looking like a damned fool.

HURT makes on stronger. It's a part of life. NOT knowing something is also a part of life, but if it involves a relationship, you should know!

Answer 7

I don't think you need to know all of the detail. Move on and work out the main problem. Details will just muddy the water more, and take away the healing of the main problem.

Answer 8

There are no details here, so I'm taking a stab in the dark with my answer......

If you cheated on your spouce, and are wondering if you should tell him/her, my answer is no, as long as it is your intent to never reoffend. Telling them serves no purpose other than to relieve your guilt by sharing the pain......and it is the pain that is part of the punishment. You should share in that alone....

If you are searching for answers from your spouce....you might be causing more trouble than you should be.....and will hurt your relationship in the long run.

Answer 9

I can deal with truth, and fact. What I have a problem with, is half-truths, and deception. I would rather know details, and make an informed decision based upon them. Anything less than absolute truth and candidness does not work for me!

Answer 10

Not always. You may forgive but you may never forget no matter how hard you try. You mat never be able to completely trust again.

Answer 11

Depends on the actual facts and the status of your relationship.