I have told some people, and one who won't keep her mouth shut about it and refuses to actually tell the truth unless it's to her own gain, which was a GIANT mistake to tell her.
2007-02-27 01:35:39 · 18 answers · asked by Dorito 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm assuming you are saying that you want to tell them individually and not make a statement to the whole class. First off I am impressed that you have such a grasp on who you are at such a young age and I applaud your courage. You are learning a hard but valuable lesson about people and trust. I am not sure you understand the consequences to opening up to people about your sexuality especially at such a young age. We still live in a time where many people believe that homosexuality or bisexuality is immoral and many people will judge you or try and harm you. Please do not make the assumption that people will be open to your bisexuality. Some will be but most will not. Your peers are still very immature and will not be able to handle this in a adult way. Even many adults can not handle these issues in an adult way. You must be prepared for the type of abuse that will follow you outing yourself and I wish you much strength and courage. Never doubt who you are and know that you are a good person no matter what people will say. Best to you! One of my favorite quotes is from Larry Kramer (gay activist). Many people misunderstand him because he can come off as angry but he is a hero to many other people including me. The following quote is meant to lift us up and make us feel proud of who we are because for so long many people have demonized us:
"It’s so wonderful being a gay person. I said that before. I’m going to say it again. I love being gay. And I love gay people. I think we’re better than other people. I really do. I think we’re smarter and more talented and more aware and I do, I do, I totally do. And I think we’re more tuned in to what’s happening, tuned into the moment, tuned into our emotions, and other people’s emotions, and we’re better friends. I really do think all of these things. And I try not to forget them."
2007-02-27 03:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big speech to the class and flaunt it because it will be hard for people to relate to you and it puts a target on your back.
That being said dont hide it at all. Tell your friends be open when it comes up, own it and be proud cause its who you are. If people see that you are keeping it a secret or have a problem thats when they will tease you etc. Just own it like you'd own having green eyes or something. It is who you are and end of story, your friends know, if people ask you tell them the truth and thats that.
2007-02-27 12:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jacques C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude...don't make a big speech to the class. Maybe some people could care less. I mean, I see your point about stopping the rumor mill, but despite your efforts, some kids are just not going to let up. Ignore the cretins and remain true to sincere friends. It's the best you can do.
2007-02-27 09:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well 8th graders are necessarily known for maturity, so I would hold off on telling them altogether. Just wait until they grow a brain. Besides once you get to high school you'll find your own group of friends to hang out with. And you can tell them.
2007-02-27 11:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by The One and Only 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a bit young for labels. At your age, everything turns you on, probably. The older you get, the more you'll likely lean toward one or the other. Don't say anything, just smile a lot. Men of mystery are much more intriguing.
2007-02-27 10:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dorito, I urge you to keep this to yourself. It's nobody's business! IMO your to young to "emotionally" handle such a huge undertaking. I'm not sure why you feel so "compelled" to tell your entire class, (I'm bi-sexual myself, and I'm also 49 years old!) However, I would take it "slow", very slow. My "motto" is "Less is More". I hope this helps you? XOXO Moonpie
2007-02-27 09:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Metallicamoon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, who cares what is your sexual preference? Honestly, you have more important things to worry about (getting good grades, family, friends etc) than telling such a private thing about yourself to some immature kids. Don't tell a soul...
2007-02-27 09:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by David C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your sexual preference and orientation is strictly your business and nobody's else. Keep it to yourself. Sharing this information with one person was bad enough; to tell an entire class of students would be a gross error in judgment.
2007-02-27 09:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by Guitarpicker 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
dude i am gay and i am the first person to tell everyone i meet that i am gay,,because at first when you meet me i don't come across as effeminate so people don't assume that i am,,,but really bro its no one Else's business honestly,,and an eight grade class definitely doesn't need to know your personal business. something tells me you know this already
2007-02-27 16:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by fitboyfitboyfitboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure you should be telling them at all. That is something you should keep to yourself. I don't mean in the sense of being in the closet, but in terms of bringing it up at all!
2007-02-27 10:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by Tikhacoffee/MisterMoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋